— And There’s No Need for You to Sit at the Table. You’re Here to Serve Us! — My Mother-in-Law Announced. I Stood by the Stove in the Quiet of the Early Morning Kitchen — in a crumpled pyjama, hair hastily tied back. The air was filled with the scent of hot coffee and golden toast. On the stool by the table, my 7-year-old daughter sat with her nose buried in a sketchbook, drawing colourful swirls with felt-tip pens. — Are you making those diet toasts again? — a voice rang out behind me. I jumped. There she was at the door — my mother-in-law, stone-faced, her hair pinned in a tight bun, lips pursed, wearing her dressing gown. — By the way, yesterday I had any old thing for lunch! — she continued, snapping a tea towel against the table. — No soup, nothing proper. Can you make eggs? Proper ones, not your… modern ideas! I turned off the hob and opened the fridge. A tight coil of frustration twisted inside my chest — but I swallowed it. Not in front of my child. And not in this kitchen, where every inch seemed to whisper: “You’re just a guest here.” — I’ll get onto it — I managed to say, turning away so she wouldn’t see my voice shake. My daughter kept her eyes fixed on her pens, but watched her gran from the corner of her eye — quiet, wary, on edge. “We’ll Live with My Mum for a Bit” When my husband suggested we move in with his mum, it sounded fairly reasonable. — We’ll stay with her — just for a short while. Two months at most. It’s close to work and we’ll have the mortgage approved soon anyway. She’s fine with it. I hesitated. Not because of conflict with my mother-in-law. No. We always kept things polite. But I knew the truth: two grown women in one kitchen — a minefield. And she was the kind who needed control, order, and moral judgement. But I didn’t really have a choice. We’d sold our old flat quickly and the new one wasn’t ready. So the three of us moved into my mother-in-law’s little two-bedroom. “Just for a bit.” Control Became the Daily Routine The first few days were peaceful. My mother-in-law was especially polite, even put out an extra chair for the child and offered us pie. But on the third day, “the rules” began. — In my home, there’s order — she declared at breakfast. — Up by eight. Shoes on the rack only. Groceries, we coordinate. And keep the telly lower — I’m sensitive to noise. My husband just waved a hand, smiling: — Mum, it’s only for a bit. We’ll manage. I nodded quietly — But “we’ll manage” began to sound like a sentence. I Started to Disappear A week passed. Then another. The routine grew stricter. My child’s drawings vanished from the table: — They’re in the way. The checked tablecloth I’d laid out was removed: — Not practical. My cornflakes disappeared from the cupboard: — Left them too long, must be stale. My shampoos were “moved”: — Don’t leave them lying about. I felt less like a guest and more like someone who had no voice, no say. My food was “wrong”. My habits — “unnecessary”. My child — “too noisy”. And my husband kept saying the same thing: — Bear with it. It’s Mum’s home. She’s always been like this. Day by day, I lost myself a little more. Soon, there was hardly anything left of the confident, relaxed woman I’d been. Just endless compromise and patience. Living by Rules That Weren’t Mine Every morning I got up at six, just to nab the bathroom first, make porridge, get my child ready — and avoid falling foul of my mother-in-law. Every evening I made two dinners. One for us. One “by the book” for her. No onions. Then with onions. Then only in her saucepan. Then only in her frying pan. — I don’t ask for much — she’d say reproachfully. — Just something proper. The way things should be. The Day the Humiliation Went Public One morning I’d barely managed to wash my face and flip on the kettle when my mother-in-law swept into the kitchen, as if barging in was normal. — My friends are coming today. At two. You’re home anyway, so you’ll lay the table. Pickles, salad, something for tea — nothing special. With her, “nothing special” meant a feast. — Oh… I didn’t know. Shopping… — You’ll buy everything. I’ve made you a list. It’s nothing complicated. So I got dressed and went to the shop. Bought everything: chicken, potatoes, dill, apples for pie, biscuits… I came back and cooked non-stop. By two everything was ready: table laid, chicken roasted, salad fresh, pie golden. Three pensioners arrived — smiling, permed, perfumed in that old-fashioned way. Within a minute it was clear I wasn’t “part of the group.” I was “the help.” — Come here, sit beside us — my mother-in-law beamed. — To serve us. — Serve you? — I echoed. — What’s the fuss? We’re elderly. You can manage. And so there I was again: with tray, spoons, bread. “Pour the tea.” “Pass the sugar.” “We need more salad.” — The chicken’s a bit dry — one muttered. — The pie’s overdone — added another. I gritted my teeth. Smiled. Collected plates. Poured tea. No one asked if I wanted to sit. Or catch my breath. — Isn’t it lovely having a young housewife around! — my mother-in-law gushed with fake warmth. — Keeping it all together! And at that moment… something in me snapped inside. That Evening I Spoke the Truth When the guests left, I washed the dishes, put away leftovers, laundered the tablecloth. Then I sat at the end of the sofa holding an empty mug. Dusk was falling outside. My child slept curled up in a ball. My husband sat next to me, lost in his phone. — Listen… — I said quietly, but firmly. — I can’t do this anymore. He looked up, surprised. — We’re living like strangers. I’m just here to serve. And you… do you even notice? He didn’t answer. — This isn’t a home. It’s a life where I’m always making myself small and staying silent. I’m in this with our child. I won’t do this for months. I’m tired of being convenient and invisible. He nodded… slowly. — I understand… I’m sorry I didn’t see it sooner. We’ll find a place. We’ll rent anything — as long as it’s ours. We started our search that very night. Our Home — Even If It’s Small The flat was tiny. The landlord had left old furniture. The floorboards squeaked. But as I stepped through the door… I felt lighter. Like I’d finally got my voice back. — So… we made it — my husband sighed, dropping the bags. My mother-in-law said nothing. She didn’t even try to stop us. I didn’t know if she was offended, or just realised she’d gone too far. A week passed. Mornings began with music. My child drew on the floor. My husband made coffee. And I watched and smiled. No stress. No rushing. No more “just bear with it.” — Thank you — he said one morning, hugging me. — For speaking up. I looked him in the eye: — Thank you for listening. Life wasn’t perfect now. But it was our home. With our rules. Our noise. Our life. And that was real. ❓ And what about you: If you were in this woman’s place, would you have managed to “put up with it for a bit”, or would you have left after the first week?