Gran set his grandson and his wife out on their ear and decided, at the ripe old age of 80, to live on her own.
Our gran is eighty years old now. Just last week, she gave my older brother and his wife the boot and hasnt spoken much to anyone since. If I ring to say well pop round, she hangs up straight away. She wont even answer the door to a soul.
My brother wont tell me exactly why he moved into a rented flat, but I can hazard a guess. It didnt shock me that Gran showed him the doorhes always been a bit careless and more interested in spending than saving.
The moment Gran had the place to herself, and there was finally some space in her flat, the family called an emergency meeting at my aunts. Gran herself stayed away. The one burning question, of course, was how she could possibly cope, managing on her own at her age.
Dads sister decided that her thirty-year-old daughter, currently out of work, could look after Gran full-time. Everyone knew her daughter was more than a little scatter-brained and not exactly the nurturing type.
Dads other sister came up with her own cost-cutting schemeshe suggested moving Gran into a bedsit to save a few quid, The young ones have moved out, hows she supposed to pay for such a big flat?
Then my uncle piped up, offering to have Gran live with him, while his son would take over her flat. Made sense to him, he saidits not easy living alone at eighty. Time for the next generation to have their turn. All these proposals were dressed up as caring for Grans well-being.
I only want whats best for Mum. Shed be safe and cared-for! said my uncle, a bit too loudly.
Gran had already lived with one of his sons; now he wanted the other one in that flat. Dad was the only one who said Gran should actually have a say in her own life. The rest of them were scandalised.
The pushiest by far was Dads first sister, so everyone caved and agreed on her daughter moving in. The niece started packing her suitcase right away, and Gran was given a call, quite matter-of-factly, to inform her of the family decision. The old lady, clearly unimpressed, slammed the phone down.
The girl went over to Grans, already planning how shed redecorate. Things didnt go to plan. Gran bolted the door and wouldnt let her in. She did, however, leave a jar of pickled onions on the doorstep for her granddaughter.
How can she be left on her own like this? moaned the niece, annoyed as anything. Shes claiming shes never lived her own life in eighty yearsnow she suddenly decides she wants to start? Something could happen at any moment! If her health failed, or anything! Being alone is dangerous!
Grans not thinking straight! Theres no gratitude! She spent her life living with her parents, then Granddad, then her children and grandchildren, even their families. And now she wants peace and quiet, alone, in a three-bedroom flat! Its outrageous! Its high time to make space for youngsters!
Only Dad kept a level head. He didnt fancy the idea of forcing anyone to move. He had another plan. Gran couldnt just be left completely on her ownwith that, he and my aunts were right: anything could happen. None of us even have keys; she changed all the locks when she sent my brother packing. After all, at her age every day is unpredictable.
With Mums blessing, Dad had a camera fitted in Grans hallway. Now, whenever she walked through, you could see her on the screenproof for all the anxious relatives that she was safe and sound. Gran herself played up to it and pulled faces each time she glanced at the camera.
She was adamant about paying her own bills, which, living alone, didnt amount to much anyway. She flatly refused help, just wanted everyone to keep out of her hair. And so, oddly enough, everyones finally satisfied. Thanks to a bit of tech, Gran managed to be rid of the family busybodies.
Its all worked out for the best. The only trouble is, Gran still wont let anyone in for a cuppa. I popped round yesterday and had to collect a jar of raspberry jam from outside her door on the landing. Shes clearly still worried about losing her independence. I just wish shed finally relax a bit and be open to seeing us again.












