During the holidays, my husband brought up the topic of building a house at the dinner table, expressing that he no longer wanted to live with his parents. His in-laws offered to give us the money, with one condition: my mother had to contribute an equal amount. In that moment, my secret came to light. I should have told my husband about it earlier, but there never seemed to be the right time, and now he wants to leave me.
Before the holidays, my husband and I had a serious misunderstanding. It was so severe that my husband demanded a divorce. We gathered the entire family at the Christmas dinner, and he initiated the discussion about constructing a new home. He was fed up with living with his parents. That’s when my secret was revealed, a secret I intended to share with him earlier, but couldn’t find the right moment.
I grew up living with my mom and grandmother, having no father figure. They lived in a small flat that eventually they upgraded to two separate flats with a small additional payment.
At that time, I left for school. One of the flats was put in my name; my mother wanted me to have something of my own, and I am deeply grateful for that. I rented out my flat and used the income to support my studies at university.
After our marriage, we moved in with my husband’s parents while I continued renting out my flat, saving the money in a bank account. I hadn’t told my husband about it; I wanted it to be a surprise later on.
When my husband told his parents about building a house, they agreed to provide financial support on the condition that my mother matched their contribution.
I should have agreed and given my mother the money I’d saved to make it appear as if she had collected it. Instead, I revealed everything about the money and the flat. In hindsight, I realized it wasn’t the best moment to disclose this secret. It was quite a scene! My mother-in-law immediately suggested that I should have lived in my flat after marriage instead of staying with them.
My husband was hurt that I had hidden the fact that I owned a flat. He said he could never trust me again. We argued, and I packed my things and went back to my mother’s place. Eventually, I proposed to my husband that we live in my flat or sell it to fund building a house; however, he refused. He said he would never do it, and moreover, he did not want to see me anymore.
I don’t understand if my mistake was so grave to warrant such a reaction. The flat, the money, it would all have been shared eventually. I don’t want to beg or humiliate myself, neither in front of my husband nor his parents. My mother worries it’s all because of her, that we should have revealed the truth immediately, at least to my husband if not to his parents. But now, what’s the point of discussing it?
My mother became so concerned that she went to see my mother-in-law yesterday, but she was not even allowed inside. She was told that we are liars, and they wanted nothing to do with us.
