Honestly, let me tell you, I turned to my mother-in-law and just told her straight: Your son is a grown man! And I meant itshed just asked him again which pants he was wearing, if you can believe it. Oh, and by the way, hed just turned thirty last week! Shes got this need to micromanage his every move, and to top it off, she seems to think Im just a nobody.
It never ceases to amaze me how much she tries to run his life, but Id reached my limit. Its got to the point that my husband would quit his job just because his mum didnt approve of the company he worked for. And when hes job-hunting, she simply hands him cash. Shes well-off, obviously, but its not how I want to livewith a perfectly healthy husband relying on handouts from his mum.
One time, we were getting ready for a wedding, and my husband bought himself a new suitsomething smart but affordable. But as soon as his mother saw it, she completely lost it because it wasnt some expensive brand. So, what does she do? Gives him cash and sends him back out to buy a proper one.
More recently, she gave us a flat, but naturally, its all in her name. That doesnt really bother me, but she insists on decorating it to her own taste. How am I supposed to feel at home if I cant even choose the loo seat, you know?
Sure, most people would say we should be grateful. But honestly, it feels like she just wants to remind me shes in charge. She does anything and everything for her son, and lets face it, he seems perfectly content not to utter a word against her.
A few weeks ago, my own mum came to visit from the countryside. She was planning to stay with us. But as soon as my husband saw her, he just went, Lets make my mum a cup of tea and then get her a taxi to your aunts place. Turns out, his mother had told him to keep my own mum away from me, just in case she was a bad influence.
My mum does have family in town, but she came to see me, so she ought to stay with me, right?
So you know what I did? I packed my things, and off I went together with my mum. I have no regretsId finally had enough of jumping through hoops for people who just look down their noses at me.
Take it from me, never get involved with a mummys boyits just not worth the heartache!
