I dont want to be a mum! I just want to get out of this house! These were the words my daughter flung at me.
My daughter fell pregnant when she was just fifteen. For a long while, she kept it a secret from us. My husband and I only found out when she was already five months along. At that point, the idea of an abortion wasnt even up for discussion.
We never learned who the father was. She told us theyd only been seeing each other for about three months before they broke it off. She wasnt even sure how old he was. He might have been seventeen, maybe eighteen. Or perhaps even nineteen, she would shrug.
Of course, my husband and I were shell-shocked to discover our daughter was expecting. We knew it was going to be an enormous challenge for all of us, especially her. To make things more complicated, she kept insisting that she wanted the baby, that she wanted to be a mother. Secretly, I knew she hadnt the faintest idea of what motherhood truly entailed.
Four months later, she delivered a wonderful little boy healthy and strong. But the labour was very hard on her, and it took her four months just to recover. Theres no way she could have coped on her own, so I gave up my job to look after both her and my grandson.
Once she regained her strength, she started pulling away from the baby. She would sleep through the night and didnt want to go near him during the day. I tried everything I could I talked, pleaded, reasoned, and sometimes even lost my temper, desperate for her to help out. Thats when she turned to me and said:
I can see that you love him. So why dont you just adopt him? Ill just be his sister. I dont want to be a mum I want to go out with my friends, listen to music, have fun, go clubbing!
At first, I thought she might be suffering from postnatal depression. But it wasnt that. She simply didnt love her own child.
Eventually, my husband and I realised we had to act, and we were able to secure legal guardianship of our grandson. My daughter became impossible to reason with she stopped listening to us altogether. Shed be out until all hours, sometimes coming home just as the sun came up. She wanted nothing to do with her son.
We lived like this for several years. I honestly believed things would never change. Meanwhile, my grandson thrived: he grew, he learned to walk and talk, and he was always smiling, always full of joy.
Whenever my daughter did come home, hed run to her, wrapping his little arms around her and chattering away. After a while, something shifted. My daughters heart finally softened to her son, and she became a wonderful mother. Now, she spends every spare moment with him hugging, kissing, showering him with affection. She often says,
Im so happy to have my son! Hes the most precious thing in my life. I wouldnt give him up for anything.
At last, my husband and I feel at peace. Our family has found its happiness again.












