Don’t Go, Mum: A Family Story British wisdom says you can’t judge a book by its cover, but Margaret was sure she’d always understood people perfectly well! Her daughter, Emily, had married just a year ago. Margaret had dreamt Emily would meet a good man, start a family, and she, the proud grandmother, would once again be the matriarch of her growing brood—just as she’d always been. Mark, the son-in-law, was sharp and successful, something he made no secret of. But the newlyweds moved into Mark’s own flat and didn’t seem to need Margaret’s advice—something she’d never expected! He was obviously a bad influence on Emily! This wasn’t at all what Margaret had planned, and soon enough, Mark was getting on her last nerve. “Mum, you don’t understand, Mark was raised in care. He’s worked for everything, he’s a strong, kind soul,” Emily tried to explain. But Margaret only pursed her lips and found new reasons to criticise Mark. To her, he seemed entirely different from who he’d claimed to be to her daughter! And it was her motherly duty to open Emily’s eyes to this empty man, before it was too late! No education, not sociable, no interests! Spends his weekends slumped in front of the telly, “tired from work”, apparently! And Emily wanted to spend her whole life with such a person? Not if Margaret had anything to say about it. Emily would thank her in the end. And if they had children, what could this man possibly teach her, Margaret’s, future grandchildren!? Margaret was tremendously disappointed. Mark, feeling Margaret’s disapproval, started avoiding her too. They spoke less and less, and Margaret refused to visit their home. Emily’s father, an easy-going type aware of his wife’s temperament, decided to stay neutral. But then, late one evening, Emily called Margaret with a trembling voice: “Mum, I didn’t mention before, but I’m away overnight on business. Mark caught a chill on the building site, came home early from work, feeling rotten. I’ve tried phoning, but he’s not answering.” “Emily, why on earth are you telling me all this?” snapped Margaret. “You two are so independent, you don’t seem to care about your parents at all! Who knows how I’m feeling—seems no one’s bothered! And you ring in the middle of the night to tell me Mark’s sick? Are you serious?” “Mum,” Emily’s voice wavered—she did sound genuinely worried, “I’m just sad you don’t want to understand that we really love each other. You think Mark’s not worthy, not a real man—he’s not like that at all! How could you think I, your daughter, would fall for a bad person? Don’t you trust me?” Margaret was silent. “Mum, please—I know you still have a key to our place. Please, would you just check on him? I’m really worried something’s wrong. Please, Mum!” “All right, but only for you,” Margaret relented, waking her husband. No one answered their knock at Emily and Mark’s flat, so Margaret opened the door with her key. Inside was darkness, maybe he had gone out? “Maybe he’s not at home?” ventured her husband, but Margaret gave him a stern look as Emily’s worry began to infect her. In the lounge, she was horrified to find Mark collapsed oddly on the sofa, clearly burning with fever! The paramedics roused Mark: “Don’t worry—looks like your son’s caught a nasty bout after working through a cold. Does he work long hours?” the paramedic asked kindly. “He does, yes,” Margaret replied. “He’ll be all right, just keep an eye on his temperature and call if anything changes.” Mark slept on while Margaret sat in a chair, feeling bewildered at the bedside of the son-in-law she’d resented so much. He lay pale, his hair damp from fever. Suddenly, she was struck by compassion; asleep, he looked so much younger, his face softer than it had ever seemed. “Mum…” Mark whispered, half in a dream, reaching out for her hand, “Don’t go, Mum.” Margaret was taken aback, but she didn’t dare pull her hand away. She sat beside him until dawn. At first light, Emily rang again: “Mum, I’m so sorry—I’ll be home soon. No need to come back again, I think everything’s going to be all right.” “It has to be—you see, everything is fine,” smiled Margaret. “We’re waiting for you—everything’s just fine here.” ***** When her first grandson was born, Margaret instantly offered a helping hand. Mark, with gratitude, kissed her hand. “See, Emily—you said your mum wouldn’t want to help us!” And Margaret, proudly cradling baby Tom, wandered through the flat cooing to her grandson, “Well, Tommy, aren’t you a lucky lad—you’ve got the best mum, the best dad, and the best grandparents! You’re one blessed boy!” So, maybe there is some truth to the old saying—you can’t judge a person straight away. And, as Margaret learned, only love can help you truly understand.

Dont Go, Mum. A Family Story

As the saying goes in England: people arent open books, you know them only with time.

But Margaret Thompson was certain she was different shed always prided herself on reading people like a book.

Her daughter, Emily, had got married a year ago.

Margaret had always dreamed that Emily would find a good man, settle down, have children. And she, as the grandmother, would be at the heart of this big family, just as shed always wished.

James turned out to be quite bright, and, as a result, wasnt struggling for money either something he seemed rather pleased with. Still, Emily and James chose to live separately, in his own flat, and didnt seem to need her advice!

Margaret was convinced he was a bad influence on Emily.

This wasnt the way Margaret had pictured her family. James started to irritate her more and more.

Mum, you just dont understand James grew up in foster care, you know, Emily tried to explain. Hes made all his own way in life, hes strong and good-hearted.

But Margaret would merely purse her lips and find new flaws in James.

Now, he seemed entirely different to the man whod courted her daughter. It was, she thought, her duty as a mother to open Emilys eyes to such a shallow man before it was too late.

No proper education, stubborn, no apparent interests!

At weekends, hed just lounge in front of the TV Im tired, hed say.

And this was supposed to be the man her daughter would spend a lifetime with? Surely not! Emily would thank her in the end.

And children? What would her Margarets grandchildren possibly learn from a father like that?

Margaret was bitterly disappointed. James, sensing his mother-in-laws frosty attitude, began to avoid her entirely.

They spoke less and less, and Margaret flat-out stopped visiting their home.

Emilys dad, a gentle man, knowing his wifes ways, kept strictly out of the argument.

Then, late one evening, Margarets phone rang. It was Emily, and she sounded worried.

Mum, I didnt mention Im away on a two-day work trip. And James, he caught a chill at work on the building site. He even came home early, felt really rough. Now hes not answering his phone

What do you expect me to do about it, Emily? Margarets temper flared. You live your own lives you and your dad dont seem to care how Im feeling! Now you ring me up in the night to tell me James is ill? Are you serious?

Mum, Emilys voice trembled, really upset, I just wanted you to understand we love each other, and James isnt what you think, hes not empty or lacking. How could you believe that I, your daughter, would fall for a bad man? Dont you trust me?

Margaret held her tongue.

Mum, please you still have the spare key to our flat. Could you please go round? Im worried somethings happened to James! Please, Mum!

Fine, only for you, said Margaret, and went to wake her husband.

No one answered when they knocked at Emily and Jamess flat, so Margaret unlocked the door.

They entered the place was dark. Perhaps no one was in?

Maybe hes not home after all, her husband suggested, but Margaret shot him a sharp look. Emilys worry had rubbed off on her.

She stepped into the living room and froze. James was lying on the sofa in an awkward position. He was burning up!

The paramedic soon had him awake.

Dont fret, looks like your son-in-laws come down with complications after a cold. Mustve been working too hard and not letting himself recover? the paramedic said gently to Margaret.

Yes, he works a lot, she replied.

Hell be fine, just keep an eye on the fever and call if youre worried.

James slept, and Margaret sat, feeling uneasy there she was, watching over the son-in-law she couldnt stand.

He lay pale and feverish, his hair clinging to his forehead, looking younger and softer in sleep.

Mum, James suddenly murmured in a half-dream, grasping her hand, dont go, Mum.

Margaret was stunned, but didnt pull her hand away.

She stayed by his bedside until morning.

At dawn, Emily called.

Mum, Im sorry. Ill be home soon, really. Dont trouble yourself, things will be alright.

Of course, everythings fine now, Margaret smiled. Were waiting for you alls well here.

*****

When her first grandchild was born, Margaret was the first to offer help.

James kissed her hand with gratitude.

See, Emily you said your mum wouldnt want to help us.

And Margaret, holding baby William proudly in her arms, walked around the flat, cooing:

Well, Will, youve struck gold! Youve got the best mum and dad and a wonderful granny and granddad! Lucky boy, arent you?

So, as the old saying goes, people arent open books it takes time to truly know someone.

And only love will help you make sense of it all.

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Don’t Go, Mum: A Family Story British wisdom says you can’t judge a book by its cover, but Margaret was sure she’d always understood people perfectly well! Her daughter, Emily, had married just a year ago. Margaret had dreamt Emily would meet a good man, start a family, and she, the proud grandmother, would once again be the matriarch of her growing brood—just as she’d always been. Mark, the son-in-law, was sharp and successful, something he made no secret of. But the newlyweds moved into Mark’s own flat and didn’t seem to need Margaret’s advice—something she’d never expected! He was obviously a bad influence on Emily! This wasn’t at all what Margaret had planned, and soon enough, Mark was getting on her last nerve. “Mum, you don’t understand, Mark was raised in care. He’s worked for everything, he’s a strong, kind soul,” Emily tried to explain. But Margaret only pursed her lips and found new reasons to criticise Mark. To her, he seemed entirely different from who he’d claimed to be to her daughter! And it was her motherly duty to open Emily’s eyes to this empty man, before it was too late! No education, not sociable, no interests! Spends his weekends slumped in front of the telly, “tired from work”, apparently! And Emily wanted to spend her whole life with such a person? Not if Margaret had anything to say about it. Emily would thank her in the end. And if they had children, what could this man possibly teach her, Margaret’s, future grandchildren!? Margaret was tremendously disappointed. Mark, feeling Margaret’s disapproval, started avoiding her too. They spoke less and less, and Margaret refused to visit their home. Emily’s father, an easy-going type aware of his wife’s temperament, decided to stay neutral. But then, late one evening, Emily called Margaret with a trembling voice: “Mum, I didn’t mention before, but I’m away overnight on business. Mark caught a chill on the building site, came home early from work, feeling rotten. I’ve tried phoning, but he’s not answering.” “Emily, why on earth are you telling me all this?” snapped Margaret. “You two are so independent, you don’t seem to care about your parents at all! Who knows how I’m feeling—seems no one’s bothered! And you ring in the middle of the night to tell me Mark’s sick? Are you serious?” “Mum,” Emily’s voice wavered—she did sound genuinely worried, “I’m just sad you don’t want to understand that we really love each other. You think Mark’s not worthy, not a real man—he’s not like that at all! How could you think I, your daughter, would fall for a bad person? Don’t you trust me?” Margaret was silent. “Mum, please—I know you still have a key to our place. Please, would you just check on him? I’m really worried something’s wrong. Please, Mum!” “All right, but only for you,” Margaret relented, waking her husband. No one answered their knock at Emily and Mark’s flat, so Margaret opened the door with her key. Inside was darkness, maybe he had gone out? “Maybe he’s not at home?” ventured her husband, but Margaret gave him a stern look as Emily’s worry began to infect her. In the lounge, she was horrified to find Mark collapsed oddly on the sofa, clearly burning with fever! The paramedics roused Mark: “Don’t worry—looks like your son’s caught a nasty bout after working through a cold. Does he work long hours?” the paramedic asked kindly. “He does, yes,” Margaret replied. “He’ll be all right, just keep an eye on his temperature and call if anything changes.” Mark slept on while Margaret sat in a chair, feeling bewildered at the bedside of the son-in-law she’d resented so much. He lay pale, his hair damp from fever. Suddenly, she was struck by compassion; asleep, he looked so much younger, his face softer than it had ever seemed. “Mum…” Mark whispered, half in a dream, reaching out for her hand, “Don’t go, Mum.” Margaret was taken aback, but she didn’t dare pull her hand away. She sat beside him until dawn. At first light, Emily rang again: “Mum, I’m so sorry—I’ll be home soon. No need to come back again, I think everything’s going to be all right.” “It has to be—you see, everything is fine,” smiled Margaret. “We’re waiting for you—everything’s just fine here.” ***** When her first grandson was born, Margaret instantly offered a helping hand. Mark, with gratitude, kissed her hand. “See, Emily—you said your mum wouldn’t want to help us!” And Margaret, proudly cradling baby Tom, wandered through the flat cooing to her grandson, “Well, Tommy, aren’t you a lucky lad—you’ve got the best mum, the best dad, and the best grandparents! You’re one blessed boy!” So, maybe there is some truth to the old saying—you can’t judge a person straight away. And, as Margaret learned, only love can help you truly understand.