I always had before my eyes the example of my parents, where the head of the family was my father. Naturally, he solved all financial issues. My mother also worked, but she often spent her salary at her own discretion. Most of the family expenses were on my father’s shoulders. Nevertheless, my parents prepared me for the fact that I should be independent. Already since childhood, my mother had serious conversations with me about the future. Even though I took it all as a joke, I still put a lot of things off in my head.
– Daughter, it is necessary to have a higher education. You should always be able to earn a piece of bread.
– Mom, maybe I’ll purposely look for a husband like our father. My husband will provide for me.
– There aren’t many people like our daddy. And life is getting harder every year. We don’t know what’s next for you. We have to be prepared for anything. And if you find a good man in life, you’ll be behind him like a stone wall, we’ll be glad of that. But education never hurts, remember that.
I listened to my parents. Studying was pretty easy for me. So it wasn’t hard for me to graduate and find a good job. By the time I was 25, I was already very independent and made good money. But I was not able to build a serious relationship with a guy yet.
Not so long ago I met a man who I really liked. First of all, he looked attractive from the outside. Secondly, he had a good job, which is also important. We began to communicate, and then he proposed to go on a joint vacation. I was glad to this proposal, because I really love to travel. And here also was an opportunity to be together with the person I like. Why not go? Although one thing made me a little uncomfortable right away.
– I’ve already booked us a trip here. We can leave in a week. You have to pay for them today, though. I’ll send you a check, can you send me half the money on my card?
– All right, I’ll send you the money.
I was alarmed by the fact that he asked me to pay half of the amount for the trips. But on the other hand, maybe it was the right thing to do. After all, we’re not husband and wife yet. And I’m still an independent girl.
When we were on vacation, this story of “50-50” continued. Everywhere, wherever we were, we divided our expenses in half. This applied to excursions, dinners, and everything else. Max didn’t demand that I pay for myself. He just split the amounts in half. I don’t mean to sound petty, but often my expenses were much lower. So why should I end up overpaying?
That’s how I went on vacation. I kept thinking about this cost-sharing situation. It finally pushed me away from Max. I realized that I was not ready to tie my life to such a man. And for him, apparently, it was okay.
I would have understood if he was a poor man who was saving up every penny for this trip. But he wasn’t. He makes good money. And his family is well off. Why is he so petty? I don’t understand. I decided to talk to my mother about it.
– Daughter, I don’t see happiness in your eyes. Why aren’t you happy after your vacation?
– Mom, the vacation didn’t go exactly the way I wanted.
– What’s wrong?
– It’s just that Max demanded that we share all the expenses. I don’t understand why he didn’t want money for me. After all, he comes from a wealthy family and earns good money.
– There is a category of people who earned their capital due to savings. They are used to live this way and will always save. They just have to be accepted that way.
– No, Mom, I’m not ready to accept him. I want a different life. I’m gonna call him tomorrow and tell him we’re breaking up.
I’ve made the decision to break up with Max. This relationship is unacceptable to me. I’d rather be alone all my life.
