Since I was the one who left our family for another man and caused our marriage to end, David felt that I owed him something for his broken heart. He refused to let me take our son, and our boy wanted to live with his father instead of me. Although it hurt, I couldnt persuade him otherwise or simply take him by force. The whole matter was sorted rather quicklythey let me go, and in return I began sending money once or twice a month.
At that time, my ex-husband had a job and earned a decent wage, but when he realised I had quite a bit saved and my new partner was also contributing to make sure my son lacked nothing, he quit working altogether and started living off the money we provided.
As our son grew up, David indulged him far too muchtakeaways for tea, skipping school whenever he fancied it, holidays abroad, and pricey household gadgets. Over time, our son developed a dismissive, entitled attitude and wanted to see me less and less. Whatever I bought him or did for him, Daddy would do it better, even though it was always with my money. At eleven years old, he hadnt even wondered how his father could afford such a lifestyle when he never worked and was always at home.
My current husband suggested it might be because I was giving them too much. We were also starting to think about our son’s future and his university education. It seemed wiser to begin saving for that, rather than letting my ex-husband spend everything on trivial whims. I personally told David about my decision, explaining that Id supported them long enough and that it was time he covered their expenses himself while I looked after our sons future. He lashed out, telling me what a terrible wife and mother Id been, and even threatened to take me to court for maintenance, accusing me of never giving them anything.
I sought legal advice, and the solicitors assured me not to worry about his threats; they said he wouldnt get far, especially since hed been living off my money for years without working himself. Still, I cant help but feel that Im the one losing out. Now my son resents me even more, convinced that I dont want to help his father at all.
