My husband’s parents refuse to accept reality they keep trying to reconcile him with his ex-wife. Dont you see? They have a son together! my mother-in-law complains.
Im married to a man whose parents have never quite come to terms with the fact that their son got divorced, even though its been over four years now. Theyre still making constant efforts to reunite him with his ex. We got married three years ago, and our life together is happy.
My mother-in-law thinks her son acted rashly and foolishly. She insists that he ought to do everything in his power to rebuild the relationship with his ex-wifes family after all, his son is still part of that household.
When I first got to know William, he was already divorced. From what I understand, the divorce was mutual. His ex-wife even remarried not too long after, apparently to the man who was the catalyst for their split.
Maybe we made a mistake by marrying, who knows. My own mother encouraged us to get wed. His ex-wife fell pregnant and they werent even in love; they were simply seeing each other. If it hadnt been for the baby, I wouldnt have married her, thats how my husband explained it to me.
I was never bothered by his ex. In the beginning, I decided to observe more closely. It became clear that he didnt long for that old life he was entirely indifferent towards his ex-wife. She, too, was uninterested in him and only communicated regarding their son.
Its only Williams mother who cant accept how things are now. Nor can his father. They make constant attempts to bring the old family back together and have always frowned upon my relationship with William.
Youre both so young, your whole lives ahead of you. Why get involved in someone elses family? she would ask me when we were alone together.
I told her that, if William were still married, I would never have come between them. But hes single, and thats that. She wanted to argue further, but William walked in and she fell silent. At that moment, I realised it would never be possible to have a close relationship with her. I wasnt especially bothered.
We married and moved in together. I kept no contact with my in-laws, except the occasional family occasion. Even then, Id have to listen to her moaning about Williams previous family. William would try to quieten his mother, because he wasnt happy about it either, but it all just repeated itself again and again.
Weve not been in any hurry to have children. I cant picture myself as a mother just yet, and William already has a son. My mother-in-law is very pleased with that fact, at least.
The moment William got divorced, his mother took it upon herself to get involved. She kept inviting the ex-wife round for Christmas and birthdays, sighing about what a wonderful couple they had been. She praised her endlessly.
His ex-wife couldnt have cared less she was utterly unfazed, just turned up out of politeness. You could sense the complete lack of interest.
My mother-in-law tried to stir up jealousy in William about his ex and in me, too. Shed ring me up to ask if I knew where my husband was. If I didnt, shed assume he was with his ex-wife. Or shed send him over to see her for some reason or another. There were always some manipulations.
I am not a jealous person. Still, it gets on my nerves. If you look at William and his ex objectively, its obvious theres nothing between them and never will be. Having a child together only complicates things. William gives his ex money as maintenance, talks to his son from time to time, and brings him over to visit us. His ex-wife doesnt cause any drama, nor does she make demands or interfere in his new life. She actually strikes me as perfectly reasonable. They act like civilised adults; it just didnt work out and now theyve moved on with respect.
But my mother-in-law just cant see it that way. Shes always scheming behind the scenes. When will she stop? When will she finally wise up? William hopes everything will quiet down as soon as I give her a grandchild, but I have my doubts.












