My mother-in-law is trying to ruin my marriage. The saddest part is my husband doesnt believe me.
Living in Someone Else’s Flat? Pay the Rent!
“I don’t even know if my daughter’s wedding will go ahead. Everyone’s fallen out, and my future son-in-law’s lost the plot. With only two weeks to the big day, he’s acting up. I have no idea how this will end, I feel so sorry for my daughter,” sighs Helen.
“Why is everyone arguing?”
“You won’t believe it—it’s all about the new flat. We wanted to do something special for the newlyweds, so we put together every last penny, even sold our cottage in the country and the garage, just to afford a flat as a wedding gift. It’s in my daughter’s name. But since they’re about to marry, what does it matter whose name is on the deed?”
“Well, exactly…”
“That’s how both myself and my husband see it. The flat, of course, is a blank slate. It needs a full renovation and furnishing, but we’ve nothing left in savings. My husband suggested we all pitch in on the renovation so they could move in as soon as possible. But the fiancé flat out refused to do any work!”
“Why’s that?”
“Because, in his eyes, it’s not his flat. He doesn’t want to put time or money into a property he doesn’t own. He said we should handle renovations ourselves. He’ll pick up a few basics, but has no intention of spending much on it.”
“Maybe they should just live in it as is, without a renovation?”
“That’s impossible, the flat’s completely bare. And to top it off, all the water and electrics need redoing, floors and walls are a mess, old windows are about to fall apart, and it needs at least basic finishing touches,” Helen explains.
“I really don’t see how anyone could live there, even I’m not that easy-going. How can young people start off in a dump like that? It’s embarrassing. My future son-in-law works at a major company, he’s paid well, but he’s too tight with money. You see, he wants to save for a home of his own so he’s never at risk of being left with nothing. Basically, he wants to live off us. He insists we pay for all the work ourselves. So I told him if he thinks it’s someone else’s flat, he should pay us rent! He laughed and agreed,” sighs Helen.
“What does your daughter think?”
“She’s in tears, very upset. She loves him terribly, but we just can’t add his name to the deeds. She says now she doesn’t want a flat, or a renovation. But I don’t like that he won’t invest in the family at all. What comes next? They’re not even married and they’re already fretting over divorce and splitting assets,” Helen says.
Do you think my future son-in-law should invest in the flat? He’s planning to live there, start a family, make it a home. Does it really matter whose name is on the paperwork? Or is his position logical? What would you do if you were in his shoes? Someone elses flat? Then pay rent! “I honestly dont know anymore if my daughters wedding will even happen.
Im off on holidayIm not here to babysit anyone! My mother-in-law left me in the lurch, but I got my own back.
You ought to be fixing up my flat, not swanning off on holiday! My mother-in-law has a bone to pick with
Im going on holiday, Im not here to babysit anyone! My mother-in-law let me down, but I gave her a taste
You know, I sometimes think back to how money really did buy me a younger version of myself.
My Husband Only Thinks of Himself—He Eats Absolutely Everything and Never Leaves Anything for Our Son!
“Adam, where have all the bananas gone?” I ask my husband.
“I ate them, I fancied some.”
“Couldn’t you have left even one for our son’s tea?”
“You’re just making a fuss. It’s not like the shops have run out of bananas.”
“Then go and get some more.”
“I’ve got a football match. How can I go?”
This is how things are in our home all the time: cottage cheese, biscuits, apples—you name it. I even have to hide food, otherwise with a father like this, my little boy might end up hungry.
We’ve been married for five years, and our son’s nearly two. We’ve got a mortgage, so money is tight. My husband claims he’s the breadwinner because he got us this home—although, in truth, he just sold his single-bed flat for the deposit, with my parents’ help. My mum thinks Adam is a selfish so-and-so, and honestly, I tend to agree.
One day, we were preparing for a birthday party. I’m cooking for the guests and he’s constantly under my feet, emptying the plates. The worst was when he got at the cake. I’d left it on the balcony because the fridge was full. I went to fetch it, and all that was left was one decorated slice of chocolate. Imagine how embarrassed I was!
This happens all the time. Sure, he works, but it’s possible to be sensible and think of others. His only excuse: “We’ll buy some more, don’t stress!” Fine, don’t think about me, but how can a father not think about his own child? Especially when we barely have enough money, and I’m counting on every bit. He can easily eat a month’s worth of food in a week.
“Why are you bothering him? He’s a man, let him eat. He earns the money. Don’t whinge, just cook more,” my mother-in-law defends him.
Thing is, no matter how much I cook, it’s never enough—he’ll eat everything. We can’t afford to just buy more, with the mortgage, the clothes, the bills.
After all this, I told my husband that if he does it again—we’re getting divorced. We’ll split the flat and go our separate ways. He took offence, ran to his mother, and now my mother-in-law isn’t even speaking to me. But I honestly think I’m right. What do you think? My husband only ever thinks of himself. He eats absolutely everything, not leaving a crumb for even the
As luck would have it, Ive always been someone who sets clear goals and goes after them. By the time
My husband’s cousin arrived. Perhaps I’m old-fashioned, and maybe things are different nowadays
I woke this morning to the faint, pained moans of my mum. For a moment, I lay still, uncertain if Id