“I am married to a man who was previously married and has two children from that marriage. My husband separated a long time ago, but he is in contact with his ex-wife. Their communication is mostly about children. For the kids he pays child support and so still helps. In general, my husband is aware of all the events that occur with his children, with his ex-wife and even with his ex-mother-in-law.
And then I find out out of the blue that my husband decided to help his ex-wife financially. It turns out that his wifey(ex) has a lot of debt. Three years ago she took a bank loan to open a small business. But for unknown reasons, this business went bust. The loan is taken, but there is nothing to pay. The amount has already accumulated quite a bit. How could she have thought of transferring the property to her mother? Otherwise they would have ended up on the street together with the children because of the debts.
My husband found out about it recently and started tactfully hinting at me. Here, his ex-wife has debts, and there are my children. And it would not hurt to help her with the money. Otherwise, I will not be able to pay the amount until my retirement. And all the debts will be passed on to the children.
And yesterday he said:
“I’ll give my ex-wife half of my salary every month so she can pay it off as soon as possible… How do you feel about that?
Even my eye twitched at the news.
-Aren’t you confused, my dear hubby? Who is she that you should help her? She’s no one to you anymore, she’s a stranger to you. What kind of help?
He wouldn’t let up:
-Well, my children are there, the debt will go to them in case of something. I have to help.
I told him that you are already paying child support and transferring money on top of that. So your children are well provided for. And let the ex work out her own debts. What’s that got to do with you? I don’t agree. Why do we have to cut ourselves any slack to help your ex-girlfriend? No, don’t even think about it!
My husband was silent, offended at me… So what, am I wrong?”.
