Folk wisdom says: You cant judge a book by its cover.
But Margaret Smith always thought such sayings were nonsenseshe prided herself on being an excellent judge of character!
A year ago, my daughter Emily got married.
Id always longed for her to find a good man and settle down, perhaps even bless us with grandchildren. I imagined myself as the matriarch of a big, happy English family, just like in the old days.
Then along came Adam. He was clever enoughand definitely not short of a bob or two. He seemed quite proud of his achievements as well. But instead of settling nearby, they moved into Adams own flat, and apparently, my advice was surplus to requirements!
To me, Adam was a bad influence on Emily.
It was nothing like what Id dreamed for her. Adam, frankly, began to get under my skin.
Mum, you just dont understand, Emily would sigh, frustrated. Adam grew up in care. Hes made something of himselfhes strong and kind.
I just pursed my lips and quietly made a mental list of Adams flaws.
He wasnt who he seemed at all, at least thats how it felt to me! It became my motherly duty to help Emily see Adam for who he really was, before it was too late.
No real education, stubborn, no real hobbies or passions!
He wasted his weekends lounging in front of the telly, claiming exhaustion!
Did Emily really want to spend her life with someone like that? I wasnt about to let that happennot if I had anything to say. One day, shed thank me.
And when the grandchildren arrived, what sort of example would that set? What could a father like Adam teach my future grandchildren?
I was left so disappointed. Adam, clearly sensing where my sympathies lay, started keeping his distance too.
Our visits became less and less frequent, and I flatly refused to set foot in their home.
Emilys father, gentle soul that he is, took a diplomatic stance, knowing me all too well.
Then one evening, I received a phone call from Emily. She sounded terribly worried.
Mum, I didnt mention Ive gone on a work trip for two days. Adams come down with something, caught a chill on site and headed home from work earlynot feeling himself at all. I cant get through to him now; hes not answering.
And youre ringing me about this? I snapped, irritated. You two are always so independent, never minding about us! I could be ill for all you knownot that anyone seems bothered! Now you call in the middle of the night to fret about Adam being poorly? Honestly, Emily!
Mum Her voice trembled; she did sound truly anxious. Im just upset that you never seem to understand how much we care for each other. You always think Adam isnt worthy, but hes not how you see him! Dont you trust me enough to know Id only love someone whos a good person?
I was silent.
Mum, please, you still have a key to the flat. Could you check on Adam? Im really worried. Please.
All right, but only for your sake, I replied, going to rouse my husband.
No one answered the bell at their flat, so I used my key to let us in.
It was dark inside; maybe no one was home?
Perhaps hes gone out? my husband suggested, but I shot him a stern lookEmilys worry had infected me.
As I entered the lounge, my heart froze. Adam was sprawled awkwardly on the sofa, burning with fever.
A paramedic managed to bring him round.
Dont worry, he told me kindly, Your son-in-laws got complications from a cold. Been pushing himself too hard at work, has he?
I nodded.
Hell be fine. Keep an eye on his temperature and ring us if you need anything.
Adam fell back asleep. I settled into the armchair, feeling strangethere I was, watching over the son-in-law Id so resented.
He looked young, vulnerable, hair stuck damply to his forehead from the fever. I felt an unexpected rush of pity. As he slept, his face seemed softer, gentler.
In his half-sleep, Adam suddenly whispered, Mum, dont go please, Mum. He took my hand in his burning one.
I was stunned, but I didnt dare pull my hand away.
I stayed with him through the night.
At dawn, Emily called again.
Mum, Im so sorry. Ill be home as soon as I can. You really dont need to comehopefully, itll all be fine.
Its all right, darling. Everythings under control, I said, smiling. Were waiting for you. All is well.
*****
When my first grandson was born, I immediately offered to help.
Adam gave my hand a grateful kiss.
See, Emily? You said your mum might not want to help, but you were wrong.
Holding little Thomas in my arms, I proudly paced the flat, whispering to him:
Well, Tommy, youre a lucky lad. The best parents, and a gran and granddad who love you to bits! Youre blessed, my boy.
So maybe, after all, the old saying holds trueyou cant judge a book by its cover.
And only love, in the end, shows us what truly matters.












