Today I turned 64still covering the expenses of my son, Stephen, who is now 33 and never really managed to move on.
I always dreamt of two simple things:
That my children would grow up healthy
And that one day, at least for a little while, I could finally rest.
No luxuries.
No grand holidays.
No indulgences.
Just rest.
But life had other plans.
Stephen, my eldest, finished universityyet couldnt secure a proper job.
He worked four temporary gigs.
All poorly paid.
None with security.
All with hours that felt like punishment.
He tried to rent a flat.
Couldnt scrape together enough for it.
Tried to save up.
Didnt manage it.
Tried to pull himself together.
The world struck him down with equal force.
So he returned home.
A backpack, a few shirts
And a quiet grief that he never dared speak aloud.
I welcomed him as only a mother could:
with a hot dinner, a tucked-in bed, and the words,
Dont worry, love Itll all work out.
Months passed.
Years slipped by.
My door never closed to him.
Then came my 64th birthday.
A modest cake.
Three candles.
One silent wish.
As I cut the first slice, Stephen overheard me say something that pierced him:
I just hope that someday I can stop working at least a year before I go.
His gaze fell.
Not from shame.
But from pain.
In that moment, he understood something hed refused to admit for so long:
It wasnt that he didnt want to move out.
It was that this country consigned even a well-educated adult to live like a penniless teenager.
Wages are never enough.
Rent is extortion.
Opportunities come few and far between.
And inflation spares no one.
I wasnt supporting an irresponsible son.
I was supporting a son whose wings had been clipped by the system.
And Stephen wasnt living off me.
He was part of a generation working harder
for less than ever before.
That evening, as he watched me wash up the dishes on my own birthday, Stephen silently promised me:
Mum, I wont let you spend the rest of your life providing for me.
Ill find a way out.
Even if it takes time.
Even if it hurts.
Even if I have to start from nothing, over and over again.
Because there are truths that split your heart in two:
So many parents keep supporting their grown-up children
not because they want to,
but because life has become more expensive than any dream.
And so many children stay at home
not to live for free,
but just to keep a roof over their heads.
FINAL WORDS
Dont judge the child still at home.
Dont dismiss the parent who keeps on giving.
Its not the family thats broken
Its the harsh reality theyre forced to face.











