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27 March 2023 My marriage ended a few months ago, and I’ve since moved into a modest flat in Croydon.

“When Was the Last Time You Truly Looked at Yourself in the Mirror?” he asked. His Wife’s Surprising Response Changed Everything Alex sipped his morning coffee, stealing glances at Marina. Her hair was tied back with a child’s hairband, decorated with cartoon kittens. Next door, Ksenia always seemed vibrant and fresh, her expensive perfume lingering in the lift. “You know,” Alex put his phone down, “sometimes I feel like we live together… well, more like neighbours.” Marina paused, cleaning rag frozen in her hand. “What do you mean?” “Oh, nothing. Just… when did you last really look at yourself in the mirror?” She looked at him closely. Alex realised things weren’t going as he expected. “When was the last time you looked at me?” Marina replied softly. An awkward pause hung between them. “Marina, don’t make this a drama. I just mean—a woman should always look amazing. It’s basic! Look at Ksenia, and she’s your age.” “Ah,” Marina said. “Ksenia.” Her tone made Alex uneasy, as if something important had suddenly dawned on her. “Alex,” she said after a moment, “let’s do this. I’ll move in with Mum for a bit. Think about what you said.” “Fine. We’ll live separately, think things through. But I’m not throwing you out!” “You know,” Marina hung the rag carefully on a hook, “maybe I really do need to look in the mirror.” She went to pack her suitcase. Alex sat in the kitchen, thinking: “This is what I wanted.” But somehow, it didn’t feel satisfying—more empty than anything. For three days, Alex lived in a kind of holiday: coffee in the morning, no rush, evenings doing what he liked. No melodramatic TV shows. Freedom, right? Real, man’s freedom. One evening, Alex bumped into Ksenia by the block entrance. She carried bags from Waitrose, tottering in heels and a perfect dress. “Alex!” she smiled. “How are you? Haven’t seen Marina lately.” “She’s at her mum’s. Taking a break,” he lied easily. “Ah.” Ksenia nodded knowingly. “Women need a respite now and then. From housework, from routine.” She spoke as if she’d never set foot in household drudgery herself, as if dinner just materialised. “Ksenia, maybe we could grab coffee sometime? Just as neighbours.” “That’d be lovely,” she smiled. “Tomorrow night?” Alex spent the night planning. Which shirt? Jeans or chinos? Don’t overdo the aftershave. In the morning the phone rang. “Alex?” Came an unfamiliar voice. “It’s Ludmila, Marina’s mum.” His heart skipped a beat. “Yes, I’m listening.” “Marina asked me to say she’ll pick up her things on Saturday when you’re out. She’ll leave the keys with the concierge.” “Wait, she’s picking up her things?” “What did you expect?” There was steel in the mother-in-law’s voice. “My daughter isn’t going to spend her life waiting for you to decide if you need her.” “I didn’t say anything like that—” “You said quite enough. Goodbye, Alex.” She hung up. Alex sat at the kitchen table, staring at his phone. What the hell? He wasn’t getting divorced! He’d just asked for a break—to think. They’d decided everything without him. Coffee with Ksenia felt strange. She was pleasant, chatted about her banking job, laughed at his jokes. But when he tried to take her hand, she gently pulled away. “Alex, understand—I can’t. You’re married.” “But we’re… well, living apart now.” “For now. What about tomorrow?” Ksenia looked at him, searching. Alex walked Ksenia home and went back to his quiet, bachelor-smelling flat. Saturday. Alex deliberately left, to avoid drama or tears. Let her take her things in peace. By three o’clock he was jittery with curiosity. What did she take? Everything? Just essentials? And how did she look? At four he couldn’t stand it and went home. Outside was a car with local plates. At the wheel, a man around forty, good-looking, in a nice jacket, helping someone load boxes. Alex sat on a bench and waited. Ten minutes later, out stepped a woman in a blue dress. Her dark hair was in a beautiful clip—no childish hairbands. Her makeup highlighted her eyes. Alex stared in disbelief. It was Marina. But different. She carried the last bag. The man instantly helped her, gently seating her in the car—handling her like crystal. Alex couldn’t help himself. He walked up to the car. “Marina!” She turned. Her face was calm and beautiful. Not tired as he remembered. “Hello, Alex.” “Is that… you?” The man at the wheel tensed, but Marina softly assured him it was fine. “Yes,” she answered simply. “You just haven’t really looked at me in a long time.” “Marina, wait. Can we talk?” “About what?” No anger in her voice, just surprise. “You said a woman should look amazing. So I listened.” “But that’s not what I meant!” Alex’s heart was pounding. “What did you want, Alex?” Marina tilted her head. “For me to become beautiful, just for you? Interesting, but only at home? To love myself, but not so much that I’d leave a husband who couldn’t see me?” He listened, and with every word, something inside him shifted. “You know,” Marina said gently, “I realised I’d stopped caring for myself. But not because I was lazy—because I’d got used to being invisible in my own house, my own life.” “Marina, I didn’t mean—” “You did. You wanted an invisible wife—who does everything, but doesn’t get in your way. And when you’re bored, you trade up for a brighter model.” The man in the car said something quietly. Marina nodded. “We have to go, Alex. Vladimir’s waiting.” “Vladimir?” Alex’s mouth went dry. “Who’s that?” “A man who sees me.” Marina answered. “We met at the gym—Mum’s flat is near a fitness centre. Imagine, at forty-two I went to my first ever workout class.” “Marina, don’t. Let’s try again. I get it now—I was an idiot.” “Alex,” she looked at him carefully, “do you remember the last time you said I was beautiful?” He fell silent. He couldn’t remember. “The last time you asked how I was?” And Alex realised—he’d lost. Not to Vladimir, nor circumstances. To himself. Vladimir started the engine. “Alex, I’m not angry. Really. Thanks to you, I understood something important: if I can’t see myself, no one else will.” The car drove away. Alex sat on the bench and watched his life leave—not just his wife, but the last fifteen years he’d considered routine, and now understood was happiness. He just hadn’t realised it before. Six months later, Alex bumped into Marina at the shopping centre—by chance. She was picking out coffee beans, reading labels carefully. Next to her, a young woman—about twenty. “Let’s get this one,” she said. “Dad says arabica’s better than robusta.” “Marina?” Alex approached. She turned and smiled easily. “Hello, Alex. Meet Nastya, Vladimir’s daughter. Nastya, this is Alex, my ex-husband.” Nastya nodded politely—pretty, probably a uni student. She looked at Alex curiously, with no hostility. “How are you?” he asked. “Good. And you?” “Not bad.” An awkward pause. What do you say to an ex-wife who’s changed so much? They stood amidst the coffee shelves, and Alex looked at her—tanned, new haircut, light blouse. Happy—genuinely happy. “And you?” she asked. “How’s your love life?” “Not much happening,” he admitted. Marina looked at him thoughtfully. “You want a woman—beautiful like Ksenia, quiet like I used to be. Smart, but not so smart she’ll notice the way you look at others.” Nastya listened wide-eyed. “That woman doesn’t exist,” Marina said calmly. “Marina, let’s go?” Nastya chimed in. “Dad’s waiting in the car.” “Yes, of course.” Marina grabbed the coffee. “Good luck, Alex.” They walked off. Alex stood amid coffee shelves, thinking: Marina was right. He was searching for a woman who didn’t exist. That evening Alex sat in his kitchen, drank tea. Remembered Marina, who she’d become. Sometimes, losing something is the only way to realise how valuable it was. Maybe happiness isn’t about finding the ‘perfect wife’. It’s about learning to see the woman beside you.

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My Son Isn’t Ready to Be a Father… “You Shameless Girl! Ungrateful Pig!” Natalie’s mother shrieked at her, not caring who heard. Her daughter’s rounded belly did nothing to soften her fury—if anything, it only fueled it. “Get out of my house and never come back! I never want to see you again!” This time, she meant it. Although her mother had thrown her out before over less serious matters, this pregnancy was the last straw. Tear-stained and clutching a small suitcase with her few belongings, Natalie stumbled to her boyfriend—a bewildered teenager who hadn’t even told his parents she was expecting. Nazar’s mother, upon discovering the news, immediately asked whether it was too late to do anything. But it clearly was; Natalie’s pregnancy was undeniable. “You’re just not ready to be a father,” Nazar’s mother declared, her voice firm. “You’re too young, she’ll ruin your whole life. We’ll help, of course, but for now, I’ve organised a place for you at a rehabilitation centre—a shelter for pregnant girls with nowhere to go.” At the centre, Natalie finally found a little peace. She was given a small room, support from a psychologist, and the first opportunity to rest in a long time. When she finally held her baby daughter in her arms, panic struck. But slowly, as Christmas approached, love began to grow. Just as she recovered, the centre warned her that she’d have to move on—a new arrival needed her room. Alone with her month-old baby Eve, Natalie wondered what to do next. Her own mother refused to even look at her or her granddaughter, having wiped both from her life. “It’s so sad, little one—what a gloomy Christmas Eve this is for us,” Natalie whispered, remembering happier days. As a child, she’d loved carolling, darting from house to house, singing Christmas songs and earning pocket money. The thought struck her: maybe she could carol again. Wrapping Eve up warmly, she set off. Knocking on doors, Natalie found few people willing to open up to a lone woman with a baby—most expected groups of children or men. But when she did get inside, her heartfelt carols moved people. They gave her generous tips—and even food—often becoming teary at the sight of the tiny baby in her arms, recognising that she must be desperate to go carolling as a single mum. The streets were cold and the journey tough, but Natalie pressed on. “Just one more house,” she said, eyeing a grand villa that looked promising. She was let in, but the homeowner’s reaction stunned her. He stared at her face, looked at her baby, and suddenly sat down heavily on the sofa, pale as a sheet. “Hope?” he asked quietly. “I’m sorry? I’m Natalie… Perhaps you’ve confused me with someone else?” “You look so much like my late wife… and your baby, is she a girl?” “Yes.” “I had a daughter once… but I lost them both in a car crash. Just the other night, I dreamed they came home. And now—you—you’re here, just like in my dream.” Unsure what to say, Natalie hesitated, but the man gently invited her in and asked to hear her story. Soon, Natalie found herself sharing everything—her troubles, her fears, her daughter’s birth—with someone who truly listened. As the baby slept, occasionally smiling in her sleep, Natalie felt, perhaps for the first time, that they’d finally found somewhere they just might belong—a place that could become home.

The Son Was Not Ready to Be a Father Harlot! Thankless swine! Margaret shrieked at her daughter, Emily

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— You Don’t Need to Sit at the Table. You’ll Serve Us! — My Mother-in-Law Declared. I stood by the stove in the quiet morning kitchen, wrinkled pyjamas on, hair tied up carelessly. The scent of toast and strong coffee filled the air. My 7-year-old daughter was perched on a stool, nose buried in her colouring book, drawing careful swirls with felt tips. “Making those healthy toasts again?” came a voice behind me. I jumped. My mother-in-law stood in the doorway—her face set in stone, voice brooking no argument, curls gathered in a stern bun and lips pursed, her dressing gown immaculate. “I had whatever I fancied for lunch yesterday!” she continued, snapping her tea towel at the edge of the table. “No soup, nothing proper. Can you cook eggs? Proper eggs, not your fancy modern fads!” I turned off the hob and opened the fridge, swallowing my anger. Not in front of my daughter. Not in a space that echoed: “You’re only here temporarily.” “It’ll be ready soon,” I managed, turning so she wouldn’t see how my voice trembled. My daughter didn’t lift her gaze from her pens, but watched Granny from the corner of her eye—quiet, wary, alert. “Let’s Just Stay With My Mum for a Bit” When my husband suggested moving in with his mum, it sounded… rational. “We’ll just stay a little while—two months max. It’s close to work, our mortgage should come through soon. She’s fine with it.” I hesitated. Not because I fought with my mother-in-law—we were always polite. But I knew the truth: Two grown women in one kitchen? That’s a minefield. His mum lived for order, control and moral verdicts. But we had no choice—our old flat sold quickly and the new one wasn’t ready yet. So, all three of us moved into her two-bedroom apartment. “Just temporary.” Living Under Her Rules The first few days, she was pointedly polite—set out an extra chair for our daughter, even served pie. By day three, the rules began. “In my house there is order,” she announced at breakfast. “We get up at eight. Shoes stay on the rack. Every food item is checked with me. And the TV’s quiet—I have sensitive hearing.” My husband just smiled and waved it off: “Mum, we’re only here for a bit. We can cope.” I nodded quietly. “Cope” started to sound more like a sentence. Disappearing Bit by Bit A week passed. Then another. Her regime grew stricter. My daughter’s drawings were cleared off the table: “In the way.” She removed my checkered tablecloth: “Impractical.” My cornflakes vanished from the shelf: “Old—probably off.” My shampoos were “relocated”: “Cluttering the place.” Soon, I felt more like a mute housekeeper than a guest. My food was “not right.” My routines were “unnecessary.” My child was “too loud.” And my husband kept saying: “Just put up with it. It’s Mum’s flat. She’s always like this.” Day by day, I disappeared. I was no longer the calm, confident woman I’d been. Just endless adapting. Endless enduring. Living By Rules That Aren’t Mine Every morning, I got up at six to claim the bathroom, cook porridge, get my child ready and avoid my mother-in-law’s ire. Each evening, I made two dinners: One for us. One “by standard” for her. No onions. Then, with onions. Then only in her saucepan. Then only with her frying pan. “I don’t ask much,” she’d say with sharpness. “Just do things properly. The way they should be done.” The Day the Humiliation Went Public One morning, just after I’d washed my face and switched on the kettle, she marched into the kitchen. “My friends are coming round today. At two o’clock. You’re at home, so you’ll lay the table. Pickled gherkins, salad, something for tea—the usual.” Her “usual” meant a spread fit for a celebration. “Oh… I didn’t know. The ingredients…” “You’ll shop. I’ve made you a list. Nothing complicated.” So I dressed, went shopping. Bought everything: Chicken, potatoes, dill, apples for pie, biscuits… Back home, I cooked non-stop. By two, the table sparkled; chicken roasted, salad crisp, pie golden. Three pensioners arrived—hairset and perfumes from another era. Instantly, I knew I wasn’t “part of the company.” I was “the help.” “Come on, sit with us,” my mother-in-law smiled. “To serve us.” “To serve you?” I repeated. “What’s the harm? We’re old, you’re young.” So there I was: Tray in hand, ladles, bread. “Pour the tea.” “Pass the sugar.” “We’re out of salad.” “The chicken’s dry,” muttered one. “Pie’s overbaked,” complained another. I gritted my teeth, smiled, cleared plates, poured tea. No one asked if I wanted to sit. Or take a breath. “How lovely to have a young housewife!” my mother-in-law announced with fake warmth. “Everything depends on her!” And in that moment… something broke inside me. That Night I Spoke the Truth After everyone had left, I washed every dish, packed away leftovers, washed the tablecloth. Then I sat at the edge of the sofa, empty cup in hand. Outside, darkness fell. My child slept, curled up tight. My husband sat beside me, glued to his phone. “Listen…” I said quietly, firmly. “I can’t do this anymore.” He looked up, surprised. “We live like strangers. I’m just here to serve everyone. And you… do you even see it?” He didn’t answer. “This isn’t a home. It’s a life where I constantly bend and stay silent. I’m here with our child. I don’t want to endure months more. I’m done being convenient and invisible.” He nodded… slowly. “I understand… I’m sorry I didn’t notice sooner. We’ll start flat hunting. Anything, so long as it’s ours.” We began looking that very evening. Our Home – No Matter How Small The flat was poky. The landlord left old furniture. The floor creaked. But when I crossed the threshold… I felt free. Like I finally had my own voice. “There we are,” my husband sighed, dropping the bags. My mother-in-law didn’t say a word. Didn’t stop us. I don’t know if she was hurt, or just understood. A week passed. Mornings began with music. My daughter drew on the floor. My husband made coffee. I watched it all and smiled. No stress. No rushing. No more “just cope.” “Thank you,” he said one morning, wrapping me in his arms. “For speaking up.” I looked him in the eyes: “Thank you for listening.” Life wasn’t perfect now. But it was our home. Our rules. Our noise. Our life. And it was real. ❓And what about you: If you were in her shoes, would you stick it out “just for a while,” or pack your bags after the first week?

And youve no reason to sit at the table. Youre here to serve us! declared my mother-in-law.

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How Gran Left Her Newborn Grandson Outside the Maternity Hospital

Margaret was sixty and finally ready to retire, though she wasnt in any hurry. After her shift she changed

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Valerie Was Doing the Washing Up in the Kitchen When John Walked In—But Only After Switching Off the Light. “It’s Still Bright Enough, No Need to Waste Electricity,” He Grumbled. “I Was Going to Use the Washing Machine,” Said Valerie. “Do It Tonight, When the Electricity’s Cheaper,” John Replied Sharply. “And Don’t Run the Tap So Hard. You Waste Far Too Much Water—Far Too Much. Surely You Understand You’re Just Flushing Our Money Down the Drain?” He Turned Down the Tap. Valerie Looked at Her Husband with Sadness, Dried Her Hands, and Sat at the Table. “John, Have You Ever Looked at Yourself From the Outside?” She Asked. “Every Day,” He Snapped Back. “And What Do You See?” She Continued. “As a Man?” He Clarified. “As a Husband and a Father.” “Average, I Guess,” He Responded. “Neither Better nor Worse Than the Rest. Why Are You Nagging?” “Do You Really Think All Husbands and Fathers Are Like You?” Valerie Asked. “Are You Picking a Fight?” John Shot Back. Valerie Knew There Was No Turning Back—This Conversation Needed to Happen Until He Finally Understood Living With Him Was Pure Misery. “Do You Know Why You’ve Never Left Me, John?” She Asked. “Why Should I Leave You?” He Retorted. “Because You Don’t Love Me. Or Our Children.” John Tried to Shoot Back, But She Continued. “And Don’t Say Otherwise. You Don’t Love Anyone. And I Won’t Argue—No Point Wasting Time. I Want to Talk About Why You Haven’t Left Me and the Kids.” “Well? Why Not?” “Because of Your Stinginess—Because You’re So Incredibly Tight-Fisted That You See Leaving Us As a Financial Disaster. How Many Years Together? Fifteen? What Have We Achieved? Apart From the Obvious—Getting Married and Having Kids. What Achievements in Fifteen Years?” “We’ve Still Got Our Whole Lives Ahead,” John Said. “No, John. Not Our Whole Lives—Just What’s Left. In All Our Time Together, We’ve Never Once Had a Holiday by the Sea, Not Even in Britain. Always in the City. Not Even a Day Out for Foraging. Why? Because It’s ‘Too Expensive.’” “Because We’re Saving for Our Future!” John Insisted. “We? Or You? Every Month You Take All the Money and Squirrel It Away ‘for the Family.’ Really? Our Account? Let’s Check—Give Me Some Money for Clothes for Me and the Kids. It’s Been Fifteen Years Since I Bought Anything New—Still Wearing My Old Wedding Outfit and Hand-Me-Downs From Your Brother’s Wife. So Do the Kids. And I Want to Rent a Flat—Tired of Living in Your Mum’s Place.” “Mum’s Given Us Two Rooms, You Shouldn’t Complain. And As for Clothes, Why Waste Money? The Kids Can Wear What Their Cousins Outgrew.” “What About Me? Whose Cast-Offs Should I Wear—Your Brother’s Wife’s?” “Who Are You Dressing Up For?” John Sneered. “You’re a Mum of Two, You’re 35! You Shouldn’t Worry About Outfits.” “And What Should I Worry About?” “The Meaning of Life. Your Spiritual Growth is More Important Than Clothes, Flats, or All That ‘Women’s Rubbish.’” “So That’s Why You Keep All the Money to Yourself—for Our ‘Bright Future,’ So We Can Grow Spiritually?” “Because I Can’t Trust You—You’d Spend It All! How Would We Survive if Anything Happened?” “And When Exactly Will We Start ‘Living,’ John? Haven’t You Noticed We Already Live As If the Worst Has Happened—Scrimping on Everything, Even Soap and Toilet Paper, Stealing Hand Cream From Work—‘Every Penny Counts.’ Tell Me, How Much Longer Must We Endure? Ten Years More? Twenty? How Old Do I Have to Be Before We Can Finally Afford Decent Toilet Paper?” John Stayed Silent. Valerie Guessed, “Forty? No, Too Soon! Fifty? Still Too Soon? Sixty, Maybe? Or Will We Just Never Start Living At All?” Still Silence. “You Know What, John? What If We Don’t Make It to Sixty? We Eat So Much Cheap Rubbish Because You’re So Tight, and We’re Always Miserable—Don’t You Know That Miserable People Don’t Live Long? But Even If We Moved Out and Ate Properly, You Couldn’t Save Your Precious Money.” “Exactly,” Said Valerie. “That’s Why I’m Leaving—I’m Done With Constant Saving. I Don’t Want This Any More. You Can Keep Saving—I Won’t.” “How Will You Live?” John Was Horrified. “I’ll Manage—Rent My Own Place, Buy Clothes and Food, and Most of All, I Won’t Have to Endure Your Lectures on Penny-Pinching. I’ll Use the Washing Machine in the Day, Buy Nice Toilet Paper and Napkins, Shop Without Waiting for Sales, and Yes, I’ll Spend Every Penny—Even Your Maintenance Payments. I’ll Drop the Kids at Yours on Weekends and Go to Theatres, Restaurants, and By the Summer, I’ll Have a Seaside Holiday—Haven’t Decided Where Yet, But I Will.” John Felt Terrified—Not for Her or the Kids, But for Himself. What Would Be Left After Child Support? Especially If She Started Travelling and Spending ‘His’ Money? “One More Thing,” Valerie Said. “The Joint Account You Guard So Jealously—We’ll Split It. Half Each. And I’ll Spend My Share, Too. Every Penny. When My Time Comes, I Want My Account at Zero—That’s How I’ll Know I Truly Lived for Myself.” Two Months Later, John and Valerie Were Divorced.

Margaret was washing the dishes in the kitchen when Edward came in, flicking off the lights as he entered.

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Not Again! Max, Take Him Away! Anya Frowned at Toby, Who Was Clumsily Bouncing by Her Feet. After All That Time Deliberating, Researching Breeds, and Consulting Dog Trainers, They Had Finally Settled on a German Shepherd—Looking for Loyalty, Protection, and Companionship—Yet Ended Up with a Goofy Puppy Who Needed Rescuing from Even the Local Cats… Now, Living on the Ground Floor of a Classic Red-Brick London Terrace with a Newborn Daughter, Surrounded by Her Husband’s Ever-Growing Collection of Antiques and Rare Books, Anya Began to Doubt Their Decision. With Her Curator Husband Off at the British Museum or Scouring Portobello Market Most Days, Anya Found Herself Alone with Baby Katie and Their Lovable, Not-So-Fearsome Guard Dog—That Is, Until the Morning a Burglar Chose Their Flat and Discovered That Even the Silliest Dog Can Become a True Hero.

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“Only After the Wedding!” she declared to her fiancé.

12October2025 Ive never written so much in one entry, but todays events deserve a proper record.

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Even 30 Years of Marriage Is No Reason to Put Up With Infidelity Elena turned a small velvet box over in her hands—the fabric worn, the gold letters faded. Inside, three tiny sapphires glittered. Beautiful stones, she had to admit. “Five hundred,” said Oliver, scrolling through his tablet. “Bought it at Goldsmiths with my loyalty card.” “Thank you, darling.” Something clenched in her chest, and not at the price. What were finances at their age? It was the tone—so casual, as if he were reporting on buying milk. Thirty years married. Their Pearl Anniversary—rare these days. Elena had risen early, laid out the lace-trimmed tablecloth—her mother-in-law’s wedding gift—and started baking a “Bird’s Milk” cake, the one Oliver used to call “a slice of heaven.” Now he sat glued to his screen, barely grunting at her questions. “Oliver, do you remember how you promised to take me to Italy for our thirtieth?” “Hmm,” not looking up. “I thought, perhaps, at least we could visit Cornwall together? It’s been a while since we had a getaway.” “Elena, I’ve got a project. Not now.” Always a project. Especially in the last year and a half, when Oliver suddenly became obsessed with youth—joined a gym, bought pricey trainers, changed his wardrobe. Even got a fashionable haircut—fringe to the side, shaved temples. “Midlife crisis,” her friend Sarah had said. “All men go through it. It’ll pass.” It hadn’t. It only got worse. Elena slipped the ring on—perfect fit. After all these years he at least knew her size. The stones sparkled with a cold kind of shine. “Lovely,” she repeated, inspecting it. “Yes. Trendy setting. Youthful style.” Over dinner, they sat in near silence. The cake was as usual—soft, light. Oliver nibbled a slice, complimented it automatically. Elena watched him and wondered: when had her husband become a stranger? “And who’s this woman?” she asked suddenly. “What woman?” Oliver finally looked up. “The one who picked this ‘youthful’ ring.” “What’s she got to do with it?” “Oliver,” she said evenly, “I’m not stupid. A woman chose it. No man says ‘youthful style.’” The pause was long. Awkward. “Elena, don’t be ridiculous.” “Is her name Alice?” Oliver paled. Didn’t even ask how she knew, which meant she was right. “I saw your messages, by accident. Last month, when you asked me to find the insurance number in your phone. ‘Sunshine, see you soon’—ring a bell?” He was silent. “Twenty-eight. Works at your office. Yesterday, she posted a photo from that restaurant—your favourite table by the window. I recognise the tablecloth.” “How did you know about the restaurant?” “Sarah saw you. By chance. People talk in this town.” Oliver sighed heavily. “Fine. Yes, there is Alice. But it’s not what you think.” “And what is it?” “She gets me. She’s easy to be with. We talk about books, movies.” “And you can’t talk with me?” “Elena, look at yourself! You complain about the kids, your health, prices in the shops. With Alice I feel alive.” “Alive,” Elena repeated. “I see.” “I never meant to hurt you.” Oliver hung his head. “Does she know you’re married?” “She does.” “Doesn’t mind dating a married man?” “Elena, she’s a modern woman. She doesn’t have any illusions.” “Modern,” Elena scoffed. “Thirty years with you—is that an illusion?” She stood, began clearing up. Hands shaking, though she tried not to show it. “Elena, let’s talk sensibly.” “There’s nothing to talk about. You’ve made your choice.” “I haven’t chosen anyone!” “You have. Every day you choose: coming home late, pretending to be away on business, buying her gifts with our money.” “Our money!” “Mine too—I work as well, in case you forgot.” Elena washed up, loaded the rack. Folded away the lace tablecloth. Everything as usual. Only her hands kept trembling. “Elena, what do you want?” Oliver asked from the kitchen doorway. “I want to be alone. Tonight. To think.” “And tomorrow?” “I don’t know.” She didn’t speak for two days. Oliver tried to talk, but got only polite one-word replies. On day three, he cracked. “How long will this go on?” “What’s wrong with it?” Elena asked while ironing his shirt. “I do everything—cooking, cleaning, laundry. Just as always.” “But you’re not talking!” “You’ve got Alice for that.” “Elena!” “What? You said yourself—I’m boring, we’ve nothing to talk about. Why force it?” He left that evening, said he was off to see friends. Elena knew better—he was going to her. She browsed Alice’s profile online: pretty, young, photos from fancy resorts, trendy clothes, champagne in hand. A recent post: “Life is beautiful when you’re with someone who truly appreciates you.” Tags: love, happiness, mature man. Mature man. Elena smirked—as if he was just a product feature. Comments from friends underneath: “Alice, when’s the wedding?”, “Lucky you!”, “What will his wife say?” Alice replied: “Their marriage is just formal. They’re like neighbours.” Thirty years—like neighbours. Next morning Elena booked a solicitor. A young man with glasses listened kindly as she told her story. “Right. Shared assets are split equally—flat, cottage, car. If we prove infidelity, you could claim a larger share.” “I don’t need more,” Elena said. “Just what’s fair.” She came home and made her list: Flat—sell and split. Cottage—for him. I won’t go back there. Car—for me. He can get a new one. Bank accounts—shared. Oliver came in late, saw the list. “What’s this?” “Divorce.” “Are you mad?” “No. I’ve finally come to my senses.” “Elena! I told you—it’s just a phase. It’ll pass!” “And if it doesn’t? Am I to wait another thirty years for you to get it out of your system?” Oliver collapsed onto the sofa, palms over his face. “I never meant to hurt you.” “But you did.” “What am I supposed to do now?” “Choose,” Elena said. “Either your family, or Alice. There’s no third option.” For three months they lived truly as neighbours. Oliver took the spare room. Only spoke when necessary. Elena signed up for English classes, swimming, started reading the books she’d always saved for “later.” Alice called now and then, sobbed into the phone. Oliver went onto the balcony, whispering for ages. One night he came home early, sat opposite Elena. “I’ve broken up with her.” “Why do I need to know?” “Elena, I’ve realised. I was an idiot. I made a terrible mistake.” “Agreed.” “Can we try again? I’ve changed.” Elena put down her book. “Oliver, you left Alice not because you value me, but because you got tired of her. The next ‘Alice’ will appear in a year or two.” “It won’t! I promise!” “Oh, it will. Because you’re not losing me—you’re losing youth. And I can’t help that.” “Elena—” “Divorce papers are ready. Sign them.” He did so. No shouting, no arguments about dividing assets. Elena took only what she’d outlined. Six months later, she met Roman—a widower her own age, an English teacher. They met at evening classes. He invited her to the theatre. “You know, Elena,” he said over coffee after the show, “I love talking to you. You’re an outstanding conversationalist.” “Really? My ex-husband always said I was boring.” “Then he clearly wasn’t listening.” Roman listened. He valued her thoughts, laughed at her jokes, and spoke openly, never pretending to be younger than he was. “And what do you look for in a woman?” Elena asked him once. “Intelligence. Kindness. Honesty. What about you in a man?” “Integrity. And someone who’s comfortable with his age.” They laughed. Sometimes Oliver called, sent holiday greetings, asked after her health—like an old acquaintance. “And are you happy?” he asked once. “Yes,” Elena answered without hesitation. “And you?” “I’m not sure. Probably not.” “Well, we all make choices.” She still keeps the ring he bought for five hundred. She doesn’t wear it—it sits in her jewellery box as a reminder of how easily thirty years can be made worthless. Roman gave her an antique brooch for her birthday—a market find, inexpensive, but chosen with love. “Beauty isn’t about money,” he’d said, “It’s about what it means when you give it.” And Elena realised life doesn’t end after fifty. It can begin anew. What do you think? Can you start fresh in your fifties? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Even thirty years of marriage isnt a reason to tolerate betrayal Helen twirled a tiny box between her

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