It goes without saying that this is all my fault! Jane sobs, her voice trembling with anguish. I never imagined things would turn out like this. Now I cant see a way forward. I havent the faintest idea how to fix it all without losing my dignity.
Jane, my boyfriends sister, married a few years ago.
After the wedding, it was decided that the newlyweds would move in with her husbands mum. His parents had a spacious three-bedroom flat in Oxford, and he was their only child.
Ill keep one bedroom for myself, and the rest is yours! declared her mother-in-law with a knowing smile. Were all civilised peopleIm sure well get on splendidly.
We can always move out if it doesnt work, her husband reassured her later. I dont see any harm in trying to live under my mums roof. If it proves too difficult, we can always find our own place to rent…
That was exactly what they did. But it became clear that sharing the flat was anything but easy. Both the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law gave it their best, but tensions steadily mounted, resentment brewing until it finally bubbled over in frequent rows.
You said we could leave if it became impossible to live together! Jane cried one evening, her face streaked with tears.
Well, havent we managed so far? her mother-in-law replied, a glint of superiority in her voice. You cant just pack your bags over trivial matters.
Exactly a year after the wedding, Jane fell pregnant and gave birth to a healthy baby boy.
The timing couldnt have been worse. Her mother-in-law had just left her job and struggled to find new workno one wanted to hire a woman approaching retirement age. So Jane and her mother-in-law ended up at home together, day in and day out, with neither escape nor reprieve. The tension thickened, poisoning the flat with silent hostilities.
Janes husband simply shrugged, listening to their complaints as he returned from his jobthe sole breadwinner.
We cant leave my mum now, he insisted. She hasnt the means to support herself, and I cant afford rent for us and give her a hand as well. Once she lands a new job, well move out. Until then, we have to be patient.
But Janes patience was exhausted. One morning, she gathered her own things and her babys, and moved back in with her mother. As she left, she told her husband, Ill never set foot in your mothers house again. If your family matters to you, youll find a way.
Jane was sure her husband would value his family enough to immediately try to bring her back, but she was utterly mistaken.
Three months have now passed with Jane living at her mums place. Her husband hasnt made any move to win her back. Instead, he lives comfortably with his mother, rings Jane up by video chat in the evenings after work, and visits her and their son at her mothers house on weekends.
He gets care and attention from both women, his mother genuinely dotes on the son that Janes rage left behind, and, for the rest, he neednt bother about the child much at all. The husband, in his own way, has wonand his mother probably hasnt really lost anything either.
But Jane is tormented by it all. She still loves her husband fiercely, even though she knows he hasnt acted fairly.
What did you think would happen when you left? her husband asks, almost indifferent. You can come back if you like.
The truth is, Jane likely has no intention of leaving her own mothers house or finding a flat to renton parental leave, she simply doesnt have the means.
Is this really the end for their family?
Do you think Jane even stands a chance of returning to her mother-in-laws homeof reclaiming some dignity after everything thats happened?












