How My Son’s Mother-in-Law Stole Him Away from Us: Ever Since He Got Married, He Hardly Visits and Is Always at His In-Laws’—Now Every Crisis at Their House Needs His Urgent Help, While Our Own Son Ignores Family Occasions and Requests for Assistance

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How My Daughter-in-Laws Mum Turned Our Son Against Us

Ever since our son got married, he hardly ever comes to see us. He spends all his time at his mother-in-laws. Apparently, shes always in desperate need of help. Honestly, I cant imagine how she managed before her daughter married our son.

Our sons been married for over two years now. After the wedding, they moved into a flat wed bought for our son when hed started university. We’d always done our best to support him and be understanding parents. Even before the wedding, hed already moved out to be closer to work.

I wouldnt say I disliked our daughter-in-law, but I did worry she didnt seem mature enough for married life, even though our son is only two years older. She often acted childishly and could be rather spoilt. Our sons always been such a gentle soul, and I couldnt help but wonder how hed cope with someone who behaved like a child herself.

When I met her and her mother, I realised exactly what sort of people they were. Despite being the same age as me, the mother-in-law behaved more like a teenager than an adult. Maybe youve met people like thatwell into their fifties but still completely childlike and helpless? Thats her to a tee. By the time her daughter married our son, shed been through six divorces.

We had nothing in common, really. She lived in her own little bubble, though at least she didnt try to force herself into our lives. Our interaction was limited to polite congratulations when our children married. That was about it.

The warning signs started even before the wedding, because our daughter-in-law was always dragging our son over to her mothers placeone minute it was a leaky tap, the next a broken socket, then a kitchen shelf falling down. At first, I let it pass; after all, there was no man in the house, so it made sense shed want help now and then.

But the household disasters never seemed to end. Our son kept turning down our invitations, always giving the same excuse: that he and his wife were off to help her mum. Every holiday was spent at her mothers house, while I was left with just my husband and his mum for company.

It was bad enough him skipping every family gathering, but it got worse when he began ignoring us when we asked for a hand with things.

For instance, wed bought a new fridge and asked if he could help carry it in. At first he agreed, but later rang to say he couldnt because he and his wife had to go to her mums againthis time for a leaking washing machine.

When my husband phoned him later, we overheard our daughter-in-law saying, Why cant your parents hire a moving company? Our son turned up eventually, but he was in an absolutely foul mood.

Dad, why couldnt you just call someone in? Now Ive got to lug this thing up the stairs!

I lost my cool. Why, I wondered, could his mother-in-law not just ring a tradesman herself? Or does she live in another world where handymen dont exist? My son insisted she needed helpthat you cant trust anyone these days, people just take your money and bodge the job.

At that point, my husband couldnt hold his tongue. He said maybe the mother-in-law didnt know much about household appliances, but she was a fantastic shepherd, because she had no trouble leading one sheep around! Our son was furious and stormed out. I stayed out of itI secretly agreed with my husband, because it was clear these new relatives were taking advantage of our son. He was over there fixing everything, but wed practically lost him.

Since that argument, our son hasnt spoken to his father for over two weeks. My husband has refused to reach out, and our son is equally stubborn, swearing he wont call until his father apologises. And where does that leave me? Stuck in the middle, torn in two. Of course, my husband had a point, but he could have said it more gently. Now our son is resentful and refuses to visit, and I have no intention of losing my son over this nonsense.

Neither man is willing to make the first move. My husband wont give in, and our son insists hell never speak to him again unless hes apologised to. Meanwhile, the only one who seems content with the situation is the mother-in-law!

“Who Do You Think You Are to Tell Me What to Do!” — Mrs. Zoe Peterson Threw a Rag Right in Her Daughter-in-Law’s Face. “You Live in My House and Eat My Food!” Tamara Wiped Her Face and Clenched Her Fists. Three Months Married, and Every Day Feels Like a Battlefield. “I Cook, I Clean, I Do the Laundry! What More Do You Want?” “What I Want Is for You to Keep That Mouth Shut! Stray! Turned Up Here with Someone Else’s Child!” Little Ellie Peered Fearfully Out from Behind the Door. Just Four Years Old and Already Knows—Grandma’s Mean. “Mum, That’s Enough!” — Stephen Came in from the Yard, Dirty After Work. “What Now?” “She’s Rude to Me! I Told Her the Soup’s Too Salty, and She Answers Back!” “The Soup’s Fine,” Tamara Said Wearily. “You’re Just Picking on Me.” “There! You Hear That?” Zoe Wagged Her Finger in Tamara’s Face. “Says I’m Picking on Her! In My Own Home!” Stephen Moved to His Wife and Put an Arm Around Her. “Mum, Stop. Tamara’s Worked Hard All Day, and You Just Nag.” “Oh, So Now You’re Against Your Own Mother! I Raised You, Fed You, and This Is What I Get!” The Old Woman Stormed Out, Slamming the Door. Silence Fell in the Kitchen. “I’m Sorry,” Stephen Stroked Tamara’s Hair. “She’s Gotten Impossible as She’s Aged.” “Stephen, Maybe We Should Rent Somewhere? Even Just a Single Room?” “With What Money? I’m a Tractor Driver, Not a CEO. Barely Enough to Eat as It Is.” Tamara Snuggled Into Her Husband. He Was Good, Kind, Hardworking. But His Mother—She Was a Real Nightmare. They’d Met at a Village Fair. Tamara Sold Her Knitted Goods, Stephen Was Buying Socks. They Got Talking. He Said Right Away He Didn’t Mind She Had a Child—He Loved Kids. Their Wedding Was Modest. From Day One, Mrs. Zoe Peterson Disliked Her Daughter-in-Law. Tamara Was Young, Beautiful, With a University Degree in Accounting, While Her Son Was an Ordinary Tractor Driver. “Mum, Come for Supper,” Little Ellie Tugged at Her Mother’s Skirt. “Just a Minute, Sweetheart.” At Dinner, Mrs. Peterson Pushed Her Plate Away with a Flourish. “I Can’t Eat This. It’s Fit for Pigs the Way You Cook.” “Mum!” Stephen Pounded the Table with His Fist. “Stop It!” “What? I’m Just Being Honest! Look at Sylvia—What a Homemaker! But This One!” Sylvia, Mrs. Peterson’s Daughter, Lived in the City and Only Visited Once a Year. The House Was in Her Name, Though She Hardly Lived There. “If You Don’t Like My Cooking, You Can Cook for Yourself,” Tamara Said Calmly. “Oh, You!” The Mother-in-Law Jumped Up. “I’ll—” “That’s Enough!” Stephen Stood Between the Two Women. “Mum, Calm Down or We’re Leaving. Right Now.” “Where to? Out on the Street? The House Isn’t Yours!” It Was True. The House Belonged to Sylvia. They Were Allowed to Stay Out of Pity. *** A Precious Burden Tamara Couldn’t Sleep That Night. Stephen Held Her Close and Whispered: “Hold On, Love. I’ll Buy a Tractor. Start a Business. We’ll Save Up for Our Own Home.” “Stephen, That’s So Expensive…” “I’ll Find an Old One and Fix It Up. I Know How. Just Keep Believing in Me.” In the Morning, Tamara Woke Up Feeling Sick. She Rushed to the Bathroom. Could It Be? The Test Showed Two Lines. “Stephen!” She Burst Into the Room. “Look!” He Rubbed His Eyes Sleepily, Looked at the Test, and Suddenly Jumped Up, Spinning Her Around. “Tamara! Darling! We’re Having a Baby!” “Shhh! Your Mother Will Hear!” But It Was Too Late. Mrs. Peterson Stood in the Doorway. “What’s All the Noise?” “Mum, We’re Having a Baby!” Stephen Beamed. The Mother-in-Law Curled Her Lip. “And Where Will You All Live? It’s Crowded Enough With You Here. If Sylvia Returns, You’ll Be Out on Your Ear.” “We Won’t Be Thrown Out!” Stephen Frowned. “This Is My Home Too!” “It’s Sylvia’s House, Remember? I Signed It Over To Her. You’re Just Lodgers.” The Joy Evaporated. Tamara Slumped onto the Bed. A Month Later, Tragedy Struck. Tamara Was Lifting a Heavy Bucket (No Running Water in the House). Sudden Pain, Bloodstains on Her Trousers… “Stephen!” She Cried. A Miscarriage. The Doctor Said It Was Overexertion, Stress. She Needed Rest. But How Do You Rest Living With a Mother-in-Law Like That? Tamara Lay in the Hospital, Staring At The Ceiling. She Couldn’t Take Any More. She Wouldn’t. “I’m Leaving Him,” She Told Her Friend Over The Phone. “I Can’t Go On.” “Tamara, What About Stephen? He’s Good.” “He Is. But His Mother… She’ll Be The Death Of Me.” Stephen Rushed To Her After Work, Covered In Dirt And Exhaustion, A Bunch Of Daisies In Hand. “Tamara, My Love, I’m So Sorry. It’s All My Fault. I Didn’t Take Care Of You.” “Stephen, I Just Can’t Live There Any More.” “I Know. I’ll Take Out a Loan. We’ll Rent a Flat.” “They Won’t Lend To You. Your Wage Is Too Low.” “They Will. I’ve Found a Second Job. Night Shift At The Farm. By Day On The Tractor, By Night Milking Cows.” “Stephen, You’ll Collapse!” “I Won’t. I’d Move Mountains For You.” Tamara Was Discharged a Week Later. At Home, Mrs. Peterson Met Her At The Door: “Well, Didn’t Keep It, Did You? I Knew It—Too Feeble.” Tamara Walked Past In Silence. Her Mother-in-Law Wasn’t Worth Her Tears. Stephen Worked Like a Man Possessed. Tractor By Day, Farm By Night. He Slept Three Hours A Night. “I’ll Take a Job Too,” Tamara Said. “There’s an Opening For An Accountant.” “The Pay’s Pennies.” “Pennies Add Up.” So She Took The Job. Mornings, She Took Ellie To Nursery. Then Off To The Office. Evenings, Collected Her Daughter, Cooked, Did Laundry. Mrs. Peterson’s Nagging Continued, But Tamara Learned To Tune Her Out. *** Their Own Corner and a New Life Stephen Continued Saving For The Tractor. He Found An Old, Broken-Down One For Next To Nothing. “Take The Loan,” Tamara Said. “Fix It, We’ll Earn Our Own Money.” “What If It Doesn’t Work?” “It Will. You’re Brilliant With Your Hands.” The Loan Came Through. They Bought The Tractor. It Sat In The Yard Like a Heap of Junk. “Well That’s Just Grand!” Mrs. Peterson Laughed. “Junkyard’s Where That Belongs!” Stephen Worked On The Engine In Silence. Night After Night, After The Farm, Only the Flashlight for Company. Tamara Helped—Handing Tools, Holding Parts. “Go Rest. You’re Exhausted.” “We Started This Together, We’ll Finish Together.” A Month Went By. Then Two. The Neighbours Laughed—Fool Of A Tractor Driver, Buying a Heap of Scrap. But One Morning, The Engine Roared To Life. Stephen Sat At The Wheel, Not Quite Believing Their Luck. “Tamara! It’s Running! It Works!” She Rushed Out, Throwing Her Arms Around Him. “I Knew You Could Do It! I Always Believed In You!” The First Job—Ploughing Mr. Smith’s Vegetable Patch. Second, Delivering Firewood. Third and Fourth—The Money Started Coming In. Then, Tamara Once More Felt Sick In The Mornings. “Stephen, I’m Pregnant Again.” “This Time, You Don’t Lift a Thing, Do You Hear? I’ll Do It All!” He Wrapped Her In Cotton Wool. No Heavy Lifting. Mrs. Peterson Grumbled: “Delicate, Aren’t We! I Had Three Kids and Never Complained! And Her?” But Stephen Was Adamant. No More Overdoing It. In The Seventh Month, Sylvia Arrived with Her Husband and Big Plans. “Mum, We’re Selling The House. Got a Good Offer. You’re Moving In With Us.” “And Them?” Mrs. Peterson Nodded To Stephen and Tamara. “Well, What About Them? They’ll Have To Find Somewhere Else.” “Sylvia, I Was Born Here, This Is My Home!” Stephen Protested. “So? It’s My House. Did You Forget?” “When Do We Have To Leave?” Tamara Asked Calmly. “A Month.” Stephen Boiled With Rage. Tamara Rested A Hand On His Shoulder—Quiet, Don’t Argue. That Evening, They Sat Together In Silence. “What Are We Going To Do? The Baby’s Due Soon.” “We’ll Find Somewhere. As Long As We’re Together, That’s What Matters.” Stephen Worked Like A Madman. The Tractor Roared From Dawn To Dusk. In A Week, He Made As Much Money As Usually Took A Whole Month. Then Mr. Michaels, A Farmer From The Next Village, Rang. “Stephen, Selling My Cottage. It’s Old, But Solid. Cheap, Too. Want To Take A Look?” They Went That Very Day. The Cottage Was Indeed Old, But Sturdy—Three Rooms, A Range, A Shed. “How Much?” Mr. Michaels Named His Price. They Had Enough For Half. “How About Instalments?” Stephen Suggested. “Half Now, The Rest In Six Months.” “All Right. You’re A Reliable Lad.” They Came Home Elated. Mrs. Peterson Met Them At The Door: “Where Have You Two Been? Sylvia’s Brought The Papers!” “That’s Fine,” Tamara Said Calmly. “We’re Moving Out.” “Where To? The Pavement?” “To Our Own Place. We Bought It.” The Mother-In-Law Froze. Didn’t Expect That. “Lying! Where’d You Get The Money?” “We Earned It,” Stephen Hugged His Wife. “While You Were Wagging Your Tongue, We Were Grafting.” They Moved Within Two Weeks. Not Many Possessions—What’s Yours In Someone Else’s House? Ellie Ran Round The Rooms, The Dog Barked. “Mum, Is This Really Our House?” “It Is, Darling. Genuinely Ours.” Mrs. Peterson Arrived The Next Day. She Stood On The Threshold. “Stephen, I’ve Thought It Over. Maybe You Could Take Me In? The City Air’s Stifling.” “No, Mum. You Made Your Choice. Live With Sylvia.” “But I’m Your Mother!” “A Mother Doesn’t Call Her Grandchild ‘Someone Else’s’. Goodbye.” He Closed The Door. Hard, But The Right Thing To Do. Matthew Was Born That March. A Strong, Healthy Boy. He Yelled Loudly and Made His Demands Known. “Just Like His Dad!” The Midwife Laughed. Stephen Cradled His Son, Afraid To Breathe. “Thank You, Tamara. For Everything.” “No, Thank You. For Not Giving Up On Us. For Believing.” They Settled Into Their New Home. Planted A Garden, Got Chickens. The Tractor Earned Its Keep. Evenings Were Spent On The Porch; Ellie Played With The Dog, Matthew Slept In His Cot. “You Know What?” Tamara Said One Sunset. “I’m Happy.” “Me Too.” “Remember How Bad Things Once Were? I Thought I Would Break.” “You Didn’t. You’re Strong.” “We’re Strong—Together.” The Sun Set Behind The Woods. The House Smelled Of Fresh Bread And Milk. A Real Home. Their Home. A Place Where No One Could Insult, Throw Them Out, Or Call Them Outsiders. A Place To Live, Love, And Raise Their Children. A Place To Be Happy. *** Dear Readers, Every Family Faces Their Own Trials, And Overcoming Them Isn’t Always Easy. Tamara and Stephen’s Story Is Like a Mirror—We See Both Our Struggles And The Strength That Helps Us Rise Above. So Life Goes On: From Hardship To Joy, Then On Again—Until Fate Smiles. What Do You Think—Should Stephen Have Broken Away From His Mother Sooner? Or Was He Right To Persevere for So Long? And What Does ‘Home’ Mean To You—Just Bricks And Mortar, Or The Warmth Of Family? Share Your Thoughts—Life Is A School, And Every Lesson Matters!

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