I have become disillusioned with my family, and specifically with my spouse and his
mother. I am thirty-five years old, and not long ago I divorced my husband. We had been married for about fifteen years.
We had a nice life, but then all of a sudden it all went to hell. Recently. my husband has been saying he’s not happy with me. His love for me had grown cold.
Everything changed abruptly four years ago. He started a never-ending list of complaints about me: the wrong way I cook, the wrong way I iron, the wrong way I dress and wear makeup, the urgent need to lose weight, etc.
He constantly tells me that I am not up to par everywhere. I was very bitter about it and it didn’t occur to me what I was doing wrong after all. But that is all in the past now. After all, I have a new life now, I have a child with me, and his father sometimes comes to visit him.
And for some reason my mother-in-law has been coming over lately. Granddaughter to visit. It so happened that we struck up a friendship with her, after which it turned out that she was quite a wise woman.
On top of everything else she turned out to be a first-rate psychologist. Thanks to what it was extremely helpful in many worldly matters. So gradually I began to trust and respect her. And one day I became a witness of her telephone conversation in which she was discussing me with her friend.
In this conversation, she eloquently called me a lousy bride, and then began to tell me why she was afraid to leave alone with her grandson. That’s when it dawned on me where all this concern and advice came from. She was telling her sister-in-law that I was no match for her son. So I’m not!
Now I don’t know how to let her see her grandson anymore. And I was a fool to believe in her sincerity. And how can I trust people after that. Please tell me if anyone is in a similar situation. Since I really can not understand what to do.
