“It Doesn’t Look Right That Your Children Will Have Homes While My Son Won’t – Let’s Get Him a Flat With a Mortgage!” Recently, my husband Anthony pointed out that my children have their own homes, yet his son does not—and now he insists we must figure out how to get his son a flat as well. I should explain that my children are both mine and Anthony’s, while Anthony’s son is from his first marriage. Why should it fall to me to worry about providing his son with a place to live? Sure, I knew Anthony was divorced with a child before we met, and that’s partly why I didn’t rush to marry him. We lived together for three years before tying the knot. I took my time observing his feelings for his ex-wife and son. A year into marriage, I had a son of my own, then, after another two years, a second. I’m completely happy with Anthony as both husband and father—he devotes time to me and the kids and has a good job. Of course, we have the occasional row, but that’s normal in any family. We’d been living in the flat I inherited from my dad. My mum divorced him when I was in nursery, and later remarried, but she had no other children. Anthony and his first wife had always rented, trying for years to save for a mortgage, but never managed it. After his divorce, his ex moved back in with her parents, and Anthony found a place to rent for himself. When we married, he moved into my flat. We never quibbled about ownership—we just lived together, renovated, bought new furniture. But then, about eighteen months ago, both my grandmothers passed away in succession (my mum’s and my dad’s mums). Each flat was willed to me. With our children still young, I decided to let those flats. One rental goes to top up my mum’s pension, the other supplements my salary—after all, extra cash is always handy. Anthony never meddled in my property affairs, as they were never his concern. I’d made it clear from the start that, when our sons were older, each would receive a flat from me. He agreed and that was that—the matter seemed settled. Then suddenly, Anthony said, “My son will finish sixth form shortly. He’s nearly grown up and needs to think about his future now! Your children have flats—but my son doesn’t! Let’s buy my son a flat with a mortgage!” I was stunned and full of questions. First off, I asked why our mutual children suddenly became just “my” children. But Anthony asked me not to split hairs. “But my son will never inherit anything. I just want him to have a place of his own!” “That’s very thoughtful,” I replied. “But your son has both a father and a mother—surely it’s up to both of you to see to that. Why isn’t his mum involved?” Anthony told me his ex doesn’t earn much, so her parents always help out. He can’t cover a mortgage on his own—but if I get involved, everything will work out. Apparently, I was just expected to agree to Anthony getting a mortgage to buy his son a flat—in his son’s name—while we would both be responsible for paying it off. “We both earn good salaries and have the rental income—we’ll manage just fine!” Anthony insisted. But this would require scrimping and saving substantially. Anthony still pays child support, and when his son goes to university, he’ll help out again, as his son’s mum can’t afford to. It turned out that, for the sake of Anthony’s son, my kids and I would have to forego holidays and weekends at the seaside, and pinch every penny—all so Anthony can appear to be the perfect dad! I could understand if Anthony had provided the flats for our children and now wanted to do the same for his eldest. But those properties come from me—Anthony had nothing to do with them. Why should I pay a mortgage for his son? I told Anthony right away, if he’s worried about his son’s housing, his ex-wife should get a mortgage—with the repayments coming out of his maintenance payments. I made it clear I wouldn’t be involved. Now, Anthony is furious with me and hasn’t spoken to me for a week. It’s a shame he can’t see my point of view.

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It doesnt look right that your children will have their own homes and my son wont. Lets sort a mortgage for him!

Lately, my husband, Anthony, brought up the fact that my children will end up with homes, while his son wont, so apparently we needed to think about what could be done so his son might have a home too. Its worth explaining that my children are both mine and Anthonys, whereas Anthonys son is from his first marriage.

Why am I the one who should worry about getting him a place to live? Of course, I always knew that Anthony had been married before and had a child. Thats why I wasnt in any rush to marry Anthony in the first place.

We lived together for three years before tying the knot. I kept a close eye on his feelings towards his ex-wife and son. A year into our marriage, I had our first son. Two years later, our second arrived.

Ive been perfectly happy with Anthony. Hes a wonderful husband and father, always making time for me and the children, and earns a good salary. Sure, we have our rows and squabbles now and then, but doesnt every family?

We lived in the flat I inherited from my father. My mum divorced him back when I was in nursery school. Mum remarried, but she never had more children.

Anthony and his ex-wife always rented. Throughout their time together, they tried to save for a mortgage, but it never worked out. When they divorced, she went back to her parents, and Anthony continued to rent.

When we married, he moved into my place. We never really talked about ownership; we just carried on, making home improvements and getting new furniture as needed. Eighteen months ago, both my grandmothers diedmy mums mum and my dads mum. They both left me their respective flats in their wills.

While the boys are small, I decided it was best to let out those flats. In the future, Ill give each son one flat. At the moment, I give the rent from one property to my mum as a bit of extra income to top up her pension, and the other rent helps boost my own salary. After all, a little extra never hurts.

Anthony has never interfered with my business regarding the flatsits really nothing to do with him. I told him clearly: when our children are grown, they will each have a flat. He agreed. That was the end of the matter, so I thought.

Then, out of nowhere, Anthony came to me and said,
My son will finish school in a few years. Hes nearly an adulthe needs to be thinking about his future.

I listened, not knowing what he was getting at.

Your children will inherit homes. My son wont! Lets buy my son a place with a mortgage! he declared, rather suddenly.

I was gobsmacked. My head was full of questions. First, I asked Anthony why our children had become only my children. He asked me not to nitpick his words.

But my son wont ever inherit anything. I want him to have something of his own! he insisted.
Its good that youre thinking of him, I said, but your son has two parents who should be worrying about that. Why isnt your ex-wife sorting something out for him?

Anthony explained that his ex doesnt earn much and her parents help out constantly. He, himself, couldnt manage a mortgage alone. But, if Id help, we could make it work. So basically, Id have to agree to Anthony buying a flat for his sonwith a mortgage to be paid by both of us. The flat would be in his sons name, but wed pay the bills.

We both have decent salaries and weve got the rent money coming in! We can do this! said Anthony.

We could, but it would mean a lot of sacrifice. Dont forget, Anthony already pays child support for his son. When his son goes off to university, Anthony will be helping him out again because his ex-wife cant afford it. That means, for the sake of his son, my children and I would be going without family holidays, weekends by the seasideall to scrimp and save as much as possible. And for what? So Anthony could look like a doting dad?

Id understand if Anthony was the one to provide our children with flats, and then wanted to do the same for his eldest. But its me who supplied our children with homeshe had nothing to do with it! Why should I pay for someone elses mortgage?

I told Anthony there and then that if he was that worried about his son, his ex-wife should be the one to get a mortgageand she could pay it using the child support.

I want nothing to do with it! I said firmly.

Anthony is furious with me. He hasnt spoken a word to me for a week. Its such a shame he cant see where Im coming from.

We’re Moving Into Your Flat — Olivia’s got a great city-centre flat. Newly refurbished, nothing to complain about! — It’s perfect for a single girl, — Rusty smiled at Anna, the way you might humour a child. — But we’re planning for two, maybe even three kids. One after another! It’s noisy in the city centre, the air’s rubbish, and you can never park. And it’s only two rooms. Whereas you’ve got three here. Plus, it’s quiet, and there’s a nursery in the courtyard. — It really is a nice area, — agreed Simon, still not grasping where his future son-in-law was going with this. — That’s why we settled here. — Exactly! — Rusty snapped his fingers. — I keep telling Olivia: why squeeze into a tiny flat when we’ve got the perfect solution? There’s only the three of you here: you, your wife, and your little girl. It’s more space than you need. You don’t even use that third room—it’s just a storage dump now! It would suit us perfectly. Anna was trying to shove the carpet cleaner into a cramped cupboard in the hallway. The vacuum seemed to fight back, its hose snagging on the coat rack, refusing to go where it was put. — Simon, help me out here! — she called towards the lounge. — Either this cupboard’s shrunk or I’ve lost my knack for packing things. Simon popped out of the bathroom—he’d just finished tinkering with the tap. Calm, always a bit slow and steady, he was Anna’s opposite in every way. — I’ve got it, Annie. Pass it here. He took the monstrous cleaner with one swoop, tucking it snugly in the corner of the cupboard. Anna exhaled and leaned against the doorframe. — Tell me, why do we never have enough space? It’s a big flat, three rooms, but every time we clean, it feels like we ought to chuck all our stuff on the street. — It’s because you’re a hoarder, — Simon grinned. — Why do we need three dinner sets? We only use one, twice a year! — Let them be, they’re keepsakes. It was Gran’s flat, after all. After the wedding, Simon’s parents divvied up the inheritance fairly: Simon got Gran’s roomy three-bedroom in a quiet area, and his sister Olivia got a central two-bedroom, right in the “golden square”. Moneywise, it balanced out. Five years, everyone got along famously, no jealousy. Anna thought it would always be that way, but… *** Cleaning done, chaos tamed, they sat down for a breather. Just as the telly flickered on, the doorbell rang. Simon went to answer. — Sis and her fiancé are here, — he told his wife, peeking through the spyhole. First in, Olivia practically bounced inside. Rusty followed, heavy-footed. Anna had only met him twice before. Olly found him at some gym six months ago. Rusty rubbed Anna the wrong way immediately—pompous, superior. He looked down on both her and Simon. — Hey there! — Olivia kissed her brother’s cheek and hugged Anna. — We were just passing by—had to drop in. We’ve got news! — Come on in, then. News is always nice, — Simon invited them to the kitchen. — Cup of tea? — Water’s fine, — Rusty plodded after the host. — This is a serious chat, mate. Truth is, they weren’t “just passing by”. They had a mission. No faffing, forget the tea. Sit down. Anna suddenly felt uneasy—Rusty’s tone gave her the creeps. What was this about? — Well, out with it, — Simon shrugged. Olivia pretended oblivious, busy with her phone, letting her fiancé do the talking. Rusty cleared his throat. — Here’s the deal. We’ve filed our notice: wedding in three months. Obviously, I have big plans for us. Family, a home, happily ever after. We’ve thought about our living situation… We’ll move in here, and you’ll move into Olivia’s! Anna was gobsmacked. She stared at her husband, then at her sister-in-law—still scrolling through her socials as if she wasn’t involved. — Rusty, I’m not sure I understand, — Simon frowned. — What are you getting at? — No hints, just a practical solution. Let’s swap! We move in here, you take Olly’s flat. Olly’s in full agreement, we both think it’s totally fair. Anna was stunned again. — Fair? — she echoed. — Rusty, are you serious right now? You come into our home and suggest we leave because you want more kids? — No need to be so harsh, Anna, — Rusty winced. — I’m just being rational. You have one child, and I hear you’re not planning more. So why do you need all this extra space? It’s just not sensible. We, on the other hand, have potential. — Oh, we’ve got potential, have we! — Anna jumped up. — Simon, are you hearing this nonsense? Simon raised a hand, signalling Anna to stay quiet. — Rusty, maybe you forgot: my parents gave us this flat, just as they did Olly with hers. We’ve spent five years fixing this place up, choosing every skirting board. Our daughter’s got her own room, friends on this block, her routines. And you want us to uproot and swap flats just because it suits you? — Calm down, mate, — Rusty reclined lazily. — You’re family. Olly’s your own sister. Doesn’t her future mean anything to you? Anyway, I’m offering you a straight swap. You’d get a place in a prime area. I even crunched the numbers—it’s a good deal. — This is rich, — Simon chuckled. — You haven’t even married my sister yet, but you’re already after my flat! At last Olivia glanced up from her phone. — Oh, don’t start! — she whined. — Rusty just wants the best for us. It really will be crowded in my place when there are kids. And your hallway’s big enough for five-a-side football. Mum always said—family comes first. Don’t you remember, Simon? — Mum said help each other, Olly, not evict your brother for your own convenience! — Anna shot back. — Can you hear what Rusty’s saying? — What’s wrong with what he’s saying? — Olivia widened her eyes. — He’s making sense. We need it more. You’ve got a spare room anyway. — It’s not spare! — Anna all but shouted. — It’s my home office! In case you forgot, I work in there! — Work, right — Rusty snorted. — Posting pretty pictures online? Olly says it’s just a hobby. You can work from the kitchen table, no need for a study. Simon stood up slowly. — Right, — he said quietly. — Conversation’s over. Out. Both of you. — Simon, seriously? — Rusty didn’t budge. — We came here to have a proper family talk. — Proper? — Simon stepped closer. — You’re asking for my home and insulting my wife at the same time—telling our daughter where she should live? D’you have any shame? — Shame! — Anna joined her husband. — He’s just after what he can get. He hasn’t even proposed yet and already he’s dividing up our property. Olly, do you even realise who you brought into the family? You’ll be next—he’ll toss you out of your own flat! — Don’t you dare talk about him like that! — Olivia sprang up. — Rusty’s looking after me! Our future! You lot… you’re just greedy. Clinging to your precious rooms like misers. Some brother you are! — The greedy one’s your future husband, — Simon pointed to the door. — For the hard of hearing: get out. And forget about the swap—forever. Try this again and we’re done. Rusty rose, adjusted his shirt collar. Not a flicker of embarrassment—just irritation. — Your loss, Si. I thought we could sort something out. But if you’re that stubborn… Come on Olly, we’re leaving! When the door slammed behind them, Anna collapsed onto the sofa, shaking. — Did you see that? Did you actually see that? — She stared at her husband, wide-eyed. — The nerve! Who does he think he is? Simon was silent, standing at the window, watching Rusty swagger to his car and bark at Olivia outside. — Know what’s really gutting? — he finally said. — Olivia actually believes he’s right. She’s always had her head in the clouds, but this… — He’s brainwashed her! — Anna started pacing. — We have to call your mum—your folks need to know what their new son-in-law’s planning. — Wait, — Simon pulled out his phone. — I’ll ring my sister first. Just her. Without that peacock around. He dialled. It rang for ages. Olivia finally picked up, sniffling. — Hello! — she muttered. — Olivia, listen up, — Simon’s voice was steely. — Are you in the car with him? — What’s it to you? — If he’s there, put it on speaker. I want him to hear. — I’m not in the car, — Olivia sobbed. — He dropped me off outside and drove off. Said he needed to cool down because my family is a bunch of selfish prats. Simon, why are you all like this? He just wanted everything to be perfect for us… — Olivia, wake up! — Simon nearly yelled. — Perfect? He waltzed in and tried to wrangle my flat! Do you even get that it’s your inheritance? And he’s already acting like it’s his. Did he even mention the swap before we all sat in the kitchen? There was silence. — No, — Olivia whispered finally. — He said he had a surprise for everyone. That he’d figured out what would be best. — Nice surprise. Decided both our lives for us. Without asking. Who exactly are you marrying, Liv? He’s just a gold-digger. Today my flat, tomorrow your car isn’t big enough, next your parents’ cottage is too good for you. — Don’t say that… — Olivia’s voice trembled. — He loves me. — If he did, he wouldn’t start drama over nothing! He pit us against each other! Anna still hasn’t recovered. Can’t you see, he wanted to split us up? — I’ll talk to him, — Olivia said, uncertain. — Do that. And think hard before you march down the aisle. Simon hung up and tossed his phone on the sofa. — What did she say? — Anna asked softly. — Didn’t know a thing. Rusty had a “surprise” lined up. Anna gave a bitter laugh. — Picture it: Lord of the Manor, moving people around like chess pieces. Flats this way, families that way. Makes me sick. — Well, — Simon put his arm around her. — He’s not getting our home, that’s for sure. But I feel for Liv. He’ll ruin her. *** Simon and Anna’s worst fears didn’t come true—Olivia never made it down the aisle. Rusty dumped her that same evening. A tear-stained Olivia turned up at her brother’s late at night and spilled everything. Rusty had shown up, started packing his things immediately. Olivia panicked and asked what was going on. Rusty declared that he wasn’t joining such a stingy family. — He said he doesn’t need “relatives” like us, — Olivia sobbed. — He can’t rely on you, apparently. Said you’d never babysit our kids at the weekend. Wouldn’t even give us money if we needed it. — Oh Olivia, love, why are you upset? — Anna retorted. — You don’t need a man like that! He’s unreliable, only out for himself. Forget him! Olivia moped for a couple months, then started to recover. Looking back, she finally saw his true colours. If she’d married him, she’d have been miserable for life. Must have been fate she didn’t.

Oh, Girl, Don’t Waste Your Greetings on Him – He Won’t Marry You When Vera lost her mother just after turning sixteen, her father had vanished years ago chasing city work and never returned, no word or money. The whole village turned out for her mother’s funeral, each offering help as they could. Her godmother, Aunt Maria, checked in often, showing Vera the ropes of daily life. After finishing school, they found Vera work at the post office in the neighboring village. Vera was sturdy, healthy—a true country girl, rosy-cheeked, round-faced, with a bold potato nose but brilliant grey eyes, and a thick blond braid down her back. Hands-down the most handsome fellow in the village was Nicholas. Back from two years in the army, he was swarmed by girls—village and city vacationers alike. He could’ve starred in Hollywood films, not just driven a truck in the countryside, and he certainly wasn’t planning to settle down anytime soon. One day Aunt Maria asked Nicholas to help Vera fix her weaving fence, which was falling over—life was hard for single women in the village. Vera could manage the garden but couldn’t tackle the house alone. Nicholas agreed without fuss, arriving to inspect and quickly issuing orders: “fetch this, bring that.” Vera did as he asked, cheeks growing redder, braid swinging. When he tired, she fed him rich borscht and strong tea, silently watching him bite into dark bread with white, healthy teeth. Nicholas worked on the fence for three days, and on the fourth, he came for a visit. Vera gave him dinner, and as talk spun on, he ended up staying the night. Soon he became a regular, always leaving before sunrise to dodge prying eyes—but in a village, nothing stays secret for long. “Oh, girl, don’t waste your greetings on him—he won’t marry you. If he does, you’ll suffer. When the city beauties return in summer, what’ll you do? Eat your heart out with jealousy. You need a different kind of man,” Aunt Maria warned. But who ever listened to old wisdom when young and in love? Vera soon realized she was expecting. She thought she was ill at first—then the truth hit hard: she was having Nicholas’s child. Despair tempted her to get rid of it; she felt too young. Yet she remembered her mother’s strength and decided she could do it, even alone. At least she wouldn’t be totally by herself. Her own father hadn’t been much help either—always drinking. People would gossip, but they’d eventually move on. Spring came, Vera shed her winter coat, and the whole village noticed her swelling belly. Nicholas came by to check what she planned to do. “What else? I’ll have the baby. Don’t worry, I’ll raise him myself. Go on living your life,” she said, tending the fire, her cheeks and eyes aglow with its light. Nicholas admired her but left—she’d made her decision. He was like water off a duck’s back. Summer drew in, city girls arrived, and Nicholas’s attention strayed elsewhere. Vera carried on quietly, minding her garden, Aunt Maria helping when she could—being pregnant made everything harder. They predicted a strong baby. “Whoever God gives me,” Vera joked. One morning in September, fierce pain woke her. She rushed to Aunt Maria, who instantly understood—labour had begun. They scrambled to get Nicholas, who’d been drinking the night before. Realizing the hospital was ten miles away, Nicholas insisted on driving her immediately, even if it meant taking the truck over pothole-ridden roads. Aunt Maria rode in the back. Vera wriggled in pain beside Nicholas, who gripped the steering wheel, face drawn with worry. They made it in time. Nicholas and Aunt Maria left her at the hospital, scolded along the way for leaving a young woman alone and with child. By the next morning, Vera held a healthy baby boy. Unsure how to handle him, she followed every instruction, heart trembling with happiness and fear. “Will someone pick you up before discharge?” the stern doctor asked. “Unlikely,” she shrugged. The nurse bundled up her son in a hospital blanket for the journey home, scolding her for the bare means she had. Fedor, the hospital driver, took them as far as he could—floods had made the last two miles impossible by car. Vera climbed out, cradling her son, trudging through ankle-deep mud, losing a shoe along the way, until she reached the village in near-darkness. Inside, she found a cot, a pram, new baby clothes—all ready. At the table, Nicholas slept, his head in his arms. Seeing Vera—disheveled, muddy, holding their baby—he rushed to help, took the child, washed her feet, and set out food. When the baby cried, Vera fed him unashamedly as Nicholas asked, “What did you name him?” “Sergio. Do you mind?” she replied. Nicholas’s heart ached at her sorrow and love. “Good name. Tomorrow we’ll register the boy and get married.” “That’s not necessary…” Vera started. “My son needs a father. I’ve had my fun—done playing the bachelor. I can’t say what sort of husband I’ll be, but I won’t abandon my son.” Vera nodded quietly. Two years later, they welcomed a daughter, Nadia, named after Vera’s mother. It doesn’t matter what mistakes you make at the start of life—what counts is that you can always set things right… That’s how life goes. Share your thoughts in the comments and give us a like!