Even Thirty Years of Marriage Isn’t a Reason to Endure Cheating Helen turned a small jewellery box in her hands – the velvet was worn, the golden letters faded. Inside glimmered three tiny stones. Beautiful, she had to admit. “Five hundred quid,” said Oliver, scrolling through the news on his tablet. “Got it from Goldsmiths, with my discount card.” “Thank you, love.” Something clenched inside her. Not because of the price – what could she expect, at their age? It was the way he said it. So ordinary. As if he was reporting on buying milk. Thirty years together. Pearl anniversary – rare these days. Helen got up early, fetched the fancy lace tablecloth from the cupboard – a wedding gift from her mother-in-law. She started making Angel Cake – Oliver once called it “a slice of heaven.” Now he sat, hunched over his screen, grunting answers to her questions. “Ollie, do you remember how you promised to take me to Italy for our thirtieth?” “Mmm,” without looking up. “I thought maybe, at least, we could have a trip to Cornwall? We haven’t had a proper holiday together in ages.” “Helen, I’ve got a big project on. No time now.” Project. There was always some project. Especially these past eighteen months, since Oliver suddenly caught a case of “feeling young.” Signed up to the gym, bought expensive trainers, changed his wardrobe. Even his haircut was trendy – fringe to the side, buzzed temples. “Midlife crisis,” her friend Susan said. “All men go through it. You’ll see, it passes.” It didn’t. If anything, it got worse. Helen tried on the ring – a perfect fit. After all these years, he still remembered her size. The stones glittered with a cold shine. “Pretty,” she repeated, staring at the gift. “Yes. Trendy setting. Youthful design.” That evening, they sat quietly at the celebration table. The cake was, as always, soft and light. Oliver ate a slice, praised it automatically. Helen watched him, wondering when her husband had become a stranger to her. “So, who’s this girl?” she asked suddenly. “What girl?” Oliver looked up from his plate. “The one who helped you pick out the youthful ring.” “What’s she got to do with anything?” “Oliver,” her voice was calm. “I’m not a fool. A woman picked that ring. No man ever says ‘youthful design.’” Long pause. Awkward. “Helen, don’t be ridiculous.” “Is her name Alyssa?” Oliver paled. Didn’t even ask how she knew. She’d hit the mark. “I saw your messages by accident. Last month, when you asked me to find the insurance number on your phone. ‘Sunshine, I’ll see you soon’ – sound familiar?” He was silent. “Twenty-eight, works in your office. Yesterday she posted a photo from a restaurant – the window seat where you two sat. I recognised the tablecloth.” “How do you know about the restaurant?” “Susan saw you. By chance. You think people in town wouldn’t notice?” Oliver sighed heavily. “Alright. Yes, there’s Alyssa. But it’s not what you think.” “What is it, then?” “She understands me. With her, it’s easy, interesting. We talk about books, about films.” “And with me, there’s nothing to say?” “Helen, just look at yourself! You only talk about the kids, your health, how the groceries have gone up. With Alyssa I feel… alive.” “Alive,” Helen repeated. “I see.” “I didn’t mean to hurt you.” Oliver dropped his head. “Does she know you’re married?” “She does.” “And she’s fine with that? Comfortable with dating a married man?” “Helen, she’s a modern girl. Doesn’t have illusions.” “Modern,” Helen scoffed. “So our thirty years together was an illusion too?” She stood to clear the table, hands trembling, though she tried not to show it. “Let’s talk properly,” Oliver pleaded from the kitchen door. “There’s nothing left to discuss. You’ve made your choice.” “I haven’t chosen anyone!” “You have. Every day, by coming home late. By lying about work trips. By buying her gifts with my money.” “Our money!” “Mine too. I work as well, remember?” Helen washed the dishes, carefully stacked them in the rack. Folded the fancy tablecloth and stowed it away. Everything as usual. Except her hands kept shaking. “What do you want, Helen?” Oliver asked, standing in the doorway. “I want to be alone. Tonight. To think.” “And tomorrow?” “I don’t know.” Two days she stayed silent. Oliver tried to talk, but got polite one-word replies. On the third day, he snapped. “How long is this going to go on?” “What are you unhappy about?” Helen asked as she ironed his shirt. “I cook, clean, wash up. Same as always.” “But you won’t talk to me!” “Why? You have Alyssa for conversations.” “Helen!” “What, ‘Helen’? You said it yourself – with me you’re bored, nothing to talk about. Why force it?” That evening, he left. Said he was going to see friends. Helen knew – he went to her. She sat at the computer, found Alyssa’s social media. Pretty. Young. Photos from luxury holidays, stylish clothes, champagne in hand. One post from yesterday: “Life is beautiful when you’re with someone who values you.” Hashtags: love, happiness, matureman. Mature man. Helen laughed. Like a product label. Girlfriends commented: “Alyssa, when’s the wedding?”, “Lucky you snagged such a guy!”, “What does his wife think?” Alyssa replied to the last: “Their marriage is just formality now. They live like housemates.” Thirty years – housemates. Next morning, Helen booked an appointment with a solicitor. Young chap in glasses listened carefully to her story. “I see. Joint assets are split fifty-fifty. House, cottage, car. If you can prove adultery, you might get a larger share.” “I don’t want a larger share,” Helen said. “Just what’s fair.” At home, she made a list: House – sell and split. Cottage – his. I’ll never go there again. Car – mine. He can buy himself a new one. Bank accounts – split. Oliver came home late, saw the list on the table. “What’s this?” “Divorce.” “Have you lost your mind?” “No. For once, I’ve come to my senses.” “Helen, I explained! She’s just a fling. It’ll pass!” “And if it doesn’t? Another thirty years waiting for you to ‘grow out of it’?” Oliver slumped on the sofa, buried his face in his hands. “I never meant to hurt you.” “But you did.” “What am I supposed to do now?” “Choose,” Helen said simply. “Family, or Alyssa. There’s no third option.” Three months they lived as actual housemates. Oliver moved into the guest room. Only spoke when necessary. Helen signed up for English classes, went swimming, made time for books she’d always put off. Alyssa called sometimes, tearful. Oliver stepped onto the balcony, tried to reassure her in hushed tones. One evening he came home early. Sat across from Helen. “I’ve broken it off.” “Why do I need to know?” “Helen, I get it now. I was an idiot. I made a terrible mistake.” “I agree.” “Can we try again? I’ve changed.” Helen set aside her book. “Oliver, you broke it off not because you realised my worth. But because she bored you. The next ‘Alyssa’ will pop up in a year or two.” “She won’t!” “Oh, she will. Because you didn’t lose me – what you lost is your youth. And I can’t help you with that.” “Helen.” “The divorce papers are ready. Sign them.” He did. No drama, no fighting over property. Helen took only what she’d planned. Six months later, Helen met Roman – her age, a widower, an English teacher. They met at a course. He invited her to the theatre. “You know, Helen,” he said over coffee after the play, “I enjoy talking to you. You’re interesting.” “Really? My ex-husband thought I was boring.” “Then he just didn’t know how to listen.” Roman listened. He valued her thoughts, laughed at her jokes, shared himself – without trying to act young. “What do you find attractive in women?” Helen asked one day. “Intelligence. Kindness. Sincerity. And you, in men?” “Honesty. And I like those who aren’t afraid of their age.” They laughed together. Oliver called occasionally. Holiday greetings, asking after her health. Like old friends. “Are you happy?” he asked once. “Yes,” Helen answered without hesitation. “And you?” “I don’t know. Probably not.” “Well, we all make our choices.” The five-hundred-pound ring she still keeps. Doesn’t wear – it stays in a jewellery box. A reminder of how thirty years can be devalued so quickly. Roman gave her a vintage brooch for her birthday – found at a flea market, not expensive, but chosen with love. “Beauty isn’t about price,” he said. “It’s about the feeling behind the gift.” And Helen understood – life after fifty doesn’t end. It only begins again. What do you think? Is it possible to start over from scratch later in life? Share your thoughts below.

Even thirty years of marriage isnt a reason to tolerate betrayal

Helen turned the small box in her handsvelvet worn thin, gold letters faded. Inside, three tiny stones sparkled. Beautiful, she admitted.

Five hundred pounds, said Oliver, scrolling through the news on his tablet. Bought it at Goldsmiths, using the store card.

Thank you, dear.

Something tightened in her chest. Not because of the pricewhat could she expect at their age? It was the way he spoke: casually. As if hed just bought a pint of milk and was reporting back.

Thirty years together. The pearl anniversaryrare these days. Helen had risen early, taken out the embroidered tablecloth from the cupboard, a wedding gift from her mother-in-law. Shed started preparing a Victoria spongethe cake Oliver once called a slice of heaven.

Now he sat, absorbed in his screen, barely answering her questions.

Oliver, do you remember you promised to take me to Italy for our thirtieth anniversary?

Mhm, not looking up.

I thought, maybe we could at least visit Cornwall? Its been ages since our last holiday together.

Helen, Ive got a tight deadline on this project. Cant spare the time.

There was always a project, especially in the last year and a half, since Oliver caught a case of late-life youth. Gym membership, expensive trainers, a revamped wardrobe. Even his haircut had changedswept fringe, shaved sides.

Midlife crisis, said her friend Susan. All men go through it. Itll pass.

It hadnt. In fact, it grew stronger.

Helen tried on the ringit fit perfectly. At least, after all these years, he still knew her size. The gemstones twinkled with a chilly gleam.

Looks nice, she repeated, examining the present.

Yeah. Current design. Youthful style.

That evening, at the celebration table, they sat together, mostly silent. The cake was as perfect as everlight, soft. Oliver ate a slice, complimented her out of habit. Helen watched him and wondered: When had her husband become a stranger?

And whos the young woman? she asked suddenly.

What woman? Oliver looked up from his plate.

The one who picked out the fashionable ring.

Whats she got to do with anything?

Oliver, her voice was calm, Im not stupid. A woman chose this ring. No man says youthful style.

A long, awkward pause.

Helen, dont be ridiculous.

Is her name Alice?

Oliver turned pale. He didnt even ask how she knew; confirmation enough.

I saw your messages by accident. A month ago, when you needed your insurers number. Sunshine, cant wait to see youring a bell?

He said nothing.

Twenty-eight, works at your office. Last night she posted a photo from that restaurantthe very table by the window where you sat. I recognised the tablecloth.

How do you know about the restaurant?

Susan saw you. By chance. Do you really think people here dont notice?

Oliver let out a heavy sigh.

All right. Yes, theres Alice. But its not what you think.

Then what is it?

She gets me. Its easy and fun with her. We talk about books, about films.

And with me, theres nothing to talk about?

Helen, look at you! You care only about the kids, about health, about supermarket prices. With Alice, I feel alive.

Alive, Helen echoed. I see.

I never wanted to hurt you.

Oliver bowed his head.

And does she know youre married?

She does.

And it doesnt bother her? Happy with being with a married man?

Helen, shes modern. Shes not chasing fairytales.

Modern, Helen scoffed. Yet thirty years with you is just an illusion?

She rose from the table and started tidying up. Her hands trembled, though she tried not to show it.

Lets talk properly, Oliver suggested, lingering in the kitchen doorway.

Theres nothing left to say. Youve made your choice.

I havent chosen anyone!

You have. Every day. When you come home late. When you lie about business trips. When you buy her gifts with my money.

Our money!

Mine, too. I work, remember?

Helen washed the dishes, arranged them in the rack, folded away the fancy tablecloth. Everything as usual. Except her hands still shook.

What do you want? Oliver asked softly.

I want to be alone. Tonight. To think.

And tomorrow?

I dont know.

For two days, she kept quiet. Oliver tried to talk to her, but got only polite, single-word answers in reply. On the third day, he cracked.

How long is this going to go on?

Whats wrong with it? she asked, ironing his shirt. I do everything. Cooking, cleaning, laundry. Like always.

But you wont talk to me!

What for? Youve got Alice for conversation.

Helen!

What? She shrugged. You said yourselfIm boring, weve nothing to discuss. Why force it?

That evening, he went out. Claimed he was meeting friends. Helen knew where hed really gone.

She sat at her computer and opened Alices social page. Pretty. Young. Pictures from fancy resorts, stylish dresses, champagne flute in hand.

One post yesterday: Life is beautiful with someone who values you. The tagslove, happiness, matureman.

Mature man. Helen smiled to herself, as if it were a product feature.

In the comments, friends chirped: Ally, whens the wedding? Lucky you! Whats his wife think?

Alice replied to the last: Their marriage has been just on paper for ages. Theyre just housemates.

Thirty yearsas room-mates.

The next morning, Helen booked an appointment with a solicitor. A young man with glasses listened attentively to her story.

I see. Joint assets are split equally. House, cottage, car. If we prove adultery, you may claim a greater share.

I dont need a bigger share, Helen replied. Fair is enough.

Back home, she made a list:

Housesell, split proceeds.

Holiday cottagehis. Shed never go back.

Carhers. Let him buy himself a new one.

Bank accountsdivide.

Oliver returned late, found the list on the table.

Whats this?

Divorce.

Youre mad!

No. Ive finally come to my senses.

Helen, I explained! Its just a fling. Itll fade!

And if it doesnt? Should I wait another thirty years for you to outgrow it?

Oliver slumped on the sofa, hiding his face in his hands.

I didnt mean to hurt you.

But you did.

What do I do now?

Choose, Helen said quietly. Family or Alice. Theres no middle ground.

For three months, they truly lived as housemates. Oliver moved to the spare room. Conversations were strictly functional. Helen signed up for English classes, joined the local swimming pool, started reading books shed never had time for.

Alice called occasionally, crying down the phone. Oliver would step out onto the balcony, explaining in whispers.

One evening, Oliver came home early. He sat opposite Helen.

Ive ended it with her.

Why tell me?

Helen, I know. Im a fool. I made a dreadful mistake.

I agree.

Could we try again? Ive changed.

Helen put down her book.

Oliver, you didnt leave her because you realised what Im worth. You just grew bored. Therell be another Alice in a year or two.

There wont!

Oh, there will. Its not me youre chasing, its your fading youth. And I cant help with that.

Helen.

Divorce papers are ready. Sign them.

He didwithout argument, without fighting over assets. Helen took only what shed outlined.

Six months later, she met Roberta widower, her own age, an English teacher. Theyd met at her night class. He asked her to the theatre.

You know, Helen, he said, over coffee afterwards, I enjoy talking with you. Youre genuinely interesting.

Really? My ex-husband thought I was dull.

He just didn’t know how to listen.

Robert did. He valued her thoughts, laughed at her jokes, spoke freelywithout pretending to be younger than he was.

What attracts you to women? Helen asked once.

Intelligence. Kindness. Sincerity. What about you in men?

Honesty. And not being embarrassed about his age.

They both laughed.

Oliver would ring now and then. Holiday greetings, small talk about health. Like old acquaintances.

Are you happy? he asked once.

Yes, Helen answered without hesitation. Are you?

Im not sure. Probably not.

Well, we all make our own choices.

She still kept the five-hundred-pound ring in her jewellery box. She didnt wear itjust kept it as a reminder of how easily thirty years can unravel.

But on her birthday, Robert gave her a vintage brooch hed found at a charity fair. It was inexpensive, but chosen with care.

True beauty isnt in the price, he said, but in the feeling behind the gift.

And Helen realisedlife isnt over after fifty. It begins again, if you let it.

So, what do you think? Is it ever too late to start afresh in life?

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Even Thirty Years of Marriage Isn’t a Reason to Endure Cheating Helen turned a small jewellery box in her hands – the velvet was worn, the golden letters faded. Inside glimmered three tiny stones. Beautiful, she had to admit. “Five hundred quid,” said Oliver, scrolling through the news on his tablet. “Got it from Goldsmiths, with my discount card.” “Thank you, love.” Something clenched inside her. Not because of the price – what could she expect, at their age? It was the way he said it. So ordinary. As if he was reporting on buying milk. Thirty years together. Pearl anniversary – rare these days. Helen got up early, fetched the fancy lace tablecloth from the cupboard – a wedding gift from her mother-in-law. She started making Angel Cake – Oliver once called it “a slice of heaven.” Now he sat, hunched over his screen, grunting answers to her questions. “Ollie, do you remember how you promised to take me to Italy for our thirtieth?” “Mmm,” without looking up. “I thought maybe, at least, we could have a trip to Cornwall? We haven’t had a proper holiday together in ages.” “Helen, I’ve got a big project on. No time now.” Project. There was always some project. Especially these past eighteen months, since Oliver suddenly caught a case of “feeling young.” Signed up to the gym, bought expensive trainers, changed his wardrobe. Even his haircut was trendy – fringe to the side, buzzed temples. “Midlife crisis,” her friend Susan said. “All men go through it. You’ll see, it passes.” It didn’t. If anything, it got worse. Helen tried on the ring – a perfect fit. After all these years, he still remembered her size. The stones glittered with a cold shine. “Pretty,” she repeated, staring at the gift. “Yes. Trendy setting. Youthful design.” That evening, they sat quietly at the celebration table. The cake was, as always, soft and light. Oliver ate a slice, praised it automatically. Helen watched him, wondering when her husband had become a stranger to her. “So, who’s this girl?” she asked suddenly. “What girl?” Oliver looked up from his plate. “The one who helped you pick out the youthful ring.” “What’s she got to do with anything?” “Oliver,” her voice was calm. “I’m not a fool. A woman picked that ring. No man ever says ‘youthful design.’” Long pause. Awkward. “Helen, don’t be ridiculous.” “Is her name Alyssa?” Oliver paled. Didn’t even ask how she knew. She’d hit the mark. “I saw your messages by accident. Last month, when you asked me to find the insurance number on your phone. ‘Sunshine, I’ll see you soon’ – sound familiar?” He was silent. “Twenty-eight, works in your office. Yesterday she posted a photo from a restaurant – the window seat where you two sat. I recognised the tablecloth.” “How do you know about the restaurant?” “Susan saw you. By chance. You think people in town wouldn’t notice?” Oliver sighed heavily. “Alright. Yes, there’s Alyssa. But it’s not what you think.” “What is it, then?” “She understands me. With her, it’s easy, interesting. We talk about books, about films.” “And with me, there’s nothing to say?” “Helen, just look at yourself! You only talk about the kids, your health, how the groceries have gone up. With Alyssa I feel… alive.” “Alive,” Helen repeated. “I see.” “I didn’t mean to hurt you.” Oliver dropped his head. “Does she know you’re married?” “She does.” “And she’s fine with that? Comfortable with dating a married man?” “Helen, she’s a modern girl. Doesn’t have illusions.” “Modern,” Helen scoffed. “So our thirty years together was an illusion too?” She stood to clear the table, hands trembling, though she tried not to show it. “Let’s talk properly,” Oliver pleaded from the kitchen door. “There’s nothing left to discuss. You’ve made your choice.” “I haven’t chosen anyone!” “You have. Every day, by coming home late. By lying about work trips. By buying her gifts with my money.” “Our money!” “Mine too. I work as well, remember?” Helen washed the dishes, carefully stacked them in the rack. Folded the fancy tablecloth and stowed it away. Everything as usual. Except her hands kept shaking. “What do you want, Helen?” Oliver asked, standing in the doorway. “I want to be alone. Tonight. To think.” “And tomorrow?” “I don’t know.” Two days she stayed silent. Oliver tried to talk, but got polite one-word replies. On the third day, he snapped. “How long is this going to go on?” “What are you unhappy about?” Helen asked as she ironed his shirt. “I cook, clean, wash up. Same as always.” “But you won’t talk to me!” “Why? You have Alyssa for conversations.” “Helen!” “What, ‘Helen’? You said it yourself – with me you’re bored, nothing to talk about. Why force it?” That evening, he left. Said he was going to see friends. Helen knew – he went to her. She sat at the computer, found Alyssa’s social media. Pretty. Young. Photos from luxury holidays, stylish clothes, champagne in hand. One post from yesterday: “Life is beautiful when you’re with someone who values you.” Hashtags: love, happiness, matureman. Mature man. Helen laughed. Like a product label. Girlfriends commented: “Alyssa, when’s the wedding?”, “Lucky you snagged such a guy!”, “What does his wife think?” Alyssa replied to the last: “Their marriage is just formality now. They live like housemates.” Thirty years – housemates. Next morning, Helen booked an appointment with a solicitor. Young chap in glasses listened carefully to her story. “I see. Joint assets are split fifty-fifty. House, cottage, car. If you can prove adultery, you might get a larger share.” “I don’t want a larger share,” Helen said. “Just what’s fair.” At home, she made a list: House – sell and split. Cottage – his. I’ll never go there again. Car – mine. He can buy himself a new one. Bank accounts – split. Oliver came home late, saw the list on the table. “What’s this?” “Divorce.” “Have you lost your mind?” “No. For once, I’ve come to my senses.” “Helen, I explained! She’s just a fling. It’ll pass!” “And if it doesn’t? Another thirty years waiting for you to ‘grow out of it’?” Oliver slumped on the sofa, buried his face in his hands. “I never meant to hurt you.” “But you did.” “What am I supposed to do now?” “Choose,” Helen said simply. “Family, or Alyssa. There’s no third option.” Three months they lived as actual housemates. Oliver moved into the guest room. Only spoke when necessary. Helen signed up for English classes, went swimming, made time for books she’d always put off. Alyssa called sometimes, tearful. Oliver stepped onto the balcony, tried to reassure her in hushed tones. One evening he came home early. Sat across from Helen. “I’ve broken it off.” “Why do I need to know?” “Helen, I get it now. I was an idiot. I made a terrible mistake.” “I agree.” “Can we try again? I’ve changed.” Helen set aside her book. “Oliver, you broke it off not because you realised my worth. But because she bored you. The next ‘Alyssa’ will pop up in a year or two.” “She won’t!” “Oh, she will. Because you didn’t lose me – what you lost is your youth. And I can’t help you with that.” “Helen.” “The divorce papers are ready. Sign them.” He did. No drama, no fighting over property. Helen took only what she’d planned. Six months later, Helen met Roman – her age, a widower, an English teacher. They met at a course. He invited her to the theatre. “You know, Helen,” he said over coffee after the play, “I enjoy talking to you. You’re interesting.” “Really? My ex-husband thought I was boring.” “Then he just didn’t know how to listen.” Roman listened. He valued her thoughts, laughed at her jokes, shared himself – without trying to act young. “What do you find attractive in women?” Helen asked one day. “Intelligence. Kindness. Sincerity. And you, in men?” “Honesty. And I like those who aren’t afraid of their age.” They laughed together. Oliver called occasionally. Holiday greetings, asking after her health. Like old friends. “Are you happy?” he asked once. “Yes,” Helen answered without hesitation. “And you?” “I don’t know. Probably not.” “Well, we all make our choices.” The five-hundred-pound ring she still keeps. Doesn’t wear – it stays in a jewellery box. A reminder of how thirty years can be devalued so quickly. Roman gave her a vintage brooch for her birthday – found at a flea market, not expensive, but chosen with love. “Beauty isn’t about price,” he said. “It’s about the feeling behind the gift.” And Helen understood – life after fifty doesn’t end. It only begins again. What do you think? Is it possible to start over from scratch later in life? Share your thoughts below.