He told me I wasnt cut out to be a father, yet Ive been looking after those children from day one.
When my sister Maya went into labor, I was miles away at a motorcycle rally. She begged me not to cancel the trip, insisting everything would be fine and that there was still time.
Three beautiful babies were born, and Maya didnt make it.
I still remember cradling those tiny bundles swaddled in the neonatal intensive care unit. My clothes still smelled of gasoline and leather. I had no plan, no clue what to do. But when I looked at Rita, Bella and Kirill, I knew I wasnt walking away.
I swapped latenight rides for latenight feedings. The guys from the shop covered my shifts so I could pick the kids up from preschool. I learned to braid Bellas hair, soothe Ritas tantrums, and get Kirill to try something other than buttered noodles. I stopped taking the longest raids. I sold two motorcycles. I handbuilt bunk beds.
Five years. Five birthdays. Five winters of flu and stomach bugs. I wasnt perfect, but I stayed. Every single day.
Then he showed up.
The biological father. He wasnt on any birth certificates. He never visited Maya while she was pregnant. According to her, he said triplets dont fit his lifestyle.
Now he wanted them.
And he didnt come alone. He brought a social worker named Marina. She stared at my oilstained overalls and declared I wasnt a suitable longterm upbringing environment for these children.
I couldnt believe my ears.
Marina toured our modest but tidy home. She saw the childrens drawings on the fridge, the bikes in the yard, the little boots by the door. She smiled politely, took notes, and lingered a bit too long on the tattoo around my neck.
The worst part was that the kids were clueless. Rita hid behind me. Kirill started to cry. Bella asked, Is this man going to be our new dad?
I answered, No ones taking you away. Its just a legal matter.
Now the hearing is a week away. I have a lawyer. Good, damned expensive, but worth it. My shop is barely hanging together because Im doing everything solo, yet Id sell the last key just to keep my kids.
I didnt know what the judge would decide.
The night before the hearing I couldnt sleep. I sat at the kitchen table, holding one of Ritas drawingsa picture of me holding their hands in front of our little house, with a sun and a few clouds in the corner. Simple childlike scribbles, but honestly, I felt happier in that sketch than I ever have in my whole life.
In the morning I put on the buttondown shirt I havent worn since Mayas funeral. Bella came out of her room and said, Uncle Dan, you look like a priest.
Lets hope the judge likes priests, I joked.
The courthouse felt like another worldeverything beige and polished. Vin sat across from me in an expensive suit, playing the part of a caring father. He even brought a storebought frame with a photo of the triplets, as if that proved something.
Marina read her report. She didnt lie, but she didnt soften the tone either. She mentioned limited educational resources, concerns about emotional development, and, of course, lack of a traditional family structure.
I clenched my fists under the table.
Then it was my turn.
I told the judge everythingfrom the first call about Mayas collapse to the night Bella vomited on my back during a long drive and I didnt move an inch. I spoke about Ritas speech delay and how I took a second job to pay for a speech therapist. I described how Kirill learned to swim because I promised him a hamburger every Friday if he didnt give up.
The judge looked at me and asked, Do you really think you can raise three children on your own?
I swallowed. I could have lied. I didnt.
No. Not always, I said. But I do. Every day, for five years. I didnt do it because I was forced to. I did it because they are my family.
Vin leaned forward as if about to speak, then stayed silent.
And then something happened.
Bella raised her hand.
The judge, surprised, asked, Young lady?
She got up on the stool and said, Uncle Dan hugs us every morning. When we have bad dreams, he sleeps on the floor beside our bed. He even sold his motorcycle to fix our heating. I dont know what a dad is, but we already have one.
A heavy, absolute silence fell.
I dont know if that was what tipped the scales. Maybe the judge had already decided. But when he finally announced, Custody remains with Mr. Desmond Fomin, I let out a breath I hadnt realized Id been holding for years.
Vin didnt even look at me as he left. Marina gave me a barely perceptible nod.
That evening I made cheese toast with tomato soupthe kids favorite meal. Bella danced on the kitchen counter. Kirill waved a butter knife like a lightsaber. Rita clunged to me and whispered, I knew youd win.
In that moment, despite the greasy kitchen and my exhaustion, I felt like the richest man alive.
Family isnt about blood. Its about who stays. Again and again. Even when its hard.
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