I have the best mother in the world! She gave birth to me too early – barely 16. All my relatives were horrified, only my parents supported her. As a result, I was born the best and calmest baby in the world.
I was raised on my feet by my whole family. My parents took care of my mother’s education, so we didn’t end up poor. Thanks to my mother’s work, we didn’t save money, and as a consequence, we didn’t fight or scandalize.
Eventually I grew up, I was 16 and knocked up. Only my boyfriend was decent – he took responsibility and married me. I gave birth at 17. My mother ended up becoming a grandmother at 33. Only she wasn’t desperate – she was experiencing happiness. And we were raising a child again as a family. I, too, finished my studies and got a great job.
Today my baby is 12, and I got pregnant for the second time. And everything was good. Except the key word is “was.
A little while ago my mother decided to have her second baby. I questioned her – I wanted to know what it was for. As it turned out, she fell in love with a man. Only he has a wife and doesn’t want to leave his family. I am shocked. No amount of talking helps. In addition, the mother told me that she had already gotten pregnant. And she did not want to get rid of the baby – she was going to have a second baby.
So we sat down and cried. And we cried because her mother’s man is not going to marry her, recognize the baby and give her money to support him. You want it, you have to deal with it. And he has enough kids.
In the end, Mom gets upset. I could have encouraged her, supported her, but there’s nothing I can do. She’s in love, pregnant and abandoned – how much worse can it get.
I keep thinking about the fact that when her baby is born, even her acquaintances and neighbors will laugh at Mom, despise her. After all, she’s not just going to be a single mother, she’s going to give birth in her fifth decade. And we have a small town, so everyone will know everything soon enough.
I support her in every way I can. After all, if I am also angry, resentful, she will not stand – will break. Grandma and Grandpa have no idea yet that they will become grandparents once again. My mother has asked me not to tell them anything yet.
It seems to me that she is thinking about getting rid of the baby. Even I do not know whether to discourage her or support her. I’m afraid, but I pity my mother. After all, she’s worried, only what to do? Everyone is against her having the baby. I think she has already had time to love this unborn baby. So what do we do? Get rid of it or try to raise it? She has to decide for herself.
I told my husband, he’s the only breadwinner. He reacted surprisingly calmly. He is not afraid of difficulties. He says that where there are two children, there is room for a third. But I’m still afraid. For nothing?
