I spent two years living in Spain, and when I finally returned to my little cottage in the Yorkshire Dales, I learned that my son had been caught off guard by a surprise. My daughter, Eleanor, had taken a foreign gentleman, Marco, from Italy, as her husband. I moved in with them for two years, looking after my firstgrandchild, Lily, and keeping the house in order.
Eleanor and her husband both worked for the same firm in Leeds and only came home at night. I hoped that arrangement would stay the way it was, but fate had other plans. One evening they told me they no longer needed my assistance and asked me to pack my things and leave. A month later I was back in my own home, only to find that I was no longer welcome there either.
While I was staying with Eleanor, my son Thomas split from his first wife, abandoned the flat he shared with her and moved into my cottage, bringing his new wife, Mabel, who was already expecting. He never thought to ask for my permission. What could I possibly do? Turn my son and his pregnant wife out? No. Yet how were we to fit three, soon to be four, into a singleroomed cottage? Neither Thomas nor I had the pennies to rent a new place. I rang Eleanor, explained the predicament, and hoped she might understand and let me move back in with them. She would not. She seemed to have adopted a different outlook on life.
Thomass actions made sense to him; he had never imagined my return. So now I am left sleeping on the kitchen sofa, spending my days away from homeshopping, visiting friendswhile Thomas and Mabel get along quietly, with no quarrels in sight, yet Mabel gives me the cold shoulder. It is plain to see she does not welcome my presence in the house.
I never thought I would reach my sixtieth year and become a burden, someone else looking after the home I built. My son is entirely focused on his pregnant wife, paying no heed to the housing dilemma. I am searching for a parttime job, yearning to afford my own flat. The new inlaws live out in the country, and I wonder whether I should suggest to Mabel that she move in with my own parents. Might Thomas find work there? I doubt it. I am at a loss as to what to do, caught between duty and the need for my own roof over my head.












