“It Doesn’t Seem Right That Your Children Will Have Homes While My Son Won’t—Let’s Get Him His Own Place with a Mortgage!”

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It doesnt look right that your children will have homes of their own, while my son wont. Lets sort him out with a house using a mortgage!

Recently, my husband, David, remarked that my children would have their own flats, but his son wouldnt, and that we should consider how to make sure he has a place of his own. Its worth explaining that my children are both mine and Davids, whereas Davids elder son is from his first marriage.

I dont see why this should be my responsibility, or why I should worry about arranging a flat for him. Of course, I knew before marrying David that hed been married once and had a child. Thats why I wasnt in any rush to tie the knot with him.

We lived together for three years before we got married. I took my time observing Davids feelings towards his ex-wife and son. A year later, I had our son. Two years after that, our second son was born.

All in all, Im perfectly happy with David as both a husband and father. He spends time with me and the children, and he earns well. Of course, disagreements happen sometimes but thats normal in every family, I think.

Weve been living in the flat I inherited from my late father. My mother divorced him when I was still in nursery. Since then shes remarried, but didnt have any more children with her second husband.

David and his first wife always rented they tried to save for a mortgage for years, but it never came together. After their divorce, she moved back in with her parents, and David carried on renting until he moved in with me after our wedding.

Neither of us ever made a fuss about whose place it was we just lived together, did up the flat, bought new furniture, and got on with life. Then, about eighteen months ago, both my grandmothers passed away in quick succession Mums mum and Dads mum. They both left their flats to me in their wills.

While our boys are still young, I decided to let the two flats out. Later, when theyre older, each of them will get one. At the moment, the rent from one goes straight to my mum a little extra for her pension. The other tops up my own salary. After all, you can never have too much money.

David never got involved in any of this with the flats theyre nothing to do with him, after all. I told him years ago that when our boys grow up, Ill give each of them a flat. He agreed. That was that end of discussion.

Suddenly, though, David turns to me and says, My sons finishing secondary school in a few years. Hell be an adult, and he needs to start thinking about the future!

I didnt quite see where he was going with this, but I let him continue.

Your children will have homes, but my son wont! Lets buy him a flat with a mortgage! he said out of the blue.

I was genuinely taken aback. I had dozens of questions. For starters, I asked why our children were suddenly being referred to as just mine. David asked me not to split hairs.

But my son will never inherit anything. I want him to have a flat of his own! he insisted.

Its good youre thinking of him but your sons got both his parents. Why cant his mother sort that out? I replied.

David explained that his ex-wife doesnt earn much, and her parents are constantly helping her. And he himself cant afford a mortgage. But if I help, everything will work out. Apparently, I was expected to agree for David to buy a flat on a mortgage for his son, with us footing the bill together, but the flat would be in his sons name and wed be the ones paying the mortgage.

We both have decent salaries, plus the rental income. Well manage! David argued.

Manage, maybe but only if we made loads of sacrifices. David also pays child support for his son. When his lad goes off to university, David will want to help again because his ex-wife cant afford to. The long and short of it is, thanks to this plan, my boys and I wont get holidays or trips to the seaside; well constantly be cutting back, just to make David look like a good father.

Id understand if David had been the one to provide my boys with their flats, and now wished to help his eldest similarly. But I was the one who inherited those flats for my sons David had nothing to do with it. Why should I pay a mortgage for his son?

I told David straight: if hes so worried about his son, let his ex-wife take out the mortgage and pay it off with the maintenance he provides.

But I wont be involved in it! I made it clear.

Now Davids sulking and hasnt spoken to me for a week. Its a shame he cant see my side.

LIFE BACK ON TRACK “Lada, I forbid you from speaking to your sister or her family! They have their life, we have ours. Did you call Natasha again? Complain about me? I warned you. Don’t blame me for what happens,” Bogdan snarled, gripping my shoulder painfully. As always, I silently retreated to the kitchen, bitter tears stinging my eyes. No, I had never burdened my sister with complaints about my life—our conversations were simply about our elderly parents and family matters. That infuriated Bogdan. He hated my sister Natasha; her family enjoyed peace and comfort, unlike us. When I married Bogdan, I was the happiest girl in the world. Swept up in his whirlwind of passion, I didn’t care that he was a head shorter or that his mother arrived at our wedding barely staying upright. I later learned she was a long-time alcoholic. Love blinded me to everything, but after a year, I started doubting my happiness. Bogdan drank heavily, stumbling home drunk, then came the string of affairs. My salary as a nurse wasn’t great, but Bogdan preferred spending his time with fellow drinkers, never caring to provide for me. Where once I had dreamed of children, now I contented myself with caring for our prize pedigree cat. I no longer wanted a child with an alcoholic. Still, I loved Bogdan. “You silly girl, Lada! There are so many men around you, and you obsess over that little man! What do you see in him? You’re always covered in bruises from his beatings. Think nobody notices your black eyes under makeup? Leave before he kills you,” my friend and coworker would warn me. Bogdan’s anger often became physical—one day he beat me so badly I couldn’t make my shift, locking me in the flat as he left. After that, I lived in fear of him, my heart racing whenever his key turned in the lock. It felt as though he was punishing me for not giving him a child, for being a “bad wife,” for everything. Why did I still love Bogdan? His mother, witch-like, used to admonish, “Lada, obey your husband, love him with all you have, forget your family and friends—they’ll bring you no good.” And so I withdrew from loved ones and submitted entirely to Bogdan. I lived for his tearful apologies, when he begged forgiveness at my feet, showered our bed with rose petals (stolen from a mate’s wife next door). These reconciliations felt magical, lifting me to the clouds—until the cycle of violence resumed. I might still be trapped if not for a twist of fate—a stranger appeared: “Leave Bogdan, I have his son. You’re barren; let me give my child happiness.” I screamed at her to leave, but Bogdan couldn’t deny her claim. When I demanded the truth, he was silent—and I understood everything. “Lada, you never seem happy. Is something wrong?” asked the head doctor at my hospital, Mr. Herman Lyon, previously aloof. “I’m fine,” I stammered. “It’s a blessing to have your life in order. Then the world is beautiful,” he replied, his simple words piercing my soul. I realised my life was chaos—and time, running out, wouldn’t pause for me to sort myself. Eventually, I left Bogdan and moved back in with my parents. Mum was shocked: “Lada, has your husband thrown you out?” “No, Mum. I’ll explain everything later.” Bogdan’s mother called to hurl insults and curses, but I felt free and new, thanks to Mr. Lyon. Bogdan raged, stalked, threatened—but he never guessed he’d lost all hold over me. “Bogdan, don’t waste your time—I’ve moved on. Your son needs you. I’ve turned a new page. Goodbye.” At last, I returned to Natasha and my family. I became myself again, not someone’s puppet. “You’ve changed, Lada—you’re glowing, so full of life, you look like a bride!” my friend exclaimed. Mr. Lyon proposed: “Lada, marry me! I promise you won’t regret it. But please, just call me by my name—save the formalities for work.” “Do you really love me, Herman?” I asked, stunned. “Oh, forgive me—women want to hear it. I suppose I do love you. But I believe in actions more than words,” he answered, kissing my hand. “I will, Herman. I’m sure I can learn to love you,” I beamed. Ten years flew by. Every day, Herman proved his love—no empty words, no lies, just caring and generosity. We never had children of our own, but it never bothered Herman. “We were meant to be just the two of us, and that’s enough,” he always reassured me. His daughter gave us a beloved granddaughter, Sasha, who became the joy of our lives. As for Bogdan, he eventually drank himself to death before he turned fifty. His mother still glares at me if we meet, but her malice no longer touches me. I only pity her. And with Herman, life truly is back on track. Life is beautiful…

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We’re Moving Into Your Flat — Olivia’s got a gorgeous flat in the city centre. Just had a makeover, it’s a dream place! — Perfect for a single girl, — Rustam smiled patronisingly at Anna, as if she were a child. — But we want a big family — two, no, even three kids. One after another, if possible. It’s noisy in the centre, there’s no fresh air, no parking. And the worst part — only two rooms. But here — three! Quiet neighbourhood, plus a nursery right in the courtyard. — It is a wonderful area, — agreed Sergei, still not quite grasping where his future brother-in-law was going with all this. — That’s why we settled here. — Exactly! — Rustam snapped his fingers. — I keep telling Olivia: why cramp ourselves when there’s a perfect solution right in front of us? The two of you and your daughter have too much space here. What do you need all these rooms for? You barely use one of them — it’s a glorified storage cupboard! For us, though — it’s ideal. Anna tried to wedge the vacuum cleaner into the impossibly narrow hallway cupboard. The vacuum battled back, snagging its hose on hangers and steadfastly refusing to fit in its designated home. — Sergei, help me out, will you! — she called toward the next room. — Either the cupboard’s shrunk or I’ve forgotten how to pack things away. Sergei poked his head out from the bathroom — he’d just finished fixing the tap. Calm, a bit slow-moving, he was everything his sprightly wife wasn’t. — Give it here, Anna. We’ll sort it out. He deftly grabbed the heavy machine and slotted it effortlessly into a corner. Anna gave a sigh of relief and leaned against the doorframe. — Tell me, why do we always run out of space? Three rooms, feels like a mansion, but every time we tidy up, it looks like we should just haul everything outside. — It’s your hoarding tendencies, love, — Sergei grinned. — Why do we need three dinner sets? We only use one and a half per year. — Leave them. They’re keepsakes. It’s grandmother’s flat, after all. After the wedding, Sergei’s parents split the inheritance fairly: He got this spacious three-bed in a quiet spot — granny’s old place; his sister Olivia the chic two-bed smack in the “golden square” of the city centre. Moneywise, it balanced out. Five years, everyone got on; nobody was jealous. Anna had naively thought it would always be this way, but… *** Spring-cleaning finished, chaos conquered, they slumped on the sofa. The TV went on. The doorbell rang almost instantly. Sergei went to answer. — It’s my sister and her boyfriend, — he called over his shoulder. Olivia flitted cheerfully through the door; behind her, lumbered Rustam. Anna had only met him twice: Olivia had picked him up at the gym six months ago. Rustam had never impressed — pompous and faintly disdainful. He always looked down his nose at both Anna and Sergei. — Hiya! — Olivia pecked her brother’s cheek and hugged Anna. — We were just passing and thought we’d pop in! And, big news! — Well, don’t just hover in the hall. News is always good, — Sergei gestured kitchen-ward. — Tea? — A glass of water, if that’s okay, — Rustam plodded in. — We’ve got something important to discuss, Sergei. They hadn’t just been ‘passing’. There was an agenda. Skip the tea — let’s get to business. Anna’s stomach knotted at Rustam’s tone. What is he up to? — Go on then, — Sergei said, shrugging. Olivia busied herself with her phone, left the talking to her fiancé. Rustam cleared his throat. — Here’s the thing. Olivia and I are engaged. Wedding’s in three months. It’s serious. Family and all that. We’ve taken a hard look at our living situation… We’ll move in here, and you can move into Olivia’s flat! Anna was gobsmacked. She stared at her husband, then at her sister-in-law, who kept scrolling as if the conversation had nothing to do with her. — Rustam, I’m not sure I follow, — Sergei frowned. — What exactly are you suggesting? — I’m not suggesting, I’m offering a practical, constructive solution. Let’s swap! We move here; you move into Olivia’s flat. Olivia’s on board with this — we both think it’s only fair. Anna was gobsmacked all over again. — Fair? — she repeated. — Rustam, are you serious? You waltz into our home and suggest we move out, just because you want to have kids? — No need to overreact, Anna, — Rustam grimaced. — I’m being realistic. You have one child, and as far as I know, you’re not planning on any more. So why cling to all this extra space? It’s wasteful. And we — we have plans. — Plans! Did you hear that? — Anna leaped up from her seat. — Sergei, he expects us to just uproot our life because it suits him! Sergei held up his hand for quiet. — Rustam, maybe you’ve forgotten that this flat was a gift from my parents, just as Olivia’s was for her. We spent five years doing it up, every skirting board picked by us. Our daughter’s growing up here — her room, all her friends. And you want us to just pack everything up and move to the centre because it’s more convenient for you? — Come on, mate, — Rustam slouched back in his chair. — We’re family. Olivia’s your blood sister. Aren’t you even a tiny bit concerned about your sister’s future? I’m offering an equal swap — you’d have a flat in a prime location, probably more valuable, actually. — This is a laugh, — Sergei snorted. — You’re not even married to my sister yet and you’re already after my flat! Olivia finally looked up from her phone. — Oh honestly, — she whined. — Rustam’s only thinking of what’s best. We really will be cramped in my place with kids around. And you’ve got that huge corridor — big enough for a football pitch. Mum always said, ‘Family comes first’. Did you forget? — Mum said ‘help each other’, Olivia, not that one should chuck the other out of their home! — Anna snapped. — Do you even hear yourself? — He’s got a point, — Olivia batted her lashes. — We’d make better use. — It’s not spare! — Anna nearly yelled. — That’s my office! I work in there, remember? — Work, — Rustam snorted. — Uploading pictures to the internet? Olivia told me, that’s just a hobby. Just use the kitchen table. Not like you’re some CEO. Sergei stood up, slow and steady. — That’s enough, — he said quietly. — Please see yourselves out. Both of you. — Sergei, calm down, mate! — Rustam didn’t budge. — We’re just trying to talk things through, like a family. — Family? — Sergei stepped forward. — You stroll in here asking for my flat, insult my wife, and presume where my daughter should grow up? Do you even hear yourself? — Oh please, Sergei! — Anna moved to stand by her husband. — He’s not thinking about anyone but himself. Barely put a ring on Olivia’s finger and already carving up the inheritance! Olivia, do you realise the sort of bloke you’ve brought home? He’ll be the first to kick you out of your own flat! — Don’t talk about him like that! — Olivia barked back. — Rustam cares about our future! And you two… you’re just obsessed with your precious flat. So selfish. Some family! — The only selfish one here is your fiancé, — Sergei jabbed a finger at the door. — Let me spell it out: out. And forget the whole swap idea — ever bring it up again, and we won’t be talking at all. Rustam stood up, straightened his collar. Annoyed, not embarrassed. — Big mistake, Sergei. I thought we could do this sensibly. Clearly you’re not open to reason… Olivia, let’s go. When the door slammed, Anna flopped onto the sofa, shaking. — Did you see that? Did you? The nerve! Who does he think he is? Sergei said nothing. He stood at the window, watching as Rustam strode to his car, barking irritably at Olivia. — The worst bit? — he said eventually. — Olivia honestly thinks he’s right. She’s always been a little… naive. But this? — He’s got her totally brainwashed! — Anna shot up. — We need to ring your mum. Your parents need to know what their future son-in-law’s up to. — Wait, — Sergei pulled out his phone. — I’ll ring Olivia. Just her, no peacocks hovering behind. He called, rang for ages, then Olivia answered — crying. — Hello, — she sniffed. — Olivia, listen carefully, — Sergei’s voice was cold. — Are you in the car with him now? — What does it matter? — If he’s with you, put me on speaker. I want him to hear too. — He’s not. He dropped me off at the flat and drove off. Apparently my family are “selfish to the core”. Sergei, why can’t you just help us? He only wants what’s best… — Olivia, wake up! — Sergei nearly shouted into the phone. — He tried to blackmail us out of our home! Did you even realise this is your inheritance, your home? And he’s already making plans for it. Did he even mention this swap before today? Silence. — No, — she whispered. — He just said he had a surprise for everyone, a brilliant solution. — Some surprise. Decided your future for you—without even asking. Olivia, do you know what you’re getting yourself into? He’s a total freeloader. Today it’s your flat; tomorrow it’s your car’s too small, and by next week, he’ll want your parents’ holiday cottage signed over, because “he needs fresh air”. — Don’t say that… — Olivia’s voice shook. — He loves me. — Love? He just tried to turn us all against each other! Anna’s still in shock. He played us off; that’s what he did. — I’ll talk to him, — Olivia said uncertainly. — You do that. And think seriously before you walk down the aisle. Sergei hung up and tossed his phone onto the sofa. — What did she say? — Anna whispered. — She didn’t know. It was all Rustam’s “surprise”. Anna gave a bitter laugh. — Typical. Comes strutting in, shuffling people around like chess pieces. Flats here, people there. Ugh, makes my skin crawl. — Don’t worry, — Sergei assured her, wrapping an arm around her shoulders. — We’re not giving up this flat. Not a chance. But I feel bad for my sister. She’s heading for a train wreck. *** The worst didn’t happen. The wedding never came to be. Rustam left Olivia that very evening. Tear-stained, she showed up at Sergei’s in the night to explain. He’d come over, packed up, and announced he wasn’t marrying into a family of “misers”. — He said, “those kind of family aren’t worth having,” — Olivia sobbed. — Said we’d never help with the children or watch them on weekends so they could get a break. And we wouldn’t give them money if they asked. — Oh Olivia, don’t waste a tear, — Anna protested. — You don’t need a man like that! He’d never put you first. Family means nothing to him unless he gets something out of it. Good riddance! Olivia moped for a few months, then seemed to move on. Hindsight kicked in later. How had she not spotted her fiancé’s true colours sooner? If she’d married him, she’d have been miserable for life. Clearly, fate was looking out for her.

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“It Doesn’t Look Good That Your Children Will Have Homes While My Son Won’t—Let’s Buy Him a Flat With a Mortgage!” Recently, my husband Anthony pointed out that my children have homes, but his son doesn’t—so we need to figure out how to get his son a flat, too. For context: my children are our children together, while Anthony’s son is from his first marriage. Why should it be my responsibility to worry about getting a home for his son? Of course, I’ve always known Anthony was previously married and had a child, which is partly why I wasn’t in any rush to marry him. We lived together for three years before tying the knot. I watched carefully how he felt about his ex-wife and his child. A year after marrying, we had our own son. Two years later, our second son. I’m happy with Anthony as a husband and as a father—he’s devoted time to me and our children and is a good earner. Naturally, we have the odd spat, but what family doesn’t? We lived in the flat I inherited from my father after my mother divorced him when I was little. Mum remarried but had no more children. Anthony and his ex-wife always rented, saving for a mortgage that never materialised. After their divorce, Anthony continued renting on his own, while his ex-wife moved back with her parents. When we married, Anthony moved in with me. We never focused on whose name was on the flat—we just did home improvements and shared everything. But about a year and a half ago, both my grandmothers passed away and left me their flats as well. While my boys are still young, I decided to rent those flats out. Later, each son will get a flat. Rental from one goes to help mum’s pension, the other supplements my salary. Anthony never interfered with my flats—they’re nothing to do with him. From the start, I told him clearly: one day, each of our sons gets a flat. He agreed, and that was that. Suddenly, Anthony comes out with: “My son finishes secondary school soon. He needs to start thinking about his future!” At first I didn’t know where he was going with this, but I listened. “Your kids have homes! My son doesn’t! Let’s buy my boy a flat with a mortgage!” Anthony blurted out. I was stunned! So many questions. Firstly—since when are our children only mine? Anthony asked me not to nitpick his words. “But my son will never inherit anything. I want him to have his own home!” “It’s great you care! But he has two parents—shouldn’t both be responsible for that? Why isn’t your ex-wife handling this?” Anthony tried explaining—his ex earns little and relies on her parents, and he simply can’t afford a mortgage alone. But if I help, we can manage it. He wants us to agree to a mortgage for his son, with the flat in his son’s name, and us footing the bill. “We both have good salaries, plus rental income—it’ll work!” Anthony insisted. We could just about manage, but we’d have to tighten our belts—a lot. Anthony pays child support, and when his son goes to university, he’ll help even more, since his ex can’t support him. So because of his son, our family will miss out: no nice holidays, no trips to the seaside—we’ll be scrimping on everything. All so Anthony looks like a great dad? I could understand if Anthony was the one who had provided flats for our kids and now wanted to do the same for his eldest. But that’s not the case—I provided those homes. Anthony has nothing to do with them. Why should I pay for his son’s mortgage? I told Anthony straight—if he’s so worried, let his ex take out the mortgage, and she can pay it with child support. “But I won’t be getting involved!” I said. Now Anthony’s furious with me and hasn’t spoken to me in a week. It’s such a shame he can’t see my point.

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Changed His Mind About the Wedding Archie spent long evenings in his laboratory, endlessly pouring mysterious liquids from one test tube to another and analyzing powders, steadfast in his belief that his diligent work would soon yield a breakthrough—a unique product extracted from the roots of a rare plant. At forty, the enthusiastic scientist was so absorbed in his research that he hardly noticed the admiring glances of young Sophie, the new cleaner at the institute. Driven by dreams of scientific fame, Archie was oblivious to the quiet hours Sophie spent leaning on her mop, watching him from the doorway. But one evening, Sophie plucked up her courage: “Mr. Archie Glen, you’ve been glued to that chair since morning. Fancy a cup of tea? I happened to bring my kettle—and some homemade sausages my mum sent from the village.” At the mention of sausages, Archie paused, intrigued. As Sophie fetched her container, Archie, the ever-thorough scientist, asked: “How long’s the food been in your rucksack today?” Flustered, Sophie replied, “Since this morning, but the changing room’s chilly—heating’s not even on yet!” Archie hesitated, worrying about food safety and microbial growth, yet the aroma eventually got the better of him. He found the sausage irresistible, and even complimented Sophie, who beamed with pride. Their unlikely friendship blossomed into an awkward romance. Archie, who had never paid women much mind in his forty years, now found himself distracted from his formulas and even plagued by scandalously vivid dreams about Sophie. Before visiting Sophie’s family, Archie made every effort: dressing up smartly, dabbing cologne, and letting Sophie tweeze out his grey hairs while he nervously anticipated meeting her mother. But from the moment they arrived at Sophie’s ramshackle countryside home, disaster struck. Her mother was hostile, appalled at Archie’s age, and deeply suspicious, while Sophie’s handsome young stepfather did nothing to ease the tension. Accusations flew, arguments erupted, and poor Archie fled the house as a chair whizzed by his ear—only to get lost in the snowdrifts and suffer a blood pressure spike. After a hectic scene involving a village paramedic, Archie realized he had landed in a world as unpredictable as it was uncomfortable. When Sophie tried to patch things up, Archie discovered his enthusiasm for rustic romance had well and truly vanished. Back in London, Archie was coldly polite, settling back into old habits—counting up food expenses, paying Sophie as a housekeeper, and sending her home after work with firm words and barely a glance. Whatever ideas he’d had about marriage had been thoroughly extinguished. He wasn’t getting married after all.

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Bitterness at the Bottom of My Soul “For ages now, the care home has been crying out for you! Get out of our family!” I screamed in a cracking voice. The object of my utter indignation was my cousin, James. God, I adored him as a child! Golden hair, cornflower-blue eyes, a cheerful spirit—that was James all over. …Relatives often gathered at our holiday table. Out of all my cousins, I singled out James. He could charm with his words and was a talented artist, too. Some evenings, he’d sketch five or six pictures in no time at all. I’d stare and melt, unable to tear myself away from the beauty. Quietly, I’d tuck his drawings away in my desk, treasuring my cousin’s art. James was two years older than me. When he turned 14, his mother died suddenly—she just didn’t wake up… The question arose—where would James go now? They rushed first to his biological father. Finding him wasn’t easy: James’s parents had long been divorced, and his dad had a new family—no intention of disrupting their peaceful life. The rest of the relatives just shrugged—they had their own cares and families. Turns out, family is everywhere during the day, but once the sun sets, you can’t find a trace. So, my parents, already with two children, became James’s guardians. After all, his late mother was my dad’s younger sister. At first, I was excited James would be living with us. But… On his very first day, something about his behavior made me uneasy. Mum, trying to comfort the orphan, asked, “Is there anything you’d like, James? Please, don’t be shy.” James answered right away, “A model train set.” Let me note: that toy was expensive. I was shocked—your mum’s gone, and all you want is a train set? My parents bought him his dream, and after that, it snowballed—”Buy me a cassette player, jeans, a branded jacket…” This was the Eighties. Not only was it expensive, but those things were hard to find. My parents, making sacrifices for their own kids, fulfilled the orphan’s every wish. And my brother and I understood—never complained. …When James turned 16, the girls started appearing. My cousin proved very amorous. More disturbing—he started pursuing me, his own cousin. But as an athlete, I dodged all his inappropriate advances. We even ended up fighting. I’d cry buckets. My parents never knew—I didn’t want to upset them. Children usually keep quiet about such things. After I pushed back, James quickly shifted his attention to my friends. They, by the way, competed for his affection. …James also stole—blatantly and shamelessly. I had a piggy bank, where I’d save for gifts for Mum and Dad. One day—it was empty. James denied it outright—never blinked or blushed. My soul was torn apart! How could he? Living in the same house and stealing? He vandalized our family’s bonds. I sulked, but James honestly didn’t see the problem. He thought everyone owed him. I came to hate him. That’s when I shouted at the top of my voice: “Get out of our family!” I lashed him with my words—said so much, you couldn’t collect it all. Mum barely managed to calm me. From that moment, James ceased to exist to me. I ignored him completely. Later, I learned the other relatives already knew what “piece of work” James was—they all lived nearby and had seen plenty. Our family lived in a different part of town. James’s former teachers had warned my parents: “Taking him in, you’re bringing trouble on yourselves—he’ll lead your own kids astray.” …At his new school, James met Kate, who would love him all her life. They married right out of school and had a daughter. Kate patiently endured his outbursts, endless lies, and countless affairs. As they say, misery loves company, and marriage only doubled her woes. James took full advantage of Kate’s unwavering love. …James was drafted into the army, serving in Yorkshire. There, he started another family—somehow, he managed it during leave. After his service, he stayed in Yorkshire, where he’d fathered a son. But Kate, without hesitation, traveled to Yorkshire and by hook or by crook brought him back home. My parents never heard a word of gratitude from James, though that’s not why they took him in. …Now James Edward is sixty. He’s a regular at the local Anglican church. He and Kate have five grandchildren. It all seems fine, but the bitterness from our relationship with James remains to this day… And I wouldn’t eat honey with him for the world.

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“It Doesn’t Seem Right That Your Children Will Have Homes While My Son Won’t—Let’s Get Him His Own Place with a Mortgage!”