You know, my partners relatives are pretty odd. I can honestly tell you, unlike many families, theyve never tried to poke their noses into our business or interfere with our decisions, and they always treated me as their own, which I genuinely appreciate. But, Ill admit, theres something that gets under my skintheyre firmly convinced that everyone should sort themselves out, even though theyre quite well-off and inherited a good chunk from their own family. Sure, I agree that being independent matters, but sometimes I cant help feeling that a bit of support wouldnt go amiss, especially since were all family.
They actually have two other flats sitting empty after recent renovations, but when we casually mentioned how much wed love to live there, they just brushed it off. So, we end up moving from one rented flat to anotherconstantly unsettled. My family back in the countryside can barely support themselves, let alone help us financially, and trying to save for our own home feels absolutely impossible with our current situation. Our income just about covers the rent and a few basic needs; theres barely a penny left for savings or a little treat.
Ive tried, quite desperately, to explain our situation to my mother-in-lawdropping hints about how the instability is affecting our kids and how stressed we are about money. But her reply was heartbreaking. She went on about how we had kids too young and said that responsible people always put property first. It really stung, hearing her dismiss our worries and pin the blame for our struggles on us.
It leaves me torn. I dont want to cause any bad blood in the family, but it seems like they value their possessions more than the well-being of their own grandchildren. They do help occasionally, like looking after the kids, but I honestly dont know how to keep a good relationship with them moving forward. They always seem to choose their own comfort over supporting their sons family.
Still, I know theyre getting older and might need our help one day. Maybe then theyll realise what weve been going through, and theyll turn to us for support. Until that happens, though, Im at a loss for how to deal with this delicate situationbalancing my wish to stay on good terms with my disappointment in their indifference to their grandchildrens needs.
