When people are comfortable with you, they love and respect you. I have seen this firsthand. If something goes wrong, you risk becoming your own worst enemy. I still feel bad about what my family did to me. As long as I was financially supporting them, they needed me, and then everything changed. As soon as I decided to take care of myself, I became selfish in their eyes.
I am thirty-three years old. And I am convinced that children should definitely live without parents until that age. They already spend most of their lives raising their own children, so they need rest and peace in their old age. I also worked hard, and I managed to realize my biggest dream. I managed to save up for the first installment of a loan for my own home. So I became the owner of a one-room apartment in a new building. My joy knew no bounds.
When I moved in, I decided to celebrate this event with my closest people – my parents and sister.
I wanted my mom and dad to be happy for my success. Moreover, I was still helping my parents pay for my sister’s education. Now she is in her last year of university and has even found a job, so I raised the issue at the table that my sister should finally pay for her own education. I also need to make my own life and pay the monthly rent. In ten years, I will need to take care of my parents and help them financially. It is logical that this task will be on me in the future, not on my younger sister.
But I did not expect such a reaction from my family. My sister started yelling that I was thinking only about myself and called me selfish. In her opinion, now is not the time to buy an apartment while she is still studying. She didn’t expect me to do that, and if she had, she wouldn’t have enrolled in university. I still felt guilty that my sister was getting an education.
Instead of being happy for me, my mom and dad supported my sister, saying that they were not ready to pay for her education right now because they were planning to buy a new car.
After that, my parents and I had a long talk about it. They called me an ungrateful selfish person. None of them ever congratulated me on buying an apartment.