My daughter in distress: tears and searching for life’s purpose
I am a mother of two children—a son and a daughter. I have been a widow for many years. My husband lived long enough to see our grandchildren born, but sadly, he passed away before our children decided to marry.
Our family has always respected traditions. We believed that if two people love each other and want to be together, then an official marriage—whether civil or church—is necessary.
However, my children held different views. Every time I tried to persuade them to formalize their relationships, they just chuckled, calling my beliefs outdated. They assured me that their love didn’t need stamps or ceremonies, that a legal document wouldn’t change their feelings.
But life, sadly, confirmed my fears in the harshest way.
One early morning, I heard a knock at the door. Standing there was my daughter, Sarah. She had a suitcase in one hand, held her three-year-old daughter with the other, and next to her, a baby slept in a pram. Her eyes were brimming with tears.
“Mom, can I stay with you for a day with the kids? Matthew kicked us out… He’s got someone else…” her voice quivered.
I was shocked. How could he do such a thing? Sarah had given him two wonderful children! I wanted to confront him and demand an explanation right away. But when I saw the state my daughter was in, I embraced her, kissed her, and decided not to raise the topic at that moment.
Sarah graduated from university with a degree in education, but she never started working. Matthew, her partner, insisted she stay at home:
“I don’t need your money. I want to come home to a cozy house, have homemade meals, and wear clean shirts. I will provide for the family.”
I decided to call Matthew. I asked him about the family and the future. He calmly replied:
“My heart belongs to someone else now. I will support the children, but Sarah is my past.”
Since then, he sends us a small amount of money each month. My pension barely covers all of us. Sarah is in a state of depression, constantly crying, and she sees no future.
Now she understands how important it was to officially establish their relationship. Marriage is not just a symbol of love; it is protection, especially for women.
I appeal to all parents: convince your children of the importance of marriage. This “trend” of living together without commitments can lead to tragedies. Families should be based on traditions and laws. Only then can we protect our children and grandchildren from such hardships.
