You cant just turn up without warning, I havent prepared anything! Do you realise how much it costs to host guests? my mother-in-law shouts.
Im the daughter-in-law, nothing special, just a regular working woman with no airs about me. My husband and I live in our own flat in London, and we manage it ourselves mortgage, bills, both of us working all hours, barely a moment to breathe.
My mother-in-law lives out in the countryside, along with my sister-in-law. All would be well, except theyve decided our flat is the perfect spot for a weekend getaway. At first, it sounded quite sweet:
Well pop round on Saturday.
Just for a bit.
Were family, after all.
Yeah, just for a bit somehow means staying the night; pop round really means turning up with bags, empty pots and pans, and hungry looks expecting a feast.
Every weekend is déjà vu: after work, Im dashing round Sainsburys, cooking, tidying up, setting the table, pretending Im delighted, and then half the night scrubbing dishes and cleaning. Valerie, my mother-in-law, sits there and passes comment:
Whys the salad missing sweetcorn?
I like stew more hearty than this.
We never do it this way back in the village.
And my sister-in-law chips in:
Oh, Im exhausted after the train journey.
No pudding tonight?
And never a single thank you or Can I help?
One evening, I finally lost it and said to my husband:
Im not your familys housemaid, and I dont fancy spending every weekend catering for them.
Maybe youre right, we should do something.
That gave me a spark of an idea.
Next time Valerie called:
Were coming to yours on Saturday.
Oh, we actually have plans this weekend, I reply calmly.
What sort of plans?
Just our own.
And do you know what? We really did have plans but our plans were to visit Valerie instead. Saturday morning, my husband and I stood on her front lawn. She opened the door and froze.
Whats all this?!
Weve come to yours. Just for a bit.
You could have at least warned me, I havent made a thing! Do you know how expensive it is to host people?
I looked at her and replied quietly:
You see, thats exactly how Ive been living every weekend.
So youre teaching me a lesson?! The cheek!
She shouted so loud, the neighbours all peeked out, and we went straight home.
And you know the best part? Since then, Ive not had a single uninvited visit. No more well just pop round, no more weekends spent in my kitchen. Sometimes, the only way people understand is if you show them what its like to walk in your shoes.
Do you think I did the right thing? What would you do if you were in my place?












