A few months ago, I began sharing things on social media. Not because I want to be famous, and certainly not for attention. Honestly, I just enjoy it. I like filming recipes, sharing snippets of daily life with my daughter, and capturing the little moments around our home. Nothing staged, nothing polishedsimply everyday videos from my kitchen or living room, taken as I go about my day.
From the very start, my husband seemed uneasy. It began with offhand commentsquestioning why I bother, who on earth is going to watch me, and whats the point of posting these clips. I always told him I wasnt after anything, just that it was a pleasant distraction for me. But he never quite saw it the same way.
One day, he came right out and said he believed I was doing it to attract male attention. That I wanted other men to like me or look at me. I was completely taken aback. My videos are mostly about food, my daughters packed lunches, the odd recipe that turned out wellnot exactly showing off, not even remotely glamorous. I dont post myself in swimsuits, I dont dance, and Im certainly not flaunting anything.
The most ridiculous part is that I have exactly 99 followers. Ninety-nine! Half of them are my own familycousins, aunts, old friends from school. I told him as much. I even showed him my profilelet him read the comments. Still, he insisted it wasnt about the numbers, but about my intentions. He said I was looking for something.
This is when the arguments began. Every time I reached for my phone to record, hed look at me sideways. If I uploaded anything, hed ask who had watched it. If someone left an emoji, hed interpret it as flirting. Once, he even asked me to show him my private messages, which I didnt even have. He said I was disrespecting him as my husband.
Its gotten to the point where I no longer film without feeling tense. I now second-guess every post. I feel like Im under constant scrutiny. What started as a harmless hobby has become a real source of stress. He says Im changing, that Im not the same person anymore, that I want to show off. All I feel is that whatever I do now, it could be twisted into something else.
To this day, I post far less than I would like. Not because I dont want to, but because every upload feels like inviting another row. I wish I knew what to do.











