My Mother-in-Law Suggested We Move into Her Flat—But Clearly She Had an Agenda —Thank you so much for offering, that’s very generous. But we’ll have to say no. My mother-in-law’s face fell. —Why is that? Are you just too proud? —No, not proud. We’ve just settled in. Switching schools in the middle of the year is stressful for the kids. Besides, we’re used to it here. We’ve just renovated, everything’s new. And at your place… — Kristina paused, choosing her words, then decided to be direct. — You’ve got lots of precious memories and things there. The kids are small, something will get broken or stained. Why put ourselves through that stress? When Kristina got home from work, her husband was standing in the hall, clearly waiting for her. She took off her shoes, walked silently into the bedroom to change, then headed for the kitchen. Her husband trailed behind, silent. Kristina couldn’t take it: —Are we going to start this again? I already said: no! Denis let out a long sigh. —Mum called again today. Says her blood pressure’s up. It’s hard for her over there, Granddad and Grandma have gotten very frail, acting like kids. She can’t cope on her own. —And? — Kristina took a sip of cold water, staving off rising irritation. — She chose to live at the cottage. She rents the flat out and gets money, gets fresh air. She liked it there. —She liked it until she had the energy. Now she’s moaning it’s boring and hard. Well… — Denis took a deep breath. — She’s suggested we move into her three-bed. Kristina stared at him, barked: —No. —Why say “no” right away? You didn’t even hear me out! — Denis threw up his hands. — Look: it’s a great area. Fifteen minutes from your office, twenty from mine. The language school’s just across the road, the nursery’s in the yard. No more commuting in traffic! And we could rent out this place, the mortgage would pay for itself. We’d even have some money left over. —Denis, do you hear yourself? — Kristina got right up close. — We’ve lived here two and a half years. I chose a spot for every plug socket in this place! The kids have friends next door. This is finally our home. Ours! —What does it matter where you live if you’re only home to sleep? We’re spending two hours a night just getting back from work! — he parried. — It’s an old building, high ceilings, thick walls, you can’t hear the neighbours. —And the décor was outdated even when I was at school, — Kristina shot back. — Have you forgotten the smell in there? And most of all, it isn’t our home. It’s Anna Leonidovna’s. —Mum says she won’t interfere. She’ll stay at the cottage, just wants to know her flat’s being looked after. Kristina gave a bitter smile. —Denis, do you have the memory of a goldfish? Remember how we bought this flat? Her husband looked away. Of course, he remembered. They’d spent seven years in rentals, saving every penny. When they finally had enough for a deposit, Denis had gone to his mum. The plan was perfect: sell mum’s big flat in the centre, buy her a nice two-bed and something decent for the two of them. Anna Leonidovna nodded and smiled, saying, “Of course, you need more space.” They’d already lined up options, already dreamed. But on the very day they were supposed to meet the agent, she called. —Remember what she said? — Kristina continued. — “I’ve been thinking… My area is so prestigious, the neighbours are so civilised. How can I go to your new build with all those people? No, I don’t want to.” So we went to the bank, took out a huge mortgage and got this place five miles outside the M25. Ourselves. Without her “prestigious” square meters. —Well, she was afraid of change, her age and all, — muttered Denis. — She’s different now. She’s lonely. Wants the grandkids close. —The grandkids? She sees them once a month when we visit with groceries. Then after half an hour she’s sighing because the noise gives her a migraine. Six-year-old Artyom ran into the kitchen, four-year-old Liza at his heels. —Mum, Dad, we’re hungry! — Artyom shouted. — And Liza broke my plane! I spent three hours building it, and she smashed it… —That’s not true! — squeaked Liza. — He dropped it himself! Kristina exhaled. —Right, go wash your hands. Dinner soon. Did Daddy cook pasta? —I did, — Denis muttered. — And sausages. While the kids banged chairs and Kristina dished out food, the subject was dropped. They didn’t pick it up again until bedtime. *** Saturday, they had to go to the cottage — Anna Leonidovna called in the morning, saying Grandpa’s medicine had run out and she “felt pressure in her chest”. The drive took an hour and a half. Anna Leonidovna met them at the door. At sixty-three she looked amazing: hair done, nails, a dainty silk scarf at her neck. —Oh, you made it, — she held out her cheek for a kiss. — Kristina, have you put on weight? Or is it just the blouse? —Hello, Anna Leonidovna. The blouse is just loose, — Kristina swallowed the jab as always. They went inside; the mother-in-law’s parents were dozing in front of the telly. Kristina greeted them, but they just nodded. —Tea? — asked Anna Leonidovna, heading to the kitchen. — I’ve got biscuits, a bit stale… I haven’t been shopping, my legs ache. —We brought cake, — Denis put the box on the table. — Mum, let’s talk. About the flat… Anna Leonidovna perked up. —Yes, yes, Denis. I’m nearly done here; the air is nice, nature, my parents need care. But in winter? It’s deathly boring. Meanwhile, the flat is standing empty, other people are in it, ruining everything. Breaks my heart! —Mum, your tenants are decent, a family, — Denis interjected. —Decent! — she snorted. — Last time I checked, the curtain was crooked. And it smelled… not right. So why are you stuck in the sticks? Move in with me. There’s plenty of room. Kristina glanced at her husband. —Anna Leonidovna, where do you plan to live? — she asked directly. Her mother-in-law raised her eyebrows in surprise. —Where? Here, of course. With my parents. Well, maybe sometimes I’ll come to check on things, have blood tests at my clinic. I know all the doctors at our surgery. —How often is “sometimes”? — Kristina clarified. —Oh, maybe a couple of times a week. Or for a week, if the weather’s bad. I’ve got my room there, my bedroom. Don’t put the kids in it, they can have the big room. But my bedroom must stay as it is. Just in case. Kristina bristled. —So, you’re offering us the three-bed, but want us to keep one room just for you? So we’d live with the kids in two? —Why lock it? — Anna Leonidovna looked baffled. — Use it, just don’t move my things. Or the china cabinet. The crystal stays. And the books. Denis, remember? Don’t touch the library! Denis shifted awkwardly. —Mum, if we do move in, we’ll need to sort things out – make a kids’ room, set up beds… —Why beds? There’s a great sofa, still good! You dad bought it. No need to spend money! Kristina stood. —Denis, can we speak outside for a minute? She stepped onto the porch, not waiting for her husband. He followed, casting anxious glances at the door. —Did you hear that? — Kristina hissed. — “Don’t touch the sofa”, “my room”, “I’ll visit for a week”. Do you get what that means? —Kristin, she’s just afraid of change… —No, Denis! We’d just be unpaid caretakers! Can’t even move a cupboard! She’ll drop in any time, use her key, and tell me how to hang curtains, boil soup and make beds! —But it’s closer for work… — he tried weakly. —I don’t care! I’d rather sit in traffic for two hours and come home to a place that’s mine, where I make the rules. Denis was silent, looking at his shoes. He understood. Of course he understood. The easy way out had clouded his thinking. —And another thing, — Kristina crossed her arms. — Remember the ‘flat swap’? She let us down then because “being posh” was more important. Now she’s bored. She just wants company — us nearby, someone to nag. Just then, Anna Leonidovna appeared in the doorway. —What are you whispering about out here? Kristina turned to her. —We won’t put you out. We’re not moving. —Nonsense, — her mother-in-law huffed. — Denis, why are you letting your wife decide everything? Denis raised his head. —Mum, Kristina’s right, — he said, firmly. — We’re not moving. We have our own home. Anna Leonidovna pursed her lips. She knew she’d lost, but wouldn’t admit it. —Suit yourselves. I was only trying to help. Go on, keep wasting your lives in traffic jams. Just don’t complain later. —We won’t, — Denis promised. — Shall we head off, Mum? Do you need any more medicine or anything? —I need nothing from you, — she said, turning on her heel and slamming the door. They drove back in silence. By then, traffic at the city entrance had cleared, but there was still a red spot on the sat-nav near their area. —Are you mad? — Kristina asked as they stopped at the lights. Denis shook his head. —No. I pictured Artyom jumping on Dad’s old sofa and Mum having a heart attack. You’re right. It was a bad idea. —I don’t mind helping, Denis, — she said softly, patting his knee. — We’ll bring food, medicine. Get a carer if it gets hard. But we’re living separately. Distance is key to a good relationship. —Especially with my mum, — he said, wryly. *** Of course, Anna Leonidovna held a grudge against her daughter-in-law and son. Turns out she had already evicted the tenants, certain her son and his wife would move in. She badgered Denis for nearly a month. But Denis held firm—turns out, saying “no” isn’t that hard when it’s really needed.