Somehow I wanted to give myself a vacation, but my relatives on this account was a different opinion. Now my relatives are waiting for me to apologize, but I don’t feel any guilt.
I recently managed to finally close the mortgage completely. Before that, I had worked for five years without a break at several jobs. I was so tired that I literally fell off my feet, I had no energy left for my beloved. I had a goal – to close the mortgage as quickly as possible, and I did for that everything I could and that I could not do too.
And then came the long-awaited day when I became the rightful owner of the apartment and was finally able to throw off the mortgage yoke, left one place of work and began planning for the upcoming vacation. I wasn’t dreaming of traveling, more than anything else I wanted to get some sleep and give myself a bunch of nice little things like: reading my favorite books, watching shows, and other nice little things.
I did not hide from anyone that I was going on vacation soon. My mother, my aunt, and my sister knew about my plans, and I invited them over for tea and cake to celebrate the fact that I was able to close the mortgage.
– How wonderful that you have a vacation coming up, I need you to help me do some general cleaning in the apartment.
– At least you’ll be able to have a little rest, and we have gorgeous nature at our dacha, the air is healing: you’ll come, help me tidy up the beds, then we’ll roast some meat, heat up the banya…
– You’ll have a talk with your niece, otherwise she won’t even be able to recognize you. She’s almost independent already, she’s much easier to deal with. You’ll take a young fighter’s course, and my husband and I will go to a friend’s house to have a little distraction and relaxation.
I was not impressed with my in-laws’ plans for my vacation. I nodded to them with a smile on my lips, not saying yes or no, but not arguing either. When I went on vacation, I just unplugged the phone and the intercom, and before that I sent out messages to all my in-laws telling them when I would be in touch again, and then my vacation began.
When I got my dream come true, I realized how much I needed it all. I felt like I was flying instead of walking. I wanted to sleep in and not worry about anything-it was the most perfect cure for stress. My life was filled with new colors after this vacation.
However, my barrel of honey was not without a proverbial fly in the ointment. My relatives were very angry with me. My mother and sister held a grudge against me, although my aunt didn’t seem to have any serious complaints against me.
They reproached me that I had promised to help them, but I had not kept my promise, and they had already made plans, but then I had not lived up to their expectations. It wasn’t that I ignored the battle for my native land, just that I wouldn’t help my mother do the general cleaning, babysit my sister’s baby while she and her spouse had their fun.
I tried to explain to my in-laws that I was very tired and needed to rest, but they wouldn’t listen to me. They firmly believed that fulfilling their requests was supposed to give me a lot of pleasure and I should burn with shame that I had ignored them. At the same time, my relatives were completely uninterested in my feelings and emotions. Well, nothing wrong with that, if I instead of two weeks rested only one, but I would have helped them.
After that, my relatives told me that they would never help me again either. You would have thought that all they did was help me. I haven’t seen any help from them in years, and I don’t think I ever will in the future.
My mother expects me to apologize, but I won’t do it on principle. I don’t consider myself guilty of anything. My mother’s cleaning didn’t go anywhere, it was just that my mother went on principle and wanted to shame me. And I didn’t need it, and I wasn’t going to feel guilty. Simply put, you have to be prepared for the fact that if you don’t let your relative sit on your neck, she can be mortally offended by you!
