My Sister Wants Me to Move Out of the Apartment I Co-Own Because She’s Having a Baby – Is It Reasonable for Her to Expect This?

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My sister is asking me to move out of our own flat because shes expecting a baby. Is this really normal?

A long time ago, Mum and Dad bought a two-bedroom flat for me and my sister. They said that one day, wed be able to sell it and each get a one-bedroom place, so that wed both have our own homes.

Later on, my sister met someone, fell in love, and married him. She asked if Id mind if she and her husband moved in with me. I said yes, thinking Id be fine with the arrangement.

At first, it all worked out smoothly. But then my sister found out she was pregnant, and suddenly everything started to change. Now, she and her husband want me to move out so their baby can have my room. Shes already planning how to put the cot in my room and what colour to paint the walls, talking about it as if I havent lived there for years. Is this fair? Why should I be the one to leave, when I own half of the flat?

Im studying right now, and my only income is a student grant along with a part-time job. Theres no way I can afford to rent a flat in London with what I earn.

It started off as gentle hints, but now its full-on talk about me moving out. My sister speaks as though moving me out is a done deal. But Ive got no plans to leave, since I legally own a share of the flat.

I spoke to my parents about it. Mum just laughed and told me, Thats what pregnant women are like, love; itll blow over. Try not to take too much notice. But how am I supposed to ignore it when Im being pushed out of my own home day after day?

Sometimes it feels like Im a stranger in my own place, and my sister doesnt even consider seeing things from my side. What on earth should I do now?

In life, we often end up facing difficult choices, especially when it comes to family. But its important to remember to stand up for yourself while trying to understand where others are coming from. Clear communication and empathy might help everyone find a solution thats fairbecause kindness and respect, even in tricky times, are what truly make a house a home.

I was sitting at the table, clutching the photos that had just slipped from my mother-in-law’s gift bag. They weren’t cards. They weren’t well wishes. They were printed photos—like from a phone, deliberately developed, as if someone wanted them to last. My heart skipped a beat. The house was quiet. I could hear only the tick of the kitchen clock and the faint sound the oven makes when it’s keeping temperature. Tonight was meant to be a family dinner. Normal. Simple. Perfectly arranged. I’d set everything up just so. Tablecloth—immaculate. Plates—all matching. Glasses—the good ones. I even put out the ‘guest’ napkins I save for special occasions. And right then, my mother-in-law entered with her carrier bag and that same look of stern inspection she always gives. “I brought a little something,” she said, placing the bag on the table. No smile. No warmth. Just someone leaving behind evidence. I opened the bag out of politeness. And suddenly the photos spilled out, landing on the table like slaps. The first was of my husband. The second—him again. And on the third my head spun—my husband… and a woman beside him. She was in profile, but you could see enough to know she wasn’t random. Everything inside me tightened. My mother-in-law sat down across from me, fussing with her sleeve as if she’d just served tea rather than dropped a bombshell. “What is this?” I asked, and even I heard the odd, low tone in my voice. She took her time, sipped her water, and finally answered, “The truth.” I counted to three in my head, feeling my words tremble on my tongue. “The truth about what?” She leaned back, arms folded, scanning me like I’d somehow let her down. “The truth about the man you’re living with,” she replied. I felt my eyes well up—not from pain, but from humiliation. From her tone. From the satisfaction in her voice. I picked up the photos one by one, my fingers sweating, the paper cold and sharp at the edges. “When were these taken?” I asked. “Recently enough,” she answered. “Don’t act naive. We all see it. Only you pretend not to.” I stood. The chair gave a loud creak that echoed through the flat. “Why bring them to me?” I demanded. “Why not talk to your son?” She tilted her head. “I have,” she said. “But he’s weak. He pities you. I can’t stand women who drag men down.” It hit me, then. This wasn’t a revelation. It was an attack. Not to ‘save’ me, but to humiliate. To make me shrink. To remind me I wasn’t wanted. I turned to the kitchen, and just then the oven pinged—dinner was ready. That sound pulled me back into my body. Back to my reality. To what I’d made real. “Do you know what’s truly disgusting?” I said, still not looking up. “Go on,” she replied, dry as ever. I got out one plate, then another. Distracting my shaking hands by being useful—anything but falling apart. “The worst thing is, you didn’t bring these as a mother,” I said. “You brought them as an enemy.” She let out a quiet laugh. “I’m a realist,” she said. “And you should be too.” I plated the food, brought it to the table, and set a dish in front of her. She raised an eyebrow. “What are you doing?” “Inviting you to dinner,” I replied steadily. “Because what you’ve done is not going to ruin my night.” And in that moment, she was thrown. I saw it. She hadn’t expected this. She was waiting for tears. For drama. For me to ring her son. For me to collapse. I didn’t. I sat across from her, stacked the photos up, and covered them with a napkin. White. Clean. “You want me to break,” I said. “That won’t happen.” Her eyes narrowed. “It will,” she said. “When he comes home and you confront him.” “No,” I replied. “When he comes home, I’ll give him dinner. And give him the chance to speak for himself.” The silence between us was heavy. Only the clink of cutlery as I set the table like it was the most important thing in the world. After twenty minutes, the key turned in the lock. My husband appeared, calling from the hallway, “Smells amazing in here…” Then he saw his mother at the table. His expression changed. I felt it before I even looked up. “Why are you here?” he asked. She smiled. “Came for dinner. Your wife is such a proper hostess.” Her words were sharp as a knife. I looked straight at him. No tears. No theatrics. He came to the table and saw the photos, part of one peeking out from beneath the napkin. He froze. “This…” he whispered. I didn’t let him run. “Explain—to me and to your mother. This is her show.” My mother-in-law leaned forward, ready for the spectacle. He let out a heavy sigh. “There’s nothing to it,” he said. “They’re old photos. From a colleague. She cornered me at a work party—someone snapped a picture.” I was silent. “And who printed them?” I asked. He glanced at his mother. She didn’t blink. Only smiled, triumphantly. Then he did something I never expected. He picked up the photos. Tore them in two. Then again. And threw them into the bin. My mother-in-law shot up. “Are you out of your mind?!” she snapped. He turned to her firmly. “You’re the one who’s lost it,” he said. “This is our home. And she is my wife. If you’re here to poison, you can leave.” I sat still. I didn’t smile. But something unknotted inside me. She snatched up her bag, left, and her footsteps on the stairs rang like an insult. My husband turned to me. “I’m sorry,” he whispered. I looked at him. “I don’t want apologies,” I said. “I want boundaries. I want to know the next time, I won’t be left to deal with her alone.” He nodded. “There won’t be a next time,” he promised. I got up, fished the shredded photos from the bin, sealed them in a plastic bag. Not because I feared the pictures— But because I’d decided no one would ever leave their ‘evidence’ in my home again. That was my silent victory. What would you do in my shoes? I need your advice…

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My Sister Wants Me to Move Out of the Apartment I Co-Own Because She’s Having a Baby – Is It Reasonable for Her to Expect This?