So, Ive been seeing my boyfriend for about two years now. He actually proposed, and of course I said yes. But what got me a bit confused is how he wasnt in any hurry for us to move in together.
He still lived in his parents three-bed flat, and I was staying in university halls. I personally think its important that you really live together before getting married, you know, just to see how you handle things day in and day out, get used to each others quirks and all that. So I told him straight up, but he sort of brushed it off as if he didnt quite get where I was coming from. Then, as luck would have it, his parents went off on holiday for two weeks, so we finally had the chance to stay together.
I treated that like a real trial run made sure I was the perfect housemate. I was cooking, cleaning, keeping everything neat as a pin. Every day, I whipped up all sorts of nice meals for him, tried my best to keep him happy.
The only hiccup? Well, when I asked him to help with the hoovering, he flat out said he wasnt about to do womens chores. Apparently, in his family, the blokes are meant to look after the finances, not pitch in around the house with their wives. I didnt say anything just thought maybe when we actually live together things might change.
By the time his parents got back, the flat looked absolutely spotless. I wanted them to be impressed, so I even baked a cake and cooked a decent dinner before heading back to mine.
But the very next day, Tom told me his mum wasnt happy with me at all. She said I hadnt been a good hostess and that she wasnt pleased with how things had gone. Honestly, I was floored the place was way messier when I first visited! Why would she bad-mouth me like that? She wouldnt even try my home-made treats and said they looked unappealing. I felt really hurt by it.
I get the impression she just doesnt want her son moving out and maybe hopes hell settle for someone she likes more. I say that because since the parents came back, Toms been really cold with me, hardly sees me or even bothers to call. Im starting to think the weddings probably not going to happen now.
What do you reckon?
