My Husband Suggested Taking a Break to Test Our Feelings, So I Changed the Locks “You know, Helen, I think we’ve become strangers to each other. The routines have just swallowed us up. I’ve been thinking… maybe we need to live apart for a while.” Mike said it as casually as if he was suggesting we buy wholemeal bread instead of white for dinner. He didn’t even look up from his beef stew, dunking a bit of bread as he spoke. Helen froze at the cooker, ladle in hand, hot gravy trickling down her wrist, but she barely noticed the burn. It was as if someone had switched on a vacuum cleaner in her ears—everything was a blur. “What do you mean—apart?” she asked, trying to keep her voice steady as she put the ladle back in the pot, afraid her weak fingers would drop it. “Are you heading off on a business trip?” “No, not a business trip,” Mike grimaced, finally glancing her way. He looked tired, slightly annoyed, the look of someone forced to explain obvious things to a slow pupil. “I’m talking about a break. About testing our feelings. You know, the spark’s gone. I come home and feel… suffocated. It’s always the same: work, dinner, TV, sleep. I want to know if I’m really drawn to you, or if it’s just… habit.” Helen slowly sat down opposite him, twenty years of marriage flashing before her eyes. Two grown-up kids off at university in distant cities. The mortgage paid off three years ago. The home renovations they did themselves, spending weekends stripping wallpaper. And now this: “suffocated”? “And where are you planning to stay while you… test your feelings?” she asked quietly. “I’ve rented a flat. Just for a couple of months. It’s close to work, so I can avoid the traffic,” he said, a little too quickly, as if rehearsed. “I’ve already started packing. My things are in the bedroom.” So he’d had this planned for a while. While she’d been considering what bulbs to plant at the allotment this spring, or picking out a new jumper for him in the sales, he was flat-hunting. Paying deposits. Not saying a word. “And my opinion in all this?” Helen looked at her husband, searching his face for the young man she’d once married. Instead, a stranger sat there—a greying, slightly pudgy man avoiding her eyes. “Helen, don’t start with the drama,” Mike pushed away his spoon. Appetite gone, apparently. “I’m not suggesting divorce. Not yet. Just a pause. Loads of couples do it these days. Psychologists recommend it. Maybe we’ll realise we can’t live without each other and have a second honeymoon. Or maybe… well, at least we’ll get some honest answers.” He stood up, tossed his napkin on the table, and went off to the bedroom. Helen listened to him opening wardrobes, rustling plastic bags. She sat in the kitchen, staring at the cooling stew—his favourite, with beans, just as he liked it—feeling a vast, icy emptiness grow inside her. The rest of the evening was a daze. Mike bustled around, ferrying bags to the hallway. He took the laptop, the coffee machine (which had been a gift from her workmates, but which he used the most), and his winter clothes. “I’m off,” he said, standing at the door in his jacket, looking both triumphant and a little guilty. “Don’t call me for now. Let’s agree: a month of radio silence, to keep the experiment clean.” “What if there’s a burst pipe?” Helen asked, hearing the absurdity in her own voice. “Call a plumber. You’re a grown woman, you’ll cope. I’ll keep my keys, just in case I need to pop in for something urgent. Okay, that’s it. Don’t miss me too much.” The door clunked shut. The lock clicked. Helen was alone in a flat that suddenly felt oppressively big and terrifyingly quiet. For three days she did nothing but lie in bed, only getting up for water or the bathroom. She felt like her life was over, endlessly replaying the past months in her mind. Was she too fussy about his socks? Had she put on too much weight? Gotten too boring? On the fourth day, her sister Sarah arrived, blowing in like a whirlwind with bags of groceries and a bottle of wine. Seeing Helen—tear-streaked, in her dressing gown, with greasy hair—she simply shook her head. “Right, love, this won’t do. Get up, have a shower. I’ll slice the cheese.” An hour later, wine glass in hand, Helen recounted her conversation with Mike. Sarah listened, eyes narrowed. “A ‘test of feelings’, was it? ‘Suffocated’ is he? Helen, you’re the savviest woman I know—bookkeeper brain, always doing the maths. Yet here you can’t put two and two together. He’s got someone else.” “Oh, don’t be silly,” Helen waved her off. “Who’d want him? He’s fifty-two, has a bad back and indigestion.” “Darling, please! Indigestion never got in love’s way, especially during a mid-life crisis. ‘Rented a studio’, ‘don’t call for a month’—it’s textbook. He wants to try living with her, without burning his bridges. Maybe she can’t cook stew or refuses to do his laundry. You’re his backup plan. If it works out there—you get divorce papers. If not, he comes crawling back with flowers saying he realised you’re the only one he loves. Either way, be prepared.” Sarah’s words hit Helen like heavy stones. She tried to deny it, defend Mike, but deep down she knew her sister was right. The changed phone password, nights working late, new shirt bought without moaning. “So what do I do?” Helen asked, realising that anger was slowly displacing despair. “What do you do? You live!” Sarah thumped the table. “And live well. Get a haircut. Buy yourself something nice. And stop waiting for his call like it’s a winning lottery ticket. The flat’s whose, anyway?” “Mine. My childhood home,” Helen said automatically. “He’s still technically registered at his mum’s—we never got round to all the paperwork.” “Even better. Means you hold the cards. Don’t sit around drowning in tears. Surprise him.” After Sarah left, Helen wandered the flat, unable to sleep, switching on all the lights. In the bathroom, she found his shaving cream. On impulse, she chucked it in the bin. The hollow thud sounded like the first shot in a personal war. The next two weeks were strange. Helen forced herself back to work. Colleagues noticed she’d lost weight and seemed down, blaming it on the spring blues. But Helen started seeing things she’d ignored before. Without Mike the flat was cleaner. Nobody left crumbs on the side or draped jeans over chairs. The fridge stayed full and she barely needed to cook—salad was enough most nights. Her evenings were her own. She rediscovered her love for knitting, started a scarf while watching Netflix. The silence stopped being scary, turning soothing instead. No one droned on about politics, no one switched the channel when she was enjoying a film. Yet doubts remained. What if Sarah was wrong? What if Mike really was alone, missing her? The answer arrived one Friday evening. Helen, heading to buy some new wool, rode the escalator in the shopping centre—and spotted them. Mike stood by a jewellery shop window, a young woman—no more than thirty, bright red coat—clinging to his arm. He grinned at her with the same smile he’d given Helen, twenty years ago. He gestured towards a bracelet and the woman laughed, tossing back her hair. They looked utterly content. Helen stepped behind a tall man. Her heart hammered, thudding in her temples. She watched her husband—supposedly ‘testing his feelings’—cuddle someone else and lead her out, arm around her waist. Something inside Helen finally died. And at the same moment, something new was born—cold, strong, unbreakably calm. She didn’t cause a scene or follow them. She simply went home. First, she fetched her flat’s deeds. Her name. The gift letter from her mother. Only her and her children listed on the electoral roll. Mike still registered at his mum’s, always brushing off the paperwork as a hassle. She found a locksmith online. “Hello, I need to change the locks urgently… Yes, I’ve got the deeds. When can you come? In an hour? Perfect.” The locksmith, burly and businesslike, arrived promptly. “Best lock you’ve got,” Helen said. “I want it secure. Even if someone’s got an old key, they can’t get in.” “Understood, madam. We’ll fit a Yale anti-snap. Burglar-proof—never mind your husband with a copy.” The drill’s whine was music to Helen’s ears. Old metal shavings fell on the mat as the old lock clattered to the floor. With every turn of the screwdriver she felt more of her old pain, old dependence, old ‘making herself convenient’ falling away too. When the locksmith left, handing over a set of shiny new keys, she locked the door. Once, twice, three, four turns—four solid walls of her new fortress. She gathered up the rest of Mike’s things—winter coats, shoes, fishing tackle, tools—into giant bin bags and left them outside her door in the shared hallway. A week passed. Nothing from Mike—he was busy ‘testing his feelings’ with his new flame, seemingly. Helen filed for divorce online. Surprisingly easy. The doorbell rang one Saturday morning—insistent, urgent. Helen peered through the spyhole. Mike, looking a bit dishevelled but rather self-satisfied, holding a shopping bag and a bunch of carnations. Helen didn’t answer. She pressed her forehead to the cold door and waited. Mike tried his key. Metal scraped metal—blocked. He tried again, then again, finally examining the key in confusion. “Helen! Helen, you home? What’s up with the lock?” She stayed silent. “Helen, open up! I know you’re in! Your car’s out front!” He started banging. “Enough with the jokes! I’m back! With flowers! We agreed a month, but I came early—I missed you!” Helen took a deep breath and said loud and clear through the door: “Your stuff’s in the black bags by the door. Take it and go.” There was silence as Mike digested this. Then the sound of shuffling—he’d found the bin bags. “Have you lost your mind?” his voice turned shrill. “What are you playing at? Open up! I’m your husband! I have a right to come in!” “This isn’t your home anymore, Mike,” Helen answered calmly. “It’s my flat. You’re not even on the tenancy. You wanted to live separately. Fine. Now you live separately. For good.” “You… you changed the locks? How could you? I’ll call the police! Fire brigade! Break down the door!” “Go on,” Helen said. “Show them your proof of address. Tell them about your midlife experiment. I’m sure the local copper will have a laugh.” “What woman? You’re imagining things! I was living alone!” “I saw you at the shopping centre, Mike. Jewellery shop. Red coat. Stop lying. The experiment’s over. Result: negative.” Swearing erupted. He kicked the door. “You’ll regret this! You’ll end up alone, you silly cow! Who’s going to want you at forty-five? I was doing you a favour, coming back! I’ll sue you for half the house! The car! The holiday home!” “We’ll split the car and summer cottage in court, like adults,” Helen replied. “But you’re not getting the flat. Go, Mike, or I’ll call the police and report an aggressive intruder.” He stomped and yelled, banged and cursed, flung his wilted carnations at the door, and eventually dragged his bags to the lift with a final “Cow!” Helen slid down the door until she sat on the floor, legs trembling. Her tears, when they came, were hot and cathartic—not of grief, but release. After ten minutes, she washed her face and looked in the mirror. The woman looking back had tired eyes, but her chin was lifted with pride. Her phone pinged: a message from Sarah—“So, did our Romeo make an appearance? I saw his car out front.” Helen typed back: “He’s been. Took his things. New locks are perfect.” “Good girl! I’m proud of you! I’ll pop over with cake later—we’ll celebrate your new start.” Helen went to the kitchen, put the kettle on. Out in the hallway, she could see those unwanted carnations through the spyhole. How typical: after twenty years, he still didn’t remember she hated carnations. She liked tulips. A month later, the divorce went through quickly—grown-up children, no drama. The holiday home sold and split, the car went to Mike (with compensation to Helen, which paid for a holiday.) Mike’s “muse” dumped him as soon as it became clear there was no comfy flat and a messy property split on the cards. The rented studio was too expensive, so he moved back in with his mum, to his old council flat on the estate. Helen heard all this third-hand and didn’t care. She’d just returned from her first solo holiday in Turkey; she’d bought a bright new dress and—perhaps—a flirtation with a dashing German. Nothing serious, but enough to remind her she was still a vibrant woman. One evening, returning from work, a familiar voice called out by the entrance. “Helen?” Mike, thinner now and crumpled in a shabby windbreaker, stood by the bench looking battered. “Hi,” she said, slowing but not stopping. “Helen, can we talk? I was stupid. I made a mistake. The devil got into me. My mum nags me every day—I miss our home, your stew… Can’t we start over? We can’t just throw away twenty years…” Helen looked at him—and realised she felt… nothing. No anger, no hurt, no pity. Just emptiness. Like a passer-by asking for spare change. “You can’t just throw away twenty years,” she agreed. “But the past belongs to the past. I’ve got a new life now, Mike. No room for old mistakes. Or for you.” “But I’ve changed! I’ve learnt my lesson!” “So have I,” she smiled. “I’ve discovered I’m not suffocated alone. I’m free.” She took out her new, gleaming keys and walked confidently to the entrance. The intercom chimed, letting her inside. The door closed behind her, shutting out Mike and his regrets. Riding up in the lift, Helen thought—maybe new wallpaper in the hallway, something bright and peachy. And a comfortable new armchair for her evenings in. Life was just beginning, and the keys to that life were in her own hands. Did you enjoy the story? Subscribe and give it a thumbs-up to catch more life tales. Leave a comment—did Helen do the right thing?