My husband wants to take his sick grandmother to live with him. The thing is that many doctors have already confirmed that she has a very serious illness, and she is not going to be cured anymore. Sometimes she is delirious and periodically loses her memory.
Then her memory comes back to her. She leaves the house and forgets where her house is. Then we have to look for her. She behaves very strangely, sometimes making incomprehensible noises. I told my husband it’s just not possible. We have small children, a two-room apartment, and Grandma can’t live with us.
The thing is, my husband was raised by my grandmother because my father was in prison all the time and my mother was drinking. He has a sister who lives with her drunk mother in a one-room apartment, and a brother who rents an apartment. My husband thinks he should be the one to take my grandmother in. And I can’t leave my grandmother alone, because she might hurt herself.
I understand that the situation is hopeless, but I can’t risk my life and the lives of my children either. But my husband believes that it is his direct responsibility to take my grandmother in.
He was reminded that this is my apartment, and I decide whether grandma can live or not, and I think she can’t live with us. My husband took great offense that I reminded him whose apartment it was, packed his things, said we were getting a divorce, and went to live with my grandmother.
I really hope he comes to his senses and comes back, because I don’t want to destroy our family, but I can’t endanger our children either. I really hope my husband understands too and comes back to the family soon. I have said many times that we can afford to hire a caregiver for Grandma. Why he won’t agree, I can’t understand.
