Divorce Over the Woman Next Door
“Can you just explain to me, why of all the women in the world did you choose her? Why leave me for her?”
Maria struggled to keep her composure, feeling she had lost to Claire in every conceivable way. If only William had offered even a lukewarm excuseShes lively, carefree, less uptightnothing like you.
How could this happen, Maria? You two seemed so happy together wailed her mother, her sister, and nearly all her friends when the news of the forthcoming divorce became common knowledge.
We were, Maria would quietly agree. But we wont be anymore.
Maria, think it through before leaving a man like him. Hes a hard worker, adores the children, and he doesnt even want an end to your marriage…”
Whenever anyone said that, Maria gave them a lifelong ban: unfriended and blocked on social media, ignored on the street, erased from her real life as well.
Even her colleague from the officeonce a friendly facenow received only the coldest of greetings and a brisk nod.
When pressed for a return to heartfelt conversation, Maria made it unambiguously clear that unsolicited advice and being pushed to forgive her unfaithful husband were entirely unwelcome.
Yes, unfaithful! Maria still couldnt believe it herself.
Theyd had a perfectly normal life together. Twenty yearssince uni, evenenough time to season a lorry-load of salt, as the saying goes, together.
Theyd been through everything: the lean years, unemployment, their own illnesses, and those of their children.
Two kidsMichael and Lucythe whole family set. Their home was always neat, meals ready, Marias supposed headaches were non-existent.
She took care of herself, never treated William like a walking wallet, always made time for him and never dropped him once the kids came.
So what had her so-called husband needed more, that one fine day he just decided to stray?
And not just with anyoneif it had been a young woman, maybe that could be explained. But William was drawn, by heart or perhaps by baser instincts, to a divorcée with a child from the next street.
Just help me understand, what did you see in her?
Maria would burst out laughing or into tears in turns as the truth came out, and William had to stand and face her questions.
Can you just explain why, of all women, you chose her? Why leave me for her?
Claire had nothing over Maria. William might have said, Shes lively, less serious, not a bore like you, but even that failed him.
He couldnt identify a single admirable trait about Claire to justify the unraveling of their family.
Was he drunk? No, completely sober.
All William could mumble was, It just happened, begging with all the self-pity he could muster to be let back into the family.
But surprisingly to Claire, William never planned to actually divorce Maria or move in with his new flame.
He thought, much like a cat whod made a mess elsewhere, he could slip back into his warm bed at home, act as if Claire had never existed, and carry on as usual.
Perhaps it might have worked, if not for the fact that Claire became pregnant. Now, intent on securing a fathernot just for her unborn child but for her first as wellshe marched straight to Marias doorstep for a confrontation.
At first, Maria wouldnt believe it. How could she, after twenty years with a man she thought she knew through and through?
But Claire told her detailsbirthmarks, old scars, the kind of things you only know after close familiarity. The truth was undeniable.
William, cornered, had no choice but to confess and beg forgiveness.
Shockingly, some of Marias acquaintances sided with William. Not just their mutual friends, but work colleagues and distant relatives whod never treated him as anything special before…
Suddenly, everyone seemed to think Maria ought to forgive, forget, and carry on as though nothing had happened. Maria could not understand this at all.
Her former mother-in-law, desperate to keep the family together, pleaded with Mariapainting pictures of loneliness and hardship if she dared to remain on her own. She badgered the children, urging them to ask their mother not to divorce their father. Selfish and manipulative, but at least Maria could see the logic: a mother trying to fix her sons mess.
But why did it matter so much to others? Why did so many insist on clinging to a sinking ship? Was it just the English keep calm and carry on gone wrong? A culture that sometimes equates pain with virtue, urging everyone to simply endure?
Maria did not know. But she was not prepared to accept these expectations.
After all, she was her fathers daughter. And from her late dad, shed learned an invaluable lesson hed repeated time after time:
Maria, if anyone ever tells you youre selfish, or that you should simply put up with something, share, step aside, or forgive simply because thats how its done, or because some authority says sodont trust them. They just want to use you. Theyre solving their own problems at your expense.
Maria had kept that wisdom close to her heart, recognising that those guilt-laden arguments and subtle manipulations always surfaced at such times.
And she would let no oneno family, no friendsmanipulate her. Her children, she found, were made of the same stuff. After Maria filed for divorce, her ex-mother-in-law rang, demanding the kids unblock her on their phones and rekindle their relationship.
Shes relentless, sighed Lucy over dinner, handling for both herself and Michael, who was at his girlfriends place.
All she talks about is putting our family back togetherhow great it would be if you and dad made up, lived under one roof, over and over again. I said once, I said twice, thats not up to us, but she doesnt listen, just repeats herself. I blocked her until she snaps out of it and acts like a normal grandma.
Thank you, Lucy. I know you cant be finding this easy. Im glad youre not falling for her manipulation, not dancing to her tune.
Mum, Im not daft, Lucy replied, tired. I know what Dads done. If youd split up over where to go on holiday or what curtains to buy, maybe it could be fixed. But cheatingpeople dont forgive that, do they? Dad knew that. He still went to Claire
Ill always love him, hell always be my dad, butwhat did he expect? What does Gran think will happen now?
Maria had no answers. Only a month before, shed have wagered she could answer any of her daughters questions.
But sometimes there are no answers. How do you explain why a man, by all accounts decent for twenty years and a model husband and father, suddenly throws it all away?
Sure, people make mistakes, but William hadnt shown signs of disaster until… now. Was this his version of a midlife crisis?
Apparently, those restless urges ran deeper than Maria ever knew.
Years passed after the divorce, and Williams true colours only became clearer.
If Maria ever doubted her decision, she remembered her fathers advice. Life teaches you that standing up for yourself is not selfish but necessary. For when you allow others to dictate your value, your worth is lost to the opinions and comforts of those unwilling to walk in your shoes.
In the end, Maria realised: happiness is not about enduring what you cannot forgive. Its about honouring yourself enough to say enoughand teaching your children to do the same. That, she understood at last, was the way to live honestly, even when the world expects you to simply carry on.












