How long has it been since your son last spoke to you? I asked my neighbour, Mrs. Thompson. Honestly, my heart just about snapped in two right then.
Oh, well, she began, its been six years since I last set eyes on him. After he moved away with his wife, I suppose he rang me now and thenat first. Eventually, though, the calls just dried up. Once, I even bought a Victoria sponge for his birthday and went round…
At that, she looked down at her cup and her eyes welled up.
And? What happened then? I prodded gently.
My daughter-in-law opened the door and told me, quite bluntly, that I wasnt welcome. My son stood there, silent as a statue, looking at me as if Id stolen his TV licence or something, and then glanced away. Thats the last I saw of him.
He never rang you after that? I could hardly believe it.
I did call him once, when I was selling my three-bedroom place to move into something smaller. Of course, I gave him a bit of money. He turned up, signed the papers, took the cheque, and that was it. Never called again.
Do you feel lonely? Or have you just made peace with solitude? I asked, unsure if I was overstepping.
Oh, I manage just fine, dear! You know, when I was young, it was just me and my son. His father ran off with some woman from accounts, left me to raise him on my own. Our house might have been quiet, but it was full of warmth. Eventually, my lad told me he wanted to rent his own flat. At first, I was pleasedyou always hope your children will become independent, dont you?
She gave a rueful chuckle.
But no, it was all about his girlfriend. She wanted their own place so that no one could interrupt their wild parties, I suppose. Then she ended up expecting.
You tell me this so plainly, I said, astonished. Dont you feel bitter, being left on your own at your age?
Ive got used to it. I quite like my new little flat. I have enough money to get by. Every morning, I put the kettle on and take my cup of tea out onto the balcony. I love watching the city slowly waking up. When I was younger, I only dreamed of being able to sleep in. I had to work back-to-back shifts just to keep our heads above water. I did hope Id have a house full of loved ones in my old age, but lifes not always so tidy, is it?
Why not get a pet? I suggested. A cat or a dog might keep you company.
She shook her head, bemused. Oh, love, even cats up sticks and leave sometimes, dont they? And as for a dog, well, I couldnt bear the thought I might not wake up one morning and leave it with no one to walk it. I cant bring in someone I might end up letting down. Made enough questionable choices in my youth, thank you very much.
She fought to hold her chin up, but at last the tears came anyway and she just sat quietly.
Look, kids, dont just abandon your parents. Youll always be a part of them, and if they slip away from you, so does a part of yourself.
