I’m 28 years old. I am married, and my husband and I have a five-year-old son. We live in my small studio apartment. Things are going very well with Andrew. We understand each other perfectly and love each other very much.
Of course, we understand that we will not be able to continue living in my one-room apartment. After all, our son is growing up, and my husband also wants us to have a daughter. But we’re not in a hurry yet: we understand that it would be awfully difficult for the four of us to live in one room.
We do not know what to do: whether to buy an apartment with a mortgage, or rent my apartment, and ourselves rent a bigger apartment? While my husband and I have not decided what we should do. But we are saving to buy an apartment. Both my parents and my husband’s parents knew about our plans. Which my husband and I now regret very much. We shouldn’t have mentioned it, and here’s why.
My mother-in-law came to us recently and told us she had come up with a great idea of how we could easily and easily solve our apartment problem. My mother-in-law lives alone in a large three-bedroom apartment. My husband has a younger brother. He too is married and lives separately now, but in a rented apartment. They want to buy an apartment on a mortgage, but they have no money for the down payment.
So the mother-in-law decided to help everyone at once. She decided that she would sell her apartment and split the money equally between her sons.
– Then you can buy your own apartment with a small mortgage.And they can buy their own apartment, too! – joyfully told us my mother-in-law.
– And where will you live when you sell your apartment? – I asked.
– Where? In your apartment! Only you have to register it to me! I need guarantees! I do not want to stay on the street!
I was stunned when I heard all this: why do I have to register my own apartment to my mother-in-law? And if we suddenly divorce, then what will I be left with? After all, if we buy an apartment, it will already be in our joint ownership. And this apartment is only mine.
I looked at my mother-in-law with amazement: that is, my mother-in-law would just give one son half the money, and my husband and I would get half the money, but at the same time she demanded my apartment from me. How is that fair?! Andrew tried to calm me down. He said he wasn’t going to divorce me and that he loved me very much.
And I think: “It’s now he’s not going to divorce me and loves me. And what will happen after that, you never know!” But when I told Andrew about this, he took offense at me. He said I didn’t trust him. After that our relationship became very tense.
I don’t know what to do now. Maybe I should still accept the offer of mother-in-law, to improve relations with her husband and save our marriage?
But I do not want to lose my own apartment. After all, it can be useful to me at any time. How do I do better in this situation? Maybe someone will give me good advice?
