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I stopped cooking and cleaning for my grown-up sons and the result really surprised me. Mum, why hasnt

My Beloved Is Still Married to His Wife and Has a Daughter – Living as a Family While He Won’t Divorce Her

My beloved is still married to his wife and has a daughter. I love my husband very dearly. Weve been

Why Bring Your Own Food? For Five Years, I Cooked and Hosted Christmas Alone for My Husband’s Sister and Brother and Their Families—Last Year I Divided the Work, But Now They Won’t Help, and My Mother-in-Law Wants Another Celebration at My House. When I Asked Everyone to Share the Cooking—Me Making Two Hot Dishes and Cake, The Rest Bringing Salads, Fish, Meat, Cheese, Fruit, and Drinks—Suddenly No One Had Time, and They Said They’d Rather Celebrate at Home. Now I Don’t Know How to Tell My Mother-in-Law, Who Will Be Very Upset—Should I Host Christmas Alone Again This Year, or Stand My Ground?

Why Should You Bring Your Own Food? For the past five years, my husbands sister and brother, with their

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How My Son’s Mother-in-Law Stole Him Away from Us Ever since our son got married, he refuses to visit us—he’s always at his mother-in-law’s house. She always needs urgent help. I can’t even imagine how she managed before her daughter married our son. Our son has been married for over two years. After the wedding, the newlyweds moved into the flat we bought for him when he started university. He’s always had our support and understanding. Even before the wedding, he lived on his own since his flat was close to his work. I won’t say I didn’t like my daughter-in-law—she just never seemed mature enough for married life, despite being only two years younger than our son. She often acted like a child and was quite moody at times. Our son is such a kind soul, and I always wondered how he’d manage life with someone so childish. After meeting her and her mother, I realised what kind of people they are. Despite being my age, my son’s mother-in-law acts like a child herself. Maybe you’ve met people who behave like children even when they’re older? They’re very immature and helpless. When her daughter got married, she was already on her sixth divorce. We never had much to say to each other—she was in her own world, though she didn’t try to invade ours. Our communication rarely went beyond the polite congratulations at the wedding. The warning signs started even before the wedding—the daughter-in-law would constantly drag our son over to her mum’s: a leaking tap, a socket to fix, a kitchen shelf that had fallen down. The first time, I let it go—there wasn’t a man in the house, so of course, an extra pair of hands would help. But the issues at her house never seemed to end. Our son started ignoring us, always saying he and his wife were off to her mother’s. Soon after, they began spending every holiday at his mother-in-law’s, leaving only me, my father, and my mother-in-law alone here. It was bad enough when our son stopped coming to all family celebrations, but it hurt even more when he started ignoring our requests for help. When we bought a new fridge and asked our son for help moving it, he agreed at first, but later he called to say he couldn’t because he and his wife were going to her mum’s again—this time about a leaking washing machine. When my husband rang him, we overheard my daughter-in-law saying, “Couldn’t your parents just hire movers?” Our son did turn up, but he was in a vile mood. “Dad, couldn’t you have just booked a removals team? Now I have to lug this thing myself!” That’s when I lost my patience. Why couldn’t his mother-in-law just call a specialist herself? Is she living in a parallel universe where those don’t exist? My son said the poor woman needed help because everyone tries to cheat her nowadays—they’ll take her money and not fix a thing. At that point, my husband snapped and said, “Maybe your mother-in-law doesn’t know much about appliances, but she’s certainly a skilled shepherd—she’s managed to lead one sheep perfectly.” Our son stormed out, furious with his dad. I didn’t interfere—as much as I agreed with my husband that our new in-laws had made themselves very comfortable on our son’s back, he could have put it more gently, and now our son refuses to see him and is upset with me too. After that row, our son hasn’t spoken to his dad for more than two weeks. His father won’t be the first to make amends. I feel torn—caught between a rock and a hard place. Of course, my husband is right, but he could have put it more kindly. Now my son is offended, and I risk losing him altogether over something so petty. Neither will give way—they both say the other should apologise first. Meanwhile, his mother-in-law seems to be having the time of her life! — **How My Son’s Mother-in-Law Took Him Away from Our Family: Ever Since He Got Married, He’s Always at Her House—Now There’s Always an Emergency Needing His Help, and He Hardly Sees Us Anymore**

How My Son Was Drawn Away by His Mother-in-Law It feels like it was just yesterday, though many years

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My Mother-in-Law Demanded a Spare Key to Our Flat, But My Husband Defended My Right to Privacy

Mother-in-law Demanded a Duplicate Key to Our Flat, but My Husband Took My Side Friday, 12th October

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My Younger Brother Chose to Live with His Mother-in-Law, and We Still Can’t Understand Why He Did This… My younger brother got married far too young, at just 18. It felt like he was desperate to assert his independence. From the moment he was born, I looked after him – my own childhood ended the day he came home from the hospital. As he grew up, got married and moved out, his life changed dramatically, unfortunately not in a good way. His wife, whom he married at a similarly young age, had a strong and rather unpleasant personality. From the first day we met, we never liked her. She lacked tact and basic manners, and we weren’t impressed by her appearance either. I couldn’t understand what my brother saw in her. They moved into a flat just down the road from us, at his mother-in-law’s. His father-in-law was a quiet, slightly odd man – he barely spoke, and when he did, it was mostly a nod. His mother-in-law loved being in control, barking out orders that everyone felt obliged to obey. She was constantly criticising and reprimanding my brother, and his wife was never satisfied with him either. The way they treated my brother infuriated me. I tried to speak to him about it, but he insisted everything was fine, that his wife loved him and they were happy with their life. However, over time, I noticed he changed. He became like his father-in-law, barely voicing his own opinions, just nodding along. In the end, his patience ran out; he simply couldn’t take it anymore. One day, he packed up his things and left without a word. I’d never seen anything like it before – my brother in that state… He bitterly regretted marrying so young. Everyone has their breaking point, and when you reach it, sometimes the only option is to quietly walk away from an intolerable situation.

You know, I still cant quite figure out why my little brother decided to go live with his mother-in-law.

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Living in Someone Else’s Flat? Then Pay the Rent! “I don’t even know if my daughter’s wedding will happen. Everyone’s fallen out, and the future son-in-law has gone off the rails. There are only two weeks to go and he’s acting up. I feel so sorry for my daughter,” complains Alina. “Why is everyone arguing?” “You won’t believe it, but it’s over a flat. We wanted to make the young couple happy, so we used all our savings and bought them a flat as a wedding gift. We had to sell our little cottage by the lake and the garage just to afford it. The property is in my daughter’s name. But they’re getting married anyway—so what difference does it make whose name it’s in?” “Exactly…” “That’s what my husband and I think too. Now, the flat’s totally bare. It needs renovating and furnishing, but we’ve got no savings left. My husband suggested to our son-in-law-to-be that we all pitch in to get the place ready so they can move in quickly. But he refuses to help with the renovation!” “Why not?” “Because it’s not his flat! He won’t invest in property he doesn’t own. He said we should do the renovation ourselves. Maybe he’ll buy a few bits and bobs, but he won’t spend any real money.” “So why don’t they just move in as it is?” “They can’t. It’s completely empty and needs new plumbing and electrics, the floors and walls need evening out, the old windows are about to fall out—they need to be replaced. At the very least, it needs basic finishing,” says Alina. “I think it’s impossible to live in such a state, even though I’m not hard to please. How can young people live in a dump like that? It’s embarrassing! My future son-in-law works for a big company and makes good money, but he doesn’t want to spend it. He wants to save up for his own place so he’s not left without a roof over his head. “So it seems he wants to live at our expense. He’s demanding we pay for the renovation. So I told him, if he thinks it’s someone else’s flat, then he should pay rent! He just smiled and agreed,” Alina sighs. “What does your daughter say?” “She’s very upset and cries all the time. She loves him very much, but we can’t add him to the flat’s deeds. Now she says she doesn’t want the flat or the renovation at all. But I dislike that he’s unwilling to invest in their family. What’s going to happen next? They’re not even married and already thinking about divorce and splitting the assets,” says Alina. Do you think my future son-in-law should invest in this flat? He plans to live there, start a family, settle in. Does it really matter whose name is on the deeds? Or is his position logical? What would you do in his shoes?

Living in someone elses home? Pay for your stay! I sometimes wonder if my daughters wedding will ever

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ONE TRUE LOVE On the Day of His Wife’s Funeral, Fyodor Showed No Tears—Rumours Swirl in the Village: Did He Ever Love Zina? Was It Glafira or Katya After All? As Orphaned Twins Struggle and Family Secrets Unfold, Only the Village Knows the Truth of the Silent Man’s Heart

ONCE A HEART, ALWAYS A HEART At his wifes funeral, Edward didnt shed a single tear. See, told you, he

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My Husband’s Sister Asked Us to Watch Our Nephews, Then Went Missing for Three Days

My husbands sister once left her children with us and disappeared for three days Please, Emily, please!

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Why Bring Your Own Food? For Five Years, My Husband’s Sister and Brother and Their Families Celebrated Every Christmas With Us—While I Did All the Cooking, Hosting, and Cleanup. Last Year, I Reached My Limit and Asked Everyone to Share the Responsibilities. Now My Mother-in-Law Wants Another Get-Together at Our Place, But No One Else Wants to Help Bring Food or Pitch In, and They’d Rather Celebrate at Home Than Share the Load. Should I Host Christmas Alone Again—Or How Do I Tell My Mother-in-Law the Truth?

Why Bring Your Own Food? My husbands sister and brother, along with their families, have celebrated every