When my father told me that he was going to get married, I was speechless. Wait a minute, he was already 72 years old at that time!
Before that, my father had been single for 20 years, because that’s how long it had been since my mother passed away. I moved away from my father and mother 30 years ago when I started building my own family. Of course, I do not forget about him and my wife and children and I visit him on holidays and in the summer. I am very lucky that my dad is a tough nut and does not complain about his health, so he can handle everything on his own, although my wife and I still come when we need to plant a garden or chop wood for the winter.
And recently he told me on the phone that it was time to bring home a hostess! It turned out to be his classmate, they used to be good friends, but after school they went to different cities and did not see each other, and now in their old age and loneliness they decided to unite their fates again! Isn’t this a mockery of us?
When I heard about my dad’s marriage, I immediately told him that he could not expect us and the children to be there to celebrate, but that did not stop him. A few months ago they got married and had a small evening celebration. What was he missing in his old age that he couldn’t live like this to the end?
The fact is that my father’s house is very large, he has a lot of land and a good farm, and his bride has many grandchildren and children who would be happy to take this property for themselves. And so I have a lot of questions about whether this marriage is not just about profit.
My wife and I have a three-room apartment for which we have been paying the mortgage for half our lives, but we have two children and I was convinced that we would leave the apartment to the older one and give the younger one his father’s house, and now it is not clear who will get it.
We haven’t visited my father in six months, and somehow we don’t want to after he started building a new life. Relatives often call us and tell us that we are doing the wrong thing and should be happy for my father that he has found happiness at this age. Of course, I would be happy for my father, if not for the thought that this woman just wants to use him in a mean way, and in the future we will have to compete with a bunch of her relatives for the house where I spent half my life…
I don’t know what to do, but I can’t ignore my father anymore, and I don’t have the strength to pretend that everything is fine. What can you advise me on how to get out of this situation?
