For Five Years She Thought She Was Living With Her Husband, But It Turned Out She Wanted to Live With Him Like He Was Her Mother

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For five years, she believed she was living with her husbandbut in truth, she wanted to live with him as she did with her mother.

Eleanor grew up in a small English town nestled among rolling hills. It was there that Cupids arrow found its mark. She fell head over heels for Oliver, and he cherished her just the same. Together, they decided to leave their sleepy hometown behind. They told their parents they were going up to London to earn enough for a wedding. And, in a way, that was true; they went to the city and began saving. But in the end, they realised they didnt want a lavish ceremony at all.

They followed the fashion of the times: a registry office wedding, Eleanor in her trainers and jeans, no fuss or frills, and presents only in the form of cash. As for tradition, instead of a grand reception, they put together a modest buffet. The money they received as gifts went straight toward paying off part of their mortgage.

Still, when they returned home for a visit, their mothers arranged a simple tea with cakes and sandwichesa taste of the old ways.

Five years slid by. The couple decided to wait before starting a family, focusing instead on repayments; their wedding gifts had only stretched so far.

Eleanors mother, a formidable and fiercely independent woman whod raised her alone, frequently called to remind Eleanor she was ready for grandchildren whenever she was. But Eleanor didnt feel prepared just yet. With no pressing deadline, they simply let time slip away.

Then, without warning, old grievances that Eleanor had managed to keep in check began bubbling to the surface. She rang me up, her voice tight with frustration.

Hell chat forever on the phone to others, she complained, but with me, its just hello and goodbye, nothing more

Hell be home after work, I said, youll have plenty of time to talk.

But when I want to watch a romantic film after dinner, all he wants is to stare at some ghastly horror movie.

How many televisions do you have? These days, you can both stream films on laptops with headphones. Though, if you both sit next to each other, absorbed in your own worlds, is that really family life?

Thats exactly what I think! I dont believe Oliver understands me in the slightest!

Thats an interesting assertion

Why are you laughing?

Im not, honestly. Eleanor, when do you feel happiest together?

When were on holiday, or when friends come round. Then, hes so thoughtful

We talked for the better part of an hour. She told me how she met Oliver, how the other girls were all envious of their love. From our conversation, it became clearEleanor had an unfilled longing for someone to show her off to the world. That was one problem. The other

Eleanor, what does your ideal marriage look like?

Definitely with children.

Thats what everyone says, but many marriages unravel once children come along

I want my husband to care about my mood, to ask about my day at work, to notice if Im upset; to compliment my outfits, to praise my cooking

And he doesnt appreciate you?

He says the dinner is nice, but its not enough for me.

So, walk me through ithe comes home, you serve up mashed potatoes with a cutlet, for example, and he

He rubs his hands and smiles at me.

Well, thats a kind of compliment in itself! Id wager youd feel far worse if he just pushed the plate away and refused to eat

Eleanor fell silent; perhaps she hadnt understood the heart of her own dissatisfaction. But her resentment towards her husband lingered, though the root remained murky. To clarify, I asked about her relationship with her mother.

She told me her mother was deeply emotionalsometimes overwhelming her with endless questions and opinions, but always there, ever supportive, especially in times of trouble, with reassurances that everything would turn out fine.

Its often said that we marry people who remind us of our parents, who offer us buckets of affection. Eleanor, having no father, couldnt know that not everyone expresses love so vividly as her mother did.

Finally, I told her, For five years, youve been married to your motherand you expect Oliver to mirror her at every turn. At first, Eleanor was shocked, but after some thought, she conceded.

So, how do I break free from my mother?

Its simpler than you think. The next time you feel disappointed, imagine it isnt Oliver at allits your attentive mother beside you, and Oliver could never compete. Let him just be your husband.

Thats it!

Thats all. Youll seesoon those old complaints will melt away on their own.A week passed in a swirl of small, unfamiliar silences. Eleanor caught herself listening for her mothers questions in the spaces where Oliver said nothing. When he wandered into the kitchen and, instead of praising her pie, just tapped her shoulder and grinned, she was momentarily annoyedbut then caught herself, and smiled back. That evening, Oliver suggested a walk. They wandered through the neighborhood, woolens zipped against the chill, and fell into a surprisingly easy, companionable quiet.

At a corner, Oliver stopped beside a bakery window, handed her a warm bun, and asked, Hows work going? The question was simple, almost offhand, but Eleanor felt a new current in itgenuine, if understated, concern. As she answered, she noticed a gentle warmth in her chest. It wasn’t her mothers feverish, all-encompassing care. It was something steadier, quieter. Oliver didnt try to fix everything, nor did he fuss or coddle. But, walking home with their arms threaded together, Eleanor realized she didn’t need him to.

She looked up at him, suddenly seeing not the echo of her mothers love, but the shape of something softerroomiergrowing between them. Perhaps their love wasnt fireworks and applause, but rather the hush after rain, the dependable weight of a hand at her back. And, as she pressed her head against his shoulder, she finally let the longing for her mothers endless attention drift away, untethered.

In its absence blossomed something quietly miraculous: gratitude, calm, and the bold, jubilant hope that she could begin to love Oliver as he was, without asking him to mother her heart ever again.

My Dearest One. A Story Caroline had always believed she’d grown up in her own family. It still seemed impossible to accept. But there was no one left to talk to about it. Her adoptive parents had passed away, one after the other. First her father fell ill and never recovered. Soon after, her mother followed. Caroline had sat at her mother’s bedside, holding her frail, lifeless hand. Her mother was very weak. Suddenly, Caroline noticed her mother opening her eyes: “Carrie, darling, your father and I never managed to tell you. We just couldn’t bring ourselves to say it… We found you. Yes, we found you in the woods, crying, lost. We waited for someone to come looking for you. Reported it to the police. But no one ever did. Maybe something happened, I never knew. And in the end they let us adopt you. At home, in the dresser where I keep my papers. There are some documents… letters… Please, read them. Forgive us, darling.” Her mother was exhausted and closed her eyes. “Oh, Mum,” Caroline pressed her mother’s hand to her cheek, unsure what to say, “Mum, I love you and I so want you to get better.” But the miracle never came. And within a few days, her mother was gone. It might have been better if she’d told Caroline nothing at all. She didn’t tell her husband or her children about her mother’s last words. In fact, she seemed to have forgotten, tucking her mother’s secret away in a dark corner of her memory. The children had adored their grandma and granddad. Caroline didn’t want to trouble anyone with this unwanted truth. But one day, driven by a strange impulse, she finally opened the folder her mother had mentioned. There were newspaper clippings, letters, responses. As Caroline began to read, she couldn’t stop. Dearest, beloved parents! They had found her—Caroline—at eighteen months old, in the woods. They were already in their forties and had no children. Suddenly, a crying little girl had reached out to them with tiny arms. The village constable had just shrugged his shoulders—no one had reported a missing child. They adopted Caroline. But her mother kept searching for her real family. Perhaps not to find them, but to make sure no one would come and take their beloved daughter away. Caroline shut the folder and shoved it far back on the shelf. Who needed this truth? A week later, she was called into Human Resources: “Caroline Paige, there’s someone here asking after you from your previous job.” A woman about Caroline’s age sat next to the HR manager: “Hello, I’m Helen. I really must talk to you,” Helen glanced at the HR manager, “It’s about Mrs. Elizabeth Chapman. You’re her daughter, right?” “You said this was about her old work!” the HR manager fumed. “Private matters aren’t for work hours!” “It’s all right, Helen, let’s talk outside,” Caroline suggested. They left under the HR manager’s watchful glare. “I’m sorry, this is strange, but I promised,” Helen began nervously, “Three years ago, I ran into my first primary school teacher—at Littledale Primary. I’d moved on, but she’d stayed. She was old, all alone. Invited me in for tea, asked me for a favour. Said her little girl went missing many years ago. She’d been writing to your mother.” “I’m sorry, Helen,” Caroline replied stiffly, “My mother died, and I’m not involved in this.” “I understand, Caroline. It’s just—Mrs. Chapman’s very ill. Cancer, they say she doesn’t have long. She’s desperate to find her daughter, whom she’s searched for all her life. She even gave me a lock of hair to try for a DNA test. Can you imagine?” Caroline was about to end the conversation, but something stopped her. “She’s seriously ill, you say?” Helen nodded. Caroline took the envelope with the hair and agreed to stay in touch. A week later, they visited Mrs. Chapman in hospital together. They walked into her room, and Mrs. Chapman peered at them with dim eyes. “Oh, Helen, you came! Thank you, dear,” she smiled shyly, then looked questioningly at Caroline. “Mrs. Chapman, I found her. This is Caroline. She wanted to come herself,” Helen handed her an envelope. “What’s that? Even with my glasses I can hardly see,” her eyes looked at them, hopeful. “It’s the test result,” Helen pulled out a sheet, “It says you’re related. Caroline is your daughter.” Mrs. Chapman’s face lit up with joy, tears spilling down her cheeks. “My dearest, my child—thank you both—my dearest, what happiness. I’ve found you. Alive and beautiful, looking just like I did as a girl. My dearest child,” she took Caroline’s hands, “Every night of my life I woke thinking I heard you crying, calling for me. There’s no forgiving me. Alive, alive. Now I can rest.” A little later, Helen and Caroline left Mrs. Chapman, who drifted off to sleep, exhausted. “Thank you, Caroline. You can see how ill she is. You made her happy.” A few days later, Mrs. Chapman passed away. Caroline tore up all the papers from her mother’s folder. She didn’t want anyone else to uncover this pointless truth. But what truth was there, really? After all, Caroline had never had any other mother. And Mrs. Chapman? That was just a blessed lie. Was Caroline right to do what she did? She believes it was for the best. In the end, each of us must answer to God for what we have done.

The Terrible Neighbour “Don’t touch my crystal glasses!” shouted the former friend. “Keep an eye on your own eyes! Think I don’t notice who you’re gawping at?” “So, you’re jealous, are you?” Tamara Borisovna looked surprised. “Oh, I see who you’ve got your sights on! I know what I’ll get you for Christmas—a lip curler!” “Why not keep it for yourself?” retorted Lynda. “Or are your lips beyond help even with that?” Old Tamara swung her legs off the ancient bed and walked over to her shelf of trinkets, ready for her morning routine. She wouldn’t call herself overly religious: surely something must be out there, someone in charge of all this, right? Just not sure who. Such a power went by many names: the universe, the great beyond, and of course, the Good Lord! Yes, that kindly old gent with a white beard and halo, nestled on a cloud and thinking of all us mortals. Besides, Tamara was well into her late sixties now. At that age, better not fall out with the Big Guy: if He isn’t there, well, no harm done for believing. But if He is—non-believers lose everything. So at the end of her morning prayers Tamara always added a little something in her own words. Why not? Ritual complete, soul lighter—time to start a new day. Tamara Borisovna had two great misfortunes. No, not fools and roads (that would be too clichéd). It was her neighbour Lynda and her own grandchildren. The grandchildren were a typical modern lot—didn’t want to do anything. But hey, they had their parents to wrangle them. But what to do about Lynda? She could wind Tamara up like no-one else! On telly, sparring between famous actresses looks touching and fun. In real life, it’s anything but charming, especially when the nitpicking is for no reason. Tamara also had a friend: everyone called him Pete the Moped. His full name: Peter James Wagstaff—what a name! Guessing the origin of his nickname was easy: in his youth, Pete had loved whizzing about on his moped. Well, ‘moped’, as the cheeky lads called it. These days, the broken old bike gathered dust in the shed, but the nickname stuck fast—a proper village tale! Back in the day, they’d been family friends: Pete the Moped and wife Nina, Tamara and her husband. Now, both their partners rested peacefully in the local cemetery. Tamara still stuck by Pete—she’d known him since school, after all, and he was a true friend. Back at school, there were three of them: Tamara, Pete and Lynda—a golden trio, nothing flirtatious about it. They’d go everywhere together, Pete in the middle, Tamara and Lynda each holding on to an arm—a perfect two-handled cup, as Tamara liked to picture it. But over the years, the friendship faded. Actually, it turned sour—first into Lynda’s coldness, then outright animosity. As in the cartoon: “More and more, I feel like someone swapped me out for a copy…” Indeed, it was as if someone swapped Lynda out! It happened after her husband died—before that, things had been reasonably all right. Of course, people change with time: a bit stingy becomes downright miserly. Chatty becomes gossipy. Envy can tear a person to bits. That’s probably what happened with Lynda—well, women are like that. So are men, to be fair. And there was reason to be jealous. First, Tamara had stayed trim over the years, whereas Lynda had gone quite round: where’s the waist meant to be, madam? She hardly looked her best compared to her neighbour. Second, their old school friend Pete paid much more attention to sprightly Tamara—lots of whispers and giggles, nearly touching grey heads. With Lynda, exchanges were curt and stiff. Pete popped by Tamara’s for tea far more often; Lynda practically had to bribe him to visit her… Sure, maybe she wasn’t as clever as annoying Tamara. Or as funny! And Pete loved a good laugh. There’s a fine English word for nattering—wittering, which Shukshin himself would approve of. And lately, that’s exactly what Lynda did, picking fights over nothing. First, she announced Tamara’s toilet was stinking up the place! “Your loo smells foul!” Lynda pronounced. “Oh, honestly! It’s been in the same place for years—you only just now noticed?” Tamara shot back, then couldn’t resist: “And you got those new glasses free on the NHS—can’t expect quality for free!” “Don’t you dare talk about my glasses!” Lynda shrieked. “Worry about your own eyes! Think I don’t see you ogling about?” “So you’re jealous, are you?” Tamara raised an eyebrow. “I know what I’ll get you for Christmas: a lip curler!” “Keep it for yourself!” Lynda snapped. “Or is there no machine that can cope with your pout? Think I don’t see?” Oh, Lynda saw all right, time and again. Pete, when told about it, suggested they brick up the outdoor loo and put one indoors. Tamara’s son and daughter chipped in, and before long she had a smart indoor toilet. Pete, ever the handyman, buried the old waste pit himself. Take that, Lynda! Time to find a new complaint! No chance. Lynda promptly accused Tamara’s grandchildren of stripping pears from her tree—the branches stretched over Tamara’s fence. “They just thought it was ours!” Tamara tried, even though, as she saw it, nobody touched the pears! “Anyway, your chickens scratch up my veggie patch, you know!” “Chickens are stupid—it’s in their nature!” Lynda snapped, voice rising. “But grandkids need raising, Nana—not giggling all day with your scandals!” So, back to square one: it all turned into a tiff about Pete again… The kids got a firm word, and pears were soon out of season: rest easy, Lynda! No luck: now, according to Lynda, the branches were damaged! “Show me!” Tamara protested—nothing was broken! “Here and here!” Lynda stabbed the air with a gnarled finger. Even Tamara’s hands were prettier: slender, elegant. Hands say a lot about a woman! Even in the countryside, style’s important. Pete suggested cutting the offending branches. “They’re on your property? You can do as you like!” “She’ll shout the roof down!” Tamara worried. “I bet she won’t,” Pete assured her. “I’ll have your back!” And indeed, even though Lynda saw Pete pruning, she stayed totally silent. So, the tree problem solved. But now it was Tamara’s turn—Lynda’s hens truly did invade her garden beds. This year Lynda had a new breed—last year wasn’t so bad. But a chicken is a chicken: dumb as a post, forever scratching. Tamara’s seedlings ended up raked out. Tamara asked nicely, but Lynda only smirked: what are you going to do about it? One option: catch a chicken or two, and make a point of roasting them for Sunday lunch! But gentle Tamara wasn’t up for such drastic measures. Instead, her clever friend suggested something from the internet—scatter eggs around the beds at night, and collect them in the morning as if the hens had laid them. It worked! Thanks, world wide web! Lynda, stunned, watched Tamara collecting eggs from the veg patch and said not a word. The hens never set foot there again. Surely now, they’d make peace? Lynda, how about it? No more reason to squabble! Not so fast! Lynda now complained about kitchen smoke and smells from Tamara’s summer house, where she cooked until late autumn. Yesterday it was fine, today it’s a problem! Maybe I’m bothered by the smell of frying meat—maybe I’m vegetarian! And Parliament even passed rules about backyard barbecues! “Where’ve you seen a barbecue?” Tamara asked, exasperated. “You need to clean your glasses, darling!” She remained patient and polite, but this was too much. The neighbour had become downright impossible—no peace from Lynda… “Maybe I should donate her for research,” Tamara joked wearily to Pete over tea. “She’s going to eat me alive!” She’d dropped weight with all this stress. “She’d choke!” Pete grinned, “And I’d never let it happen! I’ve got a better idea!” A few days later, on a bright morning, Tamara heard a song: “Tammy, Tammy—come out and see me!” There was Pete, standing by the door, beaming—he’d fixed up his old moped. “You know why I used to be sad?” he announced. “Because my moped was broken! Ready for a ride, gorgeous? Let’s remember the good old days!” Tamara hopped on gleefully! After all, Parliament says 65+ makes you an active retiree these days—old age is officially cancelled! Off she went, into a new life in every sense. Before long, she’d become Mrs Wagstaff: Pete proposed and she moved in with her new husband. And Lynda? Alone, plump and peevish as ever. Tell me, what better reason to be jealous? And with no one left to quarrel with, she had only herself to stew with her gripes. But negativity needs somewhere to go… So, chin up, Tamara, and don’t leave your new home! Who knows what’s next? Life in the English countryside is a real soap opera! All that trouble over the loo really was for nothing…