How My Son Was Taken Away by His Mother-in-Law Ever since our son got married, he hardly ever visits
How My Son Was Taken Away by His Mother-in-Law Ever since our son got married, he hardly ever visits
Living in Someone Else’s Home? Then Pay the Rent!
“I don’t even know if my daughter’s wedding will happen. Everyone’s arguing, and my future son-in-law has gone off the rails. Just two weeks to the wedding, and he’s lost the plot. I feel so sorry for my daughter,” confides Alison.
“Why are you all fighting?”
“You won’t believe it—it’s over the flat. We wanted to do something special for the young couple, so we pooled all our savings and bought a flat as a wedding present. We even had to sell our lakeside cottage and garage to cover the cost. The property is registered in my daughter’s name. But since they’re getting married, what difference does it make whose name is on the deeds?”
“Exactly…”
“That’s what my husband and I think. The place, of course, is completely empty. It needs a total renovation and some furniture, but we haven’t got any savings left. My husband suggested to our future son-in-law that we all pitch in and sort the flat out together, so they can move in as soon as possible. But my son-in-law refuses to do any work!”
“Why not?”
“Because he says it’s not his flat. He doesn’t want to put money into a property that isn’t in his name. He said we should do the renovation ourselves. He might buy a few little things, but he has no intention of spending much.”
“So maybe they should just live there as is, without any renovations.”
“That’s impossible—it’s completely bare. Plus, it needs all the plumbing and electrics redone, the floors and walls levelled, and the old windows really have to go before they fall apart. At least some basic work needs doing,” says Alison.
“In my opinion, nobody could live in those conditions. I’m not fussy, but how can a young couple live in such a dump? It’s embarrassing. My future son-in-law works in a big company; he earns a good salary, but he’s tight with his money. You see, he wants to save for a place of his own, so he’s never left without a roof over his head.
“It turns out he wants to live at our expense. He insists we pay for the refurbishment. So I told him: if you think the flat isn’t yours, then pay rent! He just smiled and agreed,” sighs Alison.
“What does your daughter make of all this?”
“She’s utterly distraught and keeps crying. She loves him dearly, but we can’t put his name on the deeds too. Now she says she doesn’t want the flat or the renovation. But I don’t like that a man won’t invest anything in his family. What’s next? They’re not even married and already thinking about splitting up and who would get what,” says Alison.
Do you think my future son-in-law should invest in this flat? He’s planning to live there, start a family, settle down. Does it really matter who owns it on paper? Or is his position reasonable? What would you do in his situation? Someone else’s home? Then pay the rent! I find myself thinking about it now, all these years later
You wouldnt believe the drama going on with Adams parentsthey just wont let it go, and theyre obsessed
So, my mother-in-law offered to help out with the kids over the summer. Shes retired now and has loads
So, my mother-in-law offered to help out with the kids over the summer. Shes retired now and has loads
You know, I sometimes think back to how money really did buy me a younger version of myself.
You know, I sometimes think back to how money really did buy me a younger version of myself.
My Husband Only Thinks of Himself—He Eats Absolutely Everything and Never Leaves Anything for Our Son!
“Adam, where have all the bananas gone?” I ask my husband.
“I ate them, I fancied some.”
“Couldn’t you have left even one for our son’s tea?”
“You’re just making a fuss. It’s not like the shops have run out of bananas.”
“Then go and get some more.”
“I’ve got a football match. How can I go?”
This is how things are in our home all the time: cottage cheese, biscuits, apples—you name it. I even have to hide food, otherwise with a father like this, my little boy might end up hungry.
We’ve been married for five years, and our son’s nearly two. We’ve got a mortgage, so money is tight. My husband claims he’s the breadwinner because he got us this home—although, in truth, he just sold his single-bed flat for the deposit, with my parents’ help. My mum thinks Adam is a selfish so-and-so, and honestly, I tend to agree.
One day, we were preparing for a birthday party. I’m cooking for the guests and he’s constantly under my feet, emptying the plates. The worst was when he got at the cake. I’d left it on the balcony because the fridge was full. I went to fetch it, and all that was left was one decorated slice of chocolate. Imagine how embarrassed I was!
This happens all the time. Sure, he works, but it’s possible to be sensible and think of others. His only excuse: “We’ll buy some more, don’t stress!” Fine, don’t think about me, but how can a father not think about his own child? Especially when we barely have enough money, and I’m counting on every bit. He can easily eat a month’s worth of food in a week.
“Why are you bothering him? He’s a man, let him eat. He earns the money. Don’t whinge, just cook more,” my mother-in-law defends him.
Thing is, no matter how much I cook, it’s never enough—he’ll eat everything. We can’t afford to just buy more, with the mortgage, the clothes, the bills.
After all this, I told my husband that if he does it again—we’re getting divorced. We’ll split the flat and go our separate ways. He took offence, ran to his mother, and now my mother-in-law isn’t even speaking to me. But I honestly think I’m right. What do you think? My husband only ever thinks of himself. He eats absolutely everything, not leaving a crumb for even the
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