Stay with the child. Ill go alone to my brothers wedding.
My husband got home from work yesterday, and something was off about him.
I asked him about the wedding, and immediately, he looked down. He said he was going to the wedding alone
But what about me? I was shocked.
And my husband told me, Love, I hardly received any pay this January. So Ill probably go to the wedding by myself. You look after the little one. Nothing bad will happen. Ill only be gone for three daysa hotel stay, a few meals, and, of course, I need to buy a gift for the bride and groom.
Were a young family. We live in a one-bedroom flat. My mother-in-law gave us the place. Ive been on maternity leave, and our daughter is nearly two. I havent been in a rush to go back to work because Ive got no one to take care of her. My in-laws gave us a roof over our heads, and for that, Im grateful.
My own mum is quite independent and works extra hours. She told me from the start: if Im truly desperate and head back to work, shell absolutely come and help out. But if I need a babysitter just so I can buy a new dress and get my hair done, thats out of the question. She wont look after my child just for that.
I know what my mum is like. In fact, every year she jets off on holiday somewhere abroad, and she spends almost every weekend at a beauty salon or for a massage.
There havent been any emergencies in our family. When my husband is at home, I can handle my own chores. Admittedly, hes not exactly pleased about it, and rarely lets me pop out for more than a little while.
Then, the wedding invitation arrived.
My husbands younger brother decided to get married. We had to travel to another city for three days. So, I went to my mother and asked if she could stay with her granddaughter. After all, a wedding is a major event. Just three days, and my daughter is quite easy-goingnot prone to tantrums.
Mum hesitated for ages before finally agreeing, with a sigh, to take three days off work. I was thrilled. It had been two years at home with a toddler, and at least Id get a bit of a break at the wedding
But all those dreams came crashing down after my husband made his announcement.
It would have been such a special occasion for me. Id breastfed and devoted myself to our daughter for a whole year, rarely stepping foot outside. And then it turned out no one actually wanted to look after her. Meanwhile, my husband often went out to work functions and business trips.
Truth be told, I barely know his brother. Id only ever seen his fiancée in a picture.
I was honestly very upset. But my husband simply refused to see my side of things. He thought there was nothing wrong.
Well, darling, your mum clearly isnt enthusiastic about looking after our daughter at her place. Let her have a few days for herself, and you stay here. Why make her uncomfortable? If she doesnt want to, she shouldnt have to. Besides, you dont really know my family that well, so whats in it for you? Your place is at home looking after our child. Ill just go and come back.
So, I decidedif Im not invited, no one goes. Why should my husband get to decide what I do?
And really, who do you think is in the right?
If you ask me, both the mum and the husband are being a bit unfair. Of course, a grandmother isnt obliged to look after her granddaughter, but she could consider her daughters feelings too.
And the husband? Hes not thinking of his wifes needs at all. Shes given so much of herself to their childshe deserves some time to breathe.
He really should understand that, if he truly loves her
The woman in this story is left terribly sad. Shes so dependent on her husband and has no one to turn to.
I would love to know what readers think. Maybe shell find a way to sort this out and let her husband know how she feels.
Ladies, remember, we live in a free country! Youre allowed to speak your mindnothing awful will happen. Its not as if your husband will immediately ask for a divorce just because you draw a line. And even if that ever happened, maybe the feelings werent real to begin with. Lets respect each other and bring a bit of happiness into one anothers lives.
