“My husband and I could not get pregnant for 11 years. Even the help of doctors did not work. Because of this, quarrels and misunderstandings began between us, which ended in divorce.
It seemed to me that my life was over. However, suddenly for myself, I got married for the second time at the age of 40. After some time, another miracle happened: I became pregnant. At that time I was 43.
Of course, giving birth at that age was scary, but my husband supported me, saying that everything would be fine. He promised that we would overcome all difficulties together, but then no one knew what was ahead of us.
In hospitals and antenatal clinics, everyone stared at me and wondered why I was giving birth so late. Everyone considered it necessary to ask where I was before. Is this how polite people behave? Do nurses even know anything about medical ethics?
People around me reproached me, although no one knew how long I dreamed of a child and how hard I got it.
But this is not the only thing that upset me. After all, caring for a newborn baby took even more energy and strength. In adulthood, it is much harder to cope with crying, sleepless nights and tantrums. There was no one to help, so I had to keep myself in hand.
But how can you stay in balance when even during walks everyone perceives you as a grandmother, not a mother? However, I resigned myself to the judgmental looks and jokes of other mothers in kindergarten and school.
Fortunately, now my daughter is 25 years old and my life has become much easier. We get along well and understand each other. However, the girl is in no hurry to get married and does not plan to give birth before thirty. She has self-realization and personal goals in the first place. I explain to her that I know from my own experience how difficult it is to be a mature mother. However, my daughter does not want to hear anything, and I do not know how to convince her.”
And what do you think, is it worth having a child after 40? What is your attitude to mature mothers? Do doctors have the right to condemn their choice?
