You should have done my flat up, not gone off on holiday!
It still amazes me how my mother-in-law finds something to complain about, even when we try to do something for ourselves. This time, shes in a strop because we went on holiday instead of paying for her to redecorate her flat. Her place is perfectly nice and in good conditionshe just fancies a change. But in her world, were expected to be her personal sponsors, even though she could easily afford it herself.
My husband, Edward, and I are notoriously careful with money. We’re still paying off our mortgage, and raising two teenagersCharlotte and Gracedoesn’t come cheap. Weve always put the familys needs first. Until this summer, we hadnt had a proper holiday in all our years of marriage.
Up till now, the best we managed were getaways to the woods in Surrey or renting a little cottage on the Cornish coast. The girls hadnt seen much of the world, so finally, we scraped and saved to book a trip to Italy. It took pinching pennies and cutting back on countless treats, but it was worth every pound.
Not that my mother-in-law, Margaret, ever volunteered to babysit her granddaughters. She made it clear straight after our wedding that looking after children wasnt her cup of tea. I never pressed her, so the girls used to stay with my own parents whenever Edward and I had to work at weekends or during school breaks. Ive never held it against her; after all, raising kids is no small feat, and now shes retired, shes earned a rest.
Margaret keeps herself busyshes joined a swimming club, flits between outings and exhibitions, and seems to have a busier social life than most people half her age. The snag is, she expects all her adventuresand any little whimto be funded by her children, regardless of our own circumstances. Mortgages, school fees, or bills never interest her; if Mum wants something, Mum must be helped.
Weekends, she’d come up with a never-ending list of chores for Edwardfix this, carry that. Then, this year, she really took leave of her senses, announcing she wanted her flat redecorated. Everyone wants something, but you can’t always have it, can you? Besides, only five years ago wed paid for a full refurb, and the place is still spotless.
We hadnt told Margaret we were off to Italy; frankly, we thought it best just to lock up and go. So thats exactly what we did.
While we were away, Margaret turned up at our house and found the door locked. She rang Edward, who admitted we were in Italy. She didnt say another wordbut when we got home, it was like walking into an emotional minefield.
You could have at least warned me. And where did you get the money? You should have done my flat up, not wasted it on a holiday.
Ordinarily, Edward would bite his tongue, but not this time. He calmly reminded her that she hadnt contributed a penny to our trip.
Ever since, Margaret has cut us off completely. She doesnt even ring Charlotte or Grace. All the other relatives are now ringing us, telling us what terrible people we are. But honestly, Edward and I dont feel guilty. My parents have been completely supportive, reassuring us that its important to travel while were youngespecially when the need for a redecorated flat is nothing but a whim, not a necessity.












