Good afternoon, I really need some wise advice. It all started with the fact that my husband, even before marriage, bought a house in the country with his mother, not far from our town. He dreamed that he would renovate it and live there. I blame myself now for not taking those dreams seriously, but now I’m sick and tired of that shack. Not long ago I was sure that I would never live in that house.
The house was very ordinary, it did not have any city amenities, but I was already glad that it had electricity. I should say at once that there was no heating either. It was heated by the stove, and for the big and small needs I had to run to the end of the garden.
Then my beloved proposed to me, which I accepted. Preparations for the wedding lasted for three months. We celebrated with relatives and friends. The wedding was fun. All that time no one talked about the house. Within a month after the wedding was over, I realized that I was going to be a mom. However, the spouse all the talk was not about the impending fatherhood, and the country house.
My spouse has already spent three paychecks on the house, but nothing has changed in it, the amenities as it was not and is not. Now my husband began to insist that we move into it and begin to build a family nest. At the moment we are still living with my mother’s spouse, but I do not want to live in the village in a house without amenities and do not want us to invest money, time and effort in it. Another problem is that the house is registered in equal shares in the spouse and his mother, which means that in the event of divorce, I do not get anything.
I have repeatedly explained to my spouse that it would be very hard to take care of a newborn in a house like this, and you can’t go to the hospital with a huge belly, and it will also be hard for me to get to work when my maternity leave is over. I will need to spend a lot of time on the road because of which I will not have time to pick up the baby from kindergarten. To take a child in an urban kindergarten he must be a city registration, and with a three-year toddler travel long distances by bus is not too comfortable. I do not wish such trials nor myself, nor my child.
However, my husband just brushes off all my arguments and says that all these problems in my head, he also says that I can sit at home and after the baby is three years old. I just keep my mouth shut in response, but I think to myself that it is unlikely that my spouse’s salary will grow enough for him to support us on his own.
Now my spouse works in the city, but he can easily find a job in the countryside. But my first priority is the size of the salary and the prospects, and in the village they are minimal. What worries me the most is that my spouse plans to spend all of our maternity capital to equip the house. My spouse refuses to buy an apartment, citing the fact that they are cramped, although before marriage he was in agreement that we should buy a home in the city in the first place. I do not want to live with my mother-in-law, but the village life is not for me. Please advise what way out of my situation, I will say right away that I do not want a divorce, because I love my husband!
