I never would have thought that the person who would hurt me the most would be my best friend. Emma and I have known each other for over ten years. Shes slept at my house, cried with me, knew my fears, failures, and dreams. I trusted her absolutely.
When I met Jack, I told her on the very first day. At first she pretended to be happy for me, but there was always something off in her reactions. She never said, Im happy for you, but instead, Just be careful. Not, He seems lovely, but, Dont get carried away. Every comment was like a warning disguised as concern.
Within a few weeks, the comparisons started. Shed tell me that he wasnt much different from my exes, that I always fall for the same sort of men. If Jack messaged me a lot, Emma would say it showed worrying intensity. If he went quiet for a few hours, then apparently he must be with someone else. There was never a middle ground with her.
The turning point came one night when the three of us went out for a drink in London. I nipped to the loo, and when I came back, I saw them talking very close together. It didnt seem obviously wrong, but the scene unsettled me. That evening, Emma texted me to say Jack was overly charming towards her and that she found it suspicious. I honestly didnt know what to think, but it made me anxious.
Everything unravelled from there. Every time I made plans with Jack, Emma got upset. Shed complain that I never had time for her anymore, that Id changed. She kept insisting that women should never lose their friends over a man. Yet, whenever I tried to arrange to see her, shed always make excuses.
Then came the most serious blow. She showed me supposed comments from people claiming to have had something with Jack. There were no messages, no proofjust rumours, things taken out of context from social media, and phrases like, Ive heard that I asked her why she hadnt mentioned this sooner. She said she didnt want to upset me, but she couldnt keep quiet any longer.
That same week, I started having arguments with Jack about things that never used to matter. I began doubting everything. For the first time, I checked his phone. I demanded explanations for things he didnt know how to explain. He grew exhausted. He told me he felt I didnt trust him and he couldnt understand where all this suspicion was coming from. Not long after, we ended thingsarguments upon arguments that no longer made sense.
The worst part came afterwards. A month later, I learned that my so-called best friend was in touch with him. First, she said it was to clear the air. Then, it was just meeting for coffee. Eventually, she admitted theyd been seeing each other regularly. When I confronted her, she didnt apologise. She told me she hadnt done anything wrong and that it was my own fault.
Jack said something to me that keeps echoing in my head:
I only did what you couldnt keep hold of yourself.
Thats when it all became clear. This was never care. It was never caution. It was competition. Emma couldnt stand to see me happy, moving forward, with something she didnt have. She didnt want to be left behind.
Today, I have neither the man nor the friend. But I finally have clarity. I lost two relationships, yes. But I gained something far more valuablethe certainty that not everyone who sits by your side and listens actually wants the best for you. Some are simply waiting for the right moment to drag you down.












