Stay with the baby. Im going to my brothers wedding on my own.
My husband got in from work yesterday looking a bit off.
I asked him about the wedding, and straight away, he looked at his shoes. Said hed be going alone
But what about me? I was honestly gobsmacked.
He goes, Love, my January pay was absolutely pants. So, Ill probably just go by myself. You look after our little girl. Nothing bad will happen, I promise. Ill only be away three days, need to sort my own hotel and meals while Im there. And obviously, Ill have to get a present for the bride and groom.
Were a young family, you know. Living in a tiny one-bedroom flat. His mum let us have it, which was kind, so, you know, thanks for that and all. Im on maternity leave, not in a rush to go back. Our little girls nearly two, and I havent got anyone to leave her with. My in-laws helped with the flat but, as people say fair play to them.
My mums always done her own thing, done some side jobs too. She told me from day one, if Im desperate for childcare so I can work, shell be there in a flash. But if I just want to get my hair done or buy myself a dress, forget it. No babysitting unless its actually for work.
I know full well what Mums like. She jets off abroad every year and spends her weekends at beauty salons and having massages!
Things have been pretty steady at home. If my husbands around, I can just crack on with my own bits and bobs although, truth be told, hes not overly keen on it and only lets me pop out for short spells, and not very often.
Then, the wedding invite arrives.
My husbands younger brother was getting married, which meant travelling to another city for three days. So, I went to Mum, begging her to watch her granddaughter. I mean, a weddings a big deal, and its just a few days. Plus, my daughters a placid thing none of that crying and fussing.
Mum was reluctant for ages but eventually, with a big sigh, she agreed and booked those three days off work. I was chuffed to bits Id been stuck at home for two years, and the wedding felt like the perfect excuse for a break.
But then, just as I was getting excited, my husband dropped his little bombshell.
To me, this was proper important. I breastfed our daughter for a year without stepping foot out the door. Then, once she grew a bit, it turned out nobody fancied looking after her. Meanwhile, my husbands always off at work events or away on business.
To be honest, I didnt really know his brother only seen his fiancée in a photo.
I was gutted. But hubby just wouldnt see it from my side. He was convinced it was all perfectly fine.
Look, love. First off, your mums not exactly buzzing to have our daughter to herself for days. She could use a bit of rest too, you know, and you should stay home. No point making her feel awkward. If she doesnt fancy it, then thats that. Besides, you hardly know my family. Whats the point in you coming? Your job is to stay home and look after the little one. Ill pop over and be back before you know it.
So, I just decided well, no ones going at this rate. Why should he get to decide what I do with my time?
Really, what do you make of it? Whos got it right here?
Honestly, I reckon both her mum and husband are being a bit cheeky. Grandmas got no obligation to help fair enough but she could think about her daughters needs for once.
And her husband? He doesnt get what his wifes been through at all. Shes put everything into raising their daughter, and she deserves a breather, too.
He should step up, especially if he really cares about her
The woman in this story shes so sad. Shes totally reliant on her husband and theres just no one to back her up.
Id love to know what you all think! Bet there are loads of mums in the same boat. I just hope she finds a way to sort things and finally speaks her mind with her husband.
Girls, remember this is England! Weve got the right to speak up. Nothing bads going to happen if you tell your other half how you feel. And if it did well, maybe his feelings werent that deep anyway. Everyone deserves respect, and a little happiness, dont they?
