“I’m Done Babysitting Your Grown-Up Son,” Declared the Daughter-in-Law and Headed for the Seaside Valerie’s son was a decent, hard-working man. But his wife turned out to be rather peculiar—sometimes refusing to cook, other times unwilling to clean, and lately, she seemed to have truly lost patience. Just yesterday, the house erupted in another argument. “Chris,” she told her husband, “I can’t take this any longer! You’re a grown man, but you act just like a child!” Chris was baffled. He wasn’t asking for anything outlandish—just for Marina to pick his socks, iron his shirt, and remind him about his appointment. “My mum always helped me,” he mumbled. “Then go live with your mother!” Marina exploded. The next day, she packed her suitcase. “Chris,” she said calmly, “I’m going to Brighton. For a month. Maybe longer.” “What do you mean, longer?” Chris asked. “That’s right—I’ve had enough of babysitting a grown man.” Chris tried to protest, but Marina ignored him. She grabbed her phone, dialled a number: “Valerie? It’s Marina. If he can’t get by without me, maybe you’ll stay here for a while. Spare keys are under the mat.” And she left. Chris sat alone in the empty flat, clueless about what to do. The fridge was empty, socks were dirty, and the sink was overflowing with dishes. A couple of days later, he rang his mum. “Mum, Marina’s gone off the deep end! Left for who-knows-where! What am I supposed to do now?” Valerie sighed: more trouble with the daughter-in-law. “I’ll be right over, love. We’ll sort it out.” She arrived in an hour, arms full of groceries and her familiar, take-charge mum attitude: don’t worry, I’ll fix everything. But when she opened the door, she gasped. The place was a tip. Clothes piled on the floor, dishes stacked everywhere, dirty laundry blocking the bathroom. At that moment, Valerie understood: her thirty-year-old son genuinely had no idea how to live. At all. She’d spent her life doing everything for him. And created… a big child. “Mum,” Chris whined, “what’s for dinner? Where are my shirts? When’s Marina coming back?” Valerie quietly started cleaning, but one thought kept repeating: what have I done? She’d shielded her son all his life from hard work, from challenges, even from life itself! Now, without a woman around, he was lost. And Marina? She’d simply run away from this big, helpless boy. And who could blame her? Valerie stayed three days at her son’s. Every day, the truth became clearer: she’d raised a big child. Chris would wake up and start moaning: “Mum, what’s for breakfast? Where’s my shirt? Any clean socks?” Valerie quietly ironed, cooked, and tidied up. And watched. Imagine—a thirty-year-old man who couldn’t work the washing machine, didn’t know the price of bread, could barely manage a cuppa without scalding himself or spilling the sugar. “Mum,” he’d complain in the evenings, “Marina’s changed—she’s always cross now. Maybe she should see a doctor about her nerves?” “Maybe she’s just worn out,” his mother gently suggested. “From what? We both work! But keeping the home is woman’s work.” And here’s the shocking part: Valerie suddenly heard herself—her own words, echoing from years ago— “Chris, leave it, Mum’ll do it!” “Don’t go shopping, Mum’s quicker!” “You’re a man; you’ve got more important things to do!” She’d created a monster. The more she watched, the more troubling it became. Chris would flop onto the sofa every night, expecting supper, expecting to be told the news, expecting constant entertainment. And if supper didn’t magically appear, he’d start pouting: “Mum, when’s dinner? I’m starving!” Just like a child. Worst of all were his complaints about Marina. “She’s become so grouchy—always tense. Maybe she needs to see a doctor about her hormones.” “Or maybe she’s just exhausted?” Valerie ventured. “Exhausted from what? We both work full-time! But home? That’s for women!” “Women ‘should’?” Valerie suddenly snapped. “Who said that?” Chris was startled; Mum had never shouted at him before. On the fourth evening, Valerie had had enough. Chris sprawled on the sofa, scrolling his phone and sighing—bored without his wife. Dishes piled in the kitchen, socks on the floor, bed unmade. “Mum,” he whined, “what’s for dinner?” Valerie stood at the stove, cooking stew as always, just like she’d done for thirty years. Suddenly, she thought: enough. “Chris,” she said, turning off the gas. “We need to talk.” “I’m listening,” he replied, eyes still glued to his phone. “Put the phone down. Look at me.” Something in her tone made Chris obey. “Son,” Valerie began quietly, “do you understand why Marina left you?” “She’ll snap out of it. Women are just emotional. She’ll rest and come back.” “She won’t.” “What do you mean, won’t come back?” “That’s just the reality. She’s tired of acting like your mother.” Chris leapt up. “Mum! What do you mean ‘child’? I work, I earn money!” “So what?” Valerie stood tall. “What about at home? Are you disabled? Blind?” Chris blanched. “How can you say that? I’m your son!” “That’s exactly why I’m saying it!” She sat, hands trembling. “Mum, are you unwell?” Chris asked, alarmed. “Unwell!” She laughed bitterly. “I’m sick—with love. With blind motherly love. I thought I was protecting you. In fact, I made you selfish—a thirty-year-old man who, without women, is helpless! Who thinks the world owes him!” “But…” Chris started. “But nothing!” Valerie interrupted. “What, you want Marina to be your second mum? Wash, cook, clean up after you? For what?” “I work though.” “And she works! Plus keeps the house running! And you? You just lounge on the sofa and expect to be pampered!” Chris’s eyes went shiny. “Mum, everyone lives like this.” “Not everyone!” Valerie snapped. “Normal men help their wives—washing up, cooking, raising the kids! You? You don’t even know where we keep the washing powder!” Chris sat with his face in his hands. “Marina’s right,” Valerie said softly. “She’s tired of being your mother. And so am I.” “What do you mean, tired?” “That’s it.” Valerie grabbed her coat and bag. “I’m going home. You’re staying here. Alone. It’s time you finally grew up.” “Mum, what’s this? Alone? Who’ll cook? Who’ll clean?” “You will!” his mother shouted. “You will! Like all normal adults!” “But I don’t know how!” “You’ll learn! Or end up a lonely, childish loser!” Valerie put on her coat. “Mum, don’t go!” Chris pleaded. “What am I supposed to do on my own?” “What you should’ve been doing twenty years ago—live independently.” And she left. Chris was alone in his messy flat, for the first time ever—truly alone. Face to face with reality. He sat on the sofa until midnight. His stomach grumbling, dishes stinking in the sink, socks scattered across the floor. “Damn,” he muttered, and, for the first time in thirty years, got up to do the washing up himself. Clumsily—plates sliding everywhere, his hands stinging from detergent—but he managed. Then, he tried making scrambled eggs. Burnt the first go. Tried again—success! By morning, he admitted: Mum was right. A week passed. Every day, Chris learned how to live on his own. Cooking, washing, cleaning. Shopping and figuring out prices. Managing his own schedule. Turns out—it was hard work. And finally, he understood what life was like for Marina. “Hi, Marina?” he called that Saturday. “Yes?” came her cold reply. “You were right,” Chris said quickly. “I’ve been acting just like a child.” Marina was silent. “I’ve lived alone this week. I get it now—it’s tough. I’m sorry.” After a long pause, Marina said: “You know, your mum called me yesterday. Apologised for how she’d raised you.” Marina returned a month later. She came home to a clean flat, a husband who’d cooked dinner and welcomed her with flowers. “Welcome home,” he smiled. Valerie phoned once a week—asked after them, but didn’t invite herself over. One evening, while Chris washed up after dinner and Marina brewed tea, she said, “You know, I’m really liking this new life of ours.” “Me too,” he answered, drying his hands. “Shame it took so long to get here.” “At least we made it,” Marina smiled. And it was true.

Im tired of looking after your son, my daughter-in-law declared one morning, then packed her suitcase and left for Brighton.

My mother, Margaret Evans, had one childme.

I was a decent sort, offered to lend a hand when I could, and worked hard, but somehow, my wife turned out to be quite peculiar. Shed refuse to cook at times, wouldnt clean, and lately, seemed almost wild.

It happened again just yesterday.

James, she said, voice sharp as ever, I cant take this anymore! Youre a grown man, but you act like a child!

I was baffled. I hadnt asked for anything extraordinary. I simply wanted Emily to help me find my socks, iron a shirt, and remind me about my GP appointment.

My mum always used to help me, I mumbled.

Well, go live with your mother, then! Emily snapped.

She moved quickly after that. The next day, shed packed her bags.

James, she said, her voice calm, Im off to Brighton. For a month, maybe longer.

What do you mean, longer!?

Ive had enoughIm tired of babysitting a grown man.

I tried to protest, but Emily wasnt having it. Calmly, she reached for her phone and dialed:

Mrs Evans? Its Emily. If he cant manage without a nanny, perhaps you could stay here for a while. The spare keys under the doormat.

And just like that, she was gone.

I sat in the empty flat, completely lost. The fridge was bare, my socks were dirty, and the sink was stacked high with dishes.

A few days later, I called my mum:

Mum, Emilys gone mad! Driven off to who knows where! What am I supposed to do now?

Margaret Evans sighed deeply. Problems with the daughter-in-law, once again.

Ill be over soon, James. Well sort things out.

She arrived within the hour, carrying a bag full of groceries and that familiar maternal determinationwhatever was wrong, shed put right.

But when she opened the door, she nearly gasped.

Chaos everywhere. Clothes strewn across the bedroom floor. Dishes piled in the kitchen. Laundry abandoned in the bathroom.

And in that moment, Margaret understood: her thirty-year-old son genuinely didnt know how to live. Not at all.

Shed spent her entire life doing everything for meraising a very large child.

Mum, I whined, Whats for dinner? Where are my shirts? Whens Emily coming home?

Margaret started to tidy up in silence, but her mind was running wild: What had she done?

Her whole life had been spent shielding her sonfrom housework, from difficulty, from real life.

Now, without a woman in the house, I was hopeless.

And Emily? Shed simply escaped from a giant, helpless child.

And who could blame her?

Margaret Evans spent three days living in my flat.

Every day, she realised more and more: shed raised a very large child.

Id wake up and immediately start whining:

Mum, whats for breakfast? Where are my shirts? Do I have clean socks?

Margaret would quietly iron, cook, cleanand watch.

Imagine: a thirty-year-old man unable to use a washing machine! He had no clue how much a loaf of bread cost. Even making a cup of tea seemed a tragic strugglescalded fingers here, spilled sugar there.

Mum, I complained in the evenings, Emilys gone totally mad! She used to pretend she loved me, now she acts like a total stranger!

And how do you behave? Margaret cautiously enquired.

The usual way! I dont ask for anything special. I just want my wife to be a wifenot a grumpy old witch!

Margaret looked at her son in disbelief. Goodness. He really didnt get it.

James, do you ever help Emily?

What do you mean? I replied, genuinely confused. I work! I bring home the money! Isnt that enough?

What about stuff at home?

Well, what about it? Im tired when I get back from work! I just want to relax. Yet shes always asking for somethingwash the dishes, fetch the groceries. Thats womens work!

Heres the thing: Margaret suddenly recognised herself. All those phrases shed said to her son since childhood

James, dont touch, Ill clean it myself! Dont go to the shops, Mums quicker! Youre a man, youve got more important things to do!

Shed built a monster.

The more she watched, the more frightened she became.

I would come home and collapse onto the sofa. Expect dinner, expect the news, expect to be entertained.

But when dinner didnt magically appear, Id grow sulky:

Mum, when are we eating? Im starving!

Like a child.

Worst of all were my comments about Emily.

Shes become so tense, Id grumble. Always moody. Maybe she should see a doctor? Get her hormones checked?

Maybe shes just exhausted? my mum suggested.

Exhausted from what? We both work. But the homethats a womans responsibility.

Responsibility?! Margaret exploded. Who ever said so?

I was stunned. My mum had never yelled at me before.

On the fourth evening, Margaret Evans patience snapped.

I sat on the sofa, scrolling through my phone, sighing for lack of company. The kitchen was a mess, socks littered the floor, the bed was unmade.

Mum, I whimpered, Whats for dinner?

Margaret was making beef stew. As always. Just as she had for thirty years.

Suddenly she stopped. Enough was enough.

James, she said, switching off the stove, We need a word.

Im listening, I replied, eyes fixed on my phone.

Put the phone down. And look at me.

Her voice was so firm, I did as I was told.

Son, Margaret began softly, Do you understand why Emily left?

Shes just having one of her moments. Women are emotional. Shell calm down and come back.

She wont.

What do you mean, she wont?

I mean, shes fed up with babysitting a big child.

I leapt from the sofa:

Mum! What are you on about? Whos a child? I work, I bring home the money!

So what? Margaret stood tall. What about the house? Cant you use your hands? Lost your sight?

My face paled.

How can you say that, Mum? Im your son!

Thats exactly why I say it! She slumped onto a chair, her hands shaking.

Mum, are you ill? I asked, panicking.

Ill! Im ill with love. Blind motherly love. I thought I was protecting you, but I raised an egotist! Now youre thirty and useless without women to do everything! You think the world owes you!

But I tried.

No buts! Margaret cut me off. You believe Emily should be your second mum? Cleaning, cooking, tidying up after you? Why?

I work!

So does she! Yet she still manages the house! And what do you do? Lounge on the sofa waiting to be served!

My eyes welled up.

Mum, everyone lives like this.

Not true! Margaret almost shouted. Decent men help their wives! They wash up, cook, raise kids! And you? You dont even know where the laundry powder is!

I sat there, face in my hands.

Emilys right, Margaret said quietly. Shes tired of being your mum. And Im tired too.

What do you mean, tired?

I mean this. Margaret went to the hallway, grabbed her bag. Im going home. And youre staying here. On your own. Try finally acting like an adult.

Mum, what are you doing? I sprang up. On my own? Wholl cook? Wholl clean?

You will! she shouted. You! Like every other normal grown-up!

But I dont know how!

Youll learn! Or youll be a lonely, childish failure forever!

Margaret put on her coat.

Mum, dont go! I begged. What am I supposed to do on my own?

What you shouldve started doing twenty years ago, she replied. Live for yourself.

And she left.

I was alone in that dirty flat. For the first time in my lifecompletely alone.

Facing reality.

I stayed on the sofa until midnight.

My stomach was rumbling. The sink stank. Socks were everywhere.

Blimey, I muttered, and for the first time in thirty years, got up to wash the dishes myself.

It was clumsy work. Plates slipped, my hands tingled from the washing liquid. Yet I managed.

Then I tried to make scrambled eggs. Burned it. Gave it another shotcame out edible.

And in the morning, it clicked: Mum was right.

A week passed.

Every day, I practised living on my own. Washing, cooking, tidying. Shopping and figuring out prices. Planning my day so everything fit.

It was genuine work.

And only then did I truly understand what Emily had gone through.

Hello, Emily? I rang on Saturday.

Yes? she answered, cold.

Youre right, I admitted straight away. Ive acted like a big child.

Emily was silent.

Ive lived alone for a week now. And I get it, I hesitated. I finally get how tough its been for you. Im sorry.

She didnt reply for ages.

You know, she finally said, Your mum rang yesterday. She apologised toofor raising you wrong.

Emily returned after a month.

She came back to a spotless flat, to a husband whod cooked dinner and met her at the door with flowers.

Welcome home, I said.

And Margaret Evans rang every week, checked in, but never invited herself over.

One evening, as I was washing up after dinner and Emily was making us tea, she said:

You knowI rather like our new life.

Me too, I replied, drying my hands on the towel. It just took us a while to get here.

At least we made it, Emily smiled.

And that was the honest truth.

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“I’m Done Babysitting Your Grown-Up Son,” Declared the Daughter-in-Law and Headed for the Seaside Valerie’s son was a decent, hard-working man. But his wife turned out to be rather peculiar—sometimes refusing to cook, other times unwilling to clean, and lately, she seemed to have truly lost patience. Just yesterday, the house erupted in another argument. “Chris,” she told her husband, “I can’t take this any longer! You’re a grown man, but you act just like a child!” Chris was baffled. He wasn’t asking for anything outlandish—just for Marina to pick his socks, iron his shirt, and remind him about his appointment. “My mum always helped me,” he mumbled. “Then go live with your mother!” Marina exploded. The next day, she packed her suitcase. “Chris,” she said calmly, “I’m going to Brighton. For a month. Maybe longer.” “What do you mean, longer?” Chris asked. “That’s right—I’ve had enough of babysitting a grown man.” Chris tried to protest, but Marina ignored him. She grabbed her phone, dialled a number: “Valerie? It’s Marina. If he can’t get by without me, maybe you’ll stay here for a while. Spare keys are under the mat.” And she left. Chris sat alone in the empty flat, clueless about what to do. The fridge was empty, socks were dirty, and the sink was overflowing with dishes. A couple of days later, he rang his mum. “Mum, Marina’s gone off the deep end! Left for who-knows-where! What am I supposed to do now?” Valerie sighed: more trouble with the daughter-in-law. “I’ll be right over, love. We’ll sort it out.” She arrived in an hour, arms full of groceries and her familiar, take-charge mum attitude: don’t worry, I’ll fix everything. But when she opened the door, she gasped. The place was a tip. Clothes piled on the floor, dishes stacked everywhere, dirty laundry blocking the bathroom. At that moment, Valerie understood: her thirty-year-old son genuinely had no idea how to live. At all. She’d spent her life doing everything for him. And created… a big child. “Mum,” Chris whined, “what’s for dinner? Where are my shirts? When’s Marina coming back?” Valerie quietly started cleaning, but one thought kept repeating: what have I done? She’d shielded her son all his life from hard work, from challenges, even from life itself! Now, without a woman around, he was lost. And Marina? She’d simply run away from this big, helpless boy. And who could blame her? Valerie stayed three days at her son’s. Every day, the truth became clearer: she’d raised a big child. Chris would wake up and start moaning: “Mum, what’s for breakfast? Where’s my shirt? Any clean socks?” Valerie quietly ironed, cooked, and tidied up. And watched. Imagine—a thirty-year-old man who couldn’t work the washing machine, didn’t know the price of bread, could barely manage a cuppa without scalding himself or spilling the sugar. “Mum,” he’d complain in the evenings, “Marina’s changed—she’s always cross now. Maybe she should see a doctor about her nerves?” “Maybe she’s just worn out,” his mother gently suggested. “From what? We both work! But keeping the home is woman’s work.” And here’s the shocking part: Valerie suddenly heard herself—her own words, echoing from years ago— “Chris, leave it, Mum’ll do it!” “Don’t go shopping, Mum’s quicker!” “You’re a man; you’ve got more important things to do!” She’d created a monster. The more she watched, the more troubling it became. Chris would flop onto the sofa every night, expecting supper, expecting to be told the news, expecting constant entertainment. And if supper didn’t magically appear, he’d start pouting: “Mum, when’s dinner? I’m starving!” Just like a child. Worst of all were his complaints about Marina. “She’s become so grouchy—always tense. Maybe she needs to see a doctor about her hormones.” “Or maybe she’s just exhausted?” Valerie ventured. “Exhausted from what? We both work full-time! But home? That’s for women!” “Women ‘should’?” Valerie suddenly snapped. “Who said that?” Chris was startled; Mum had never shouted at him before. On the fourth evening, Valerie had had enough. Chris sprawled on the sofa, scrolling his phone and sighing—bored without his wife. Dishes piled in the kitchen, socks on the floor, bed unmade. “Mum,” he whined, “what’s for dinner?” Valerie stood at the stove, cooking stew as always, just like she’d done for thirty years. Suddenly, she thought: enough. “Chris,” she said, turning off the gas. “We need to talk.” “I’m listening,” he replied, eyes still glued to his phone. “Put the phone down. Look at me.” Something in her tone made Chris obey. “Son,” Valerie began quietly, “do you understand why Marina left you?” “She’ll snap out of it. Women are just emotional. She’ll rest and come back.” “She won’t.” “What do you mean, won’t come back?” “That’s just the reality. She’s tired of acting like your mother.” Chris leapt up. “Mum! What do you mean ‘child’? I work, I earn money!” “So what?” Valerie stood tall. “What about at home? Are you disabled? Blind?” Chris blanched. “How can you say that? I’m your son!” “That’s exactly why I’m saying it!” She sat, hands trembling. “Mum, are you unwell?” Chris asked, alarmed. “Unwell!” She laughed bitterly. “I’m sick—with love. With blind motherly love. I thought I was protecting you. In fact, I made you selfish—a thirty-year-old man who, without women, is helpless! Who thinks the world owes him!” “But…” Chris started. “But nothing!” Valerie interrupted. “What, you want Marina to be your second mum? Wash, cook, clean up after you? For what?” “I work though.” “And she works! Plus keeps the house running! And you? You just lounge on the sofa and expect to be pampered!” Chris’s eyes went shiny. “Mum, everyone lives like this.” “Not everyone!” Valerie snapped. “Normal men help their wives—washing up, cooking, raising the kids! You? You don’t even know where we keep the washing powder!” Chris sat with his face in his hands. “Marina’s right,” Valerie said softly. “She’s tired of being your mother. And so am I.” “What do you mean, tired?” “That’s it.” Valerie grabbed her coat and bag. “I’m going home. You’re staying here. Alone. It’s time you finally grew up.” “Mum, what’s this? Alone? Who’ll cook? Who’ll clean?” “You will!” his mother shouted. “You will! Like all normal adults!” “But I don’t know how!” “You’ll learn! Or end up a lonely, childish loser!” Valerie put on her coat. “Mum, don’t go!” Chris pleaded. “What am I supposed to do on my own?” “What you should’ve been doing twenty years ago—live independently.” And she left. Chris was alone in his messy flat, for the first time ever—truly alone. Face to face with reality. He sat on the sofa until midnight. His stomach grumbling, dishes stinking in the sink, socks scattered across the floor. “Damn,” he muttered, and, for the first time in thirty years, got up to do the washing up himself. Clumsily—plates sliding everywhere, his hands stinging from detergent—but he managed. Then, he tried making scrambled eggs. Burnt the first go. Tried again—success! By morning, he admitted: Mum was right. A week passed. Every day, Chris learned how to live on his own. Cooking, washing, cleaning. Shopping and figuring out prices. Managing his own schedule. Turns out—it was hard work. And finally, he understood what life was like for Marina. “Hi, Marina?” he called that Saturday. “Yes?” came her cold reply. “You were right,” Chris said quickly. “I’ve been acting just like a child.” Marina was silent. “I’ve lived alone this week. I get it now—it’s tough. I’m sorry.” After a long pause, Marina said: “You know, your mum called me yesterday. Apologised for how she’d raised you.” Marina returned a month later. She came home to a clean flat, a husband who’d cooked dinner and welcomed her with flowers. “Welcome home,” he smiled. Valerie phoned once a week—asked after them, but didn’t invite herself over. One evening, while Chris washed up after dinner and Marina brewed tea, she said, “You know, I’m really liking this new life of ours.” “Me too,” he answered, drying his hands. “Shame it took so long to get here.” “At least we made it,” Marina smiled. And it was true.