My grandmother raised me, but now my parents have decided I should pay them maintenance.
My parents live in Surrey, while I reside in Yorkshire. We havent seen each other in over twenty years. Both are artists who sing in a choir, and their lives have been spent travelling from gig to gig. When I turned five, I went to live with my grandmother. She wanted a simpler life with a child and therefore moved to stay with relatives up in Yorkshire.
At first, James and Elizabeth visited us two or three times a year, but their visits grew rarer until they stopped altogether. Eventually I stopped thinking about them, and our contact broke off. While I was studying dentistry, I married in my third year.
Now, together with my husband Thomas, we run our own dental practice and earn a good living. A year ago my father and mother resurfaced. They started calling the clinic because they didnt even have my phone number. Their conversations consisted mainly of complaints about how miserable their lives were.
I listened to all their grievances and reminded them that they had chosen this path when they handed their daughter over to my grandmothers care. Occasionally they sent a few pennies to my grandmother, but for the most part she and I survived on her pension. She would repeat that truth to me, and I understood it, because we both had to scrimp and save.
At school I performed well so I would have something to live on and proper clothes to wear, and I took night shifts as a hospital helper. Today I feel I have my own life, and my parents have theirs; let each person walk their own road.
When James and Elizabeth realised I wasnt going to support them financially, they threatened to sue for maintenance. Their words finally pushed me further away. If I ever doubted the righteousness of my decision or still entertained the idea of helping them, that moment erased any lingering thoughts.
Is it right for me to stand firm, or ought I to help my parents after all? Perhaps the answer lies in the simple truth that love sometimes means letting go and trusting that each of us must walk our own path.












