You have no conscience. Cant you see how difficult it is for Daniel? Hes your brother; you could have helped him. You always think only of yourself.
A few days ago my mother called and told me to collect all my things from her flat.
We can barely get around because of your stuff, she said.
She said this after I declined to give my brother Daniel money for the down payment on a new apartment. I didnt even consider a loan, because I know he would never repay me.
When I said no, Daniel stormed out of my place, livid. He assumed I would hand over my entire savings since he has a family and children, while I dont.
I need to sort this out because I feel my relatives are being unreasonable, especially with the holidays approaching.
When I moved to London for my studies I immediately took a parttime job.
At first I stayed in a dorm, then I rented a flat with a friend. I didnt want to rely on my parents, so I worked hard not only to support myself but also to help my mom.
She never asked for cash directly; she always requested useful itemsclothes, shoes, household goods. And when it came to food, I always came back with bags full of groceries.
My mother lives in a threebedroom flat with Daniel. Our father died three years ago.
Daniel never cared about education. After school he went to work in Ireland, where the only thing he managed to buy was an old car. When he returned he became a taxi driver.
Later he married Emily and they moved into Moms flat.
They were constantly short of money because Daniel lived paycheck to paycheck. As soon as he and Emily got paid, they spent it almost immediately.
Both Mom and Emilys parents regularly sent them money. Daniel knew there was always someone ready to bail him out, so he never tried to increase his earnings or improve his finances.
Now Daniel and Emily have two children, with a third on the way.
They decided their mothers flat was too cramped and started looking for a place of their own.
I, meanwhile, live in a rented flat with my boyfriend Ryan. We plan to marry but want to wait for a better moment. Our incomes are steadyRyan is a software developer and I run several online stores.
We avoid unnecessary expenses and are saving for our own home so that after the wedding well have a place of our own.
Mom knows about our plans, yet she still hinted to Daniel that he could ask me for money.
They want to buy a flat but have no downpayment, Mom told me.
When Daniel approached me and bluntly demanded the cash, I said no.
He was enraged, believing I owed him simply because he has a family and I dont.
Later Mom called again and said:
You have no conscience. Cant you see how hard it is for Daniel? Hes your brother, you could have helped him. You always think only about yourself.
She added:
Come and take your stuff from our flat. We cant move around with all your junk. Dont even think about coming for Christmas. Daniels angry with you, and I dont really want to see you either.
I didnt argue. Ill gather my things and store them in my rented flat, and when Ryan and I purchase our own house Ill move them there.
I could have lent Daniel the money, but I know he would never pay it back. He didnt even ask for a loanhe just expected me to hand over my savings because he has kids.
How would you handle a situation like this?
