My father-in-law thought we would continue to support him.
My wifes father grew up in a cheerful and loving household. Sadly, when he was 57, his wife passed away. Naturally, it was a dreadful blow, and he struggled to cope. We decided to sell his flat, split the money, and move him in with us until he could come to terms with his loss. At the time, it seemed sensiblelike a proper family should.
We imagined hed stay with us for perhaps half a year, just long enough to find his feet and buy a new place of his own. Things didnt quite go according to plan. He grew rather attached to living with us. He never offered to contribute towards bills or the weekly shop, not a penny. Id end up cooking his meals, doing his washing, and tidying his room. He just went to work and enjoyed quite an easy life, truth be told.
He sailed along like this for over eleven years. As the years went by, he started lecturing us about how we should do things around the house and making up his own rules. Eventually, my patience wore thinwe simply had enough. Thats when we decided to help him buy a little house just outside the town. Hes still in good health and not exactly over the hill; theres absolutely no reason why he shouldnt manage on his own.
We sorted out a house for him, making sure everything was in place so he could settle comfortably. But then he suddenly started complaining about chest pains and all sorts of ailmentsstories, mostly to find excuses to stay with us. Frankly, I no longer want that. I just want a bit of peace with my immediate family. Im completely knackered. What should I do?
Looking back, I realise its vital to set up boundaries even with those you love. Support is one thing, but everyone needs their own space to liveand breathe.












